The Las Vegas leviathan is gone.

[BannedFromDU]

My condolences to Jeanette.  I don't have much that is kind to say about Kirk, so I won't say anything here.  Losing someone that is loved is hard.  It has to be even harder when it is because he chose suicide. 

The only thing I would tell the other DUmmies is that when we offer real advice, you would do well to take it.

    She chose to come here and make her case, and she's responded to retorts with courage, and that gets her a hi-five from me.

[Big Dog]

My suggestion is you take the Dog's anaysis and walk away. He is one of a small group of people on this board who actually read comments and respond with a degree of empathy and thought.

Don't give me more credit than I have earned. I am just a talking Dog, after all.

[Karin]

Jeanette, may God be with you in your time of mourning, and as you piece your life back together. 

I still wish you'd made him eat fish and vegetables instead of huge bowls of starch. 

Your first post was a vivid example why never to be dependent on the government.  They capriciously take $60 away from your food budget without a moments notice.  Please don't live like that as you go forward. 

[Carl]

blujay00,

My suggestion is you take the Dog's anaysis and walk away. He is one of a small group of people on this board who actually read comments and respond with a degree of empathy and thought.

Seriously, say your last bit and go. A longer stay might suggest you actually enjoy this level of abuse...

Buzzy,you pathetic sack of useless shit.
You took no part of any of the interactions here over the years but now are just a yellow back asswipe that pops in to try to agitate and then runs away.

Kirk at least tried to engage,you are nothing more then a hyena that can`t even answer questions put to him.
Your time here is drawing short.

[GOBUCKS]

Just as when she first showed up here two or three years ago, I'm not convinced that she and the LVL aren't one and the same. Writing styles are identical.

Has anyone seen an obit?

He could be somewhere frolicking with the round red sodomite, living it up on DUmmybucks from the Andyscam.

Maybe that's why Skimmer's flunkies haven't updated the Dead DUmmy forum.

[obumazombie]

blujay00,

My suggestion is you take the Dog's anaysis and walk away. He is one of a small group of people on this board who actually read comments and respond with a degree of empathy and thought.

Seriously, say your last bit and go. A longer stay might suggest you actually enjoy this level of abuse...

You don't know a thing about empathy.
But you do know a lot about what you are expert at...enabling.
You cloak your enabling in empathy.
It's truly despicable.
Don't talk about Big Dog.
You aren't fit to carry his jockstrap.

[bluja000]

As I figured, people have chosen to say that, essentially, I'm still just making excuses.  Whether you want to see it that way or not, it's ok.  Kirk is gone, and I will be moving on with my life.  And of course, as one last slap in the face, I get the old accusation that I can't possibly be my own individual, I have to be Kirk hiding under a screen name.  That's fine.  If you honestly can't accept that he's dead, then there's nothing further I can say.

Whether I'm angry at anyone, or not, I still have to go into the future without Kirk.  Whether that means that I live a better one, well, it's going to take actually living it to determine that as I go along.  I miss him so much, and I don't expect that to ever truly go away.  I don't care if you respect(ed) him, or if you respect me.  To be honest, that's not going to make one iota of difference to me as I go forward in life.  I know I have to respect myself.  Being told to look in the mirror, and accepting blame where blame is due, sure, I can do that.  There are actually some useful things that I will take with me as I leave this thread.  There have been discussions that, strange as it may sound, I do value.  I don't value being told my husband committed suicide.  Or that (early on) he may cause a building to go up in flames.  Oh, and the gem about how his fat should be rendered down.  There are hateful things said here that had no need to be said, but it has been quite a ride.

I do respect some of you, to a degree.  There are some who have been able to discuss things in a calm and thoughtful manner.  Yes, I may not have found the topic pleasant, or the words valid.  But at least you didn't jump on the GOBUCKS bandwagen and dismiss me entirely.  Rather than retail therapy, shopping to deal with my issues, I've found this to be a form of therapy.  It was interesting to hear what some of you had to say.  And I hope that someday, you will learn to leave Kirk alone.  However, as I've mentioned before, he's dead, so can't truly be hurt by anything further you may have to say.  So, keep on keeping.

Oh, and I guess the information about the computer job isn't forthcoming?

Thought not.  I'm not good enough for it, I guess.  I'll leave you folks to rehash the same information, I have a move to work on.

[txradioguy]

Yes, bluja000, listen to Carl. He reads a bulletin board, so he knows everything there is to know about everything. You don't even have to ask. He will tell, without invitation and without verification, how superior he is and how inferior you are.

And, if you ever dare challenge him about his knowledge (you know, stuff like "my husband never abused me"), he will call you a liar and will be cheered by all others who post here.

Shut up dumb ass. The adults are having a conversation.

[txradioguy]

blujay00,

My suggestion is you take the Dog's anaysis and walk away. He is one of a small group of people on this board who actually read comments and respond with a degree of empathy and thought.

Seriously, say your last bit and go. A longer stay might suggest you actually enjoy this level of abuse...

You're high again aren't you Bob?

[Tess Anderson]

^ Bob? Try Paul.

http://nevada-lost-money.org/data/370+E+HARMON+AVE+APT+M+311+LAS+VEGAS,+NV,+89109/TUMINARO+JEANETTE/61820784.html

Jeanette, you should have never returned here but you just couldn't help yourself and this is not any sort of beneficial therapy for you at all. What you really should do but you never will is to make a clean break now to break this demoralizing cycle you are in - don't you have any friends or family to turn to, preferably miles away from Las Vegas?

Jeanette Tuminaro
June 11 at 9:54am ·
Well, I think it's official. Kirk Whole-Food Plant-Based Tuminaro has been dead a week and several hours, based upon the coroners reported time of death of approximately 4:25am. Of course, that was about 3 1/2 hours after I found him. I tried to stay up last night, but couldn't, so I slept through the time until just a few minutes ago.

As kind as Joe is for offering to let me stay with him, it's going to be hard to deal with him. He doesn't properly bathe or shower, instead he uses cologne and related to bathe in instead. He apparetnly does use the bath, but not in any true bathing sense of the word, and this was the case years ago when he was a roommate. I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to change that, and even if I will be able to. I do, however, plan on introducing natural scents, such as boiling orange peels and cinnamon sticks, so that it helps cut the odor in the small 450 sq ft studio apartment that I will be sharing with him.

Does anyone have any suggestions for dealing with a few emotionally unstable person, who is very stubborn and honestly doesn't realize he smells??? I don't want to hurt his feelings. I'm not worried that he would kick me out, but I do worry that he would end up extremely depressed and unwilling to listen, if I weren't able to find the right way to address this. I'm wondering if I shouldn't talk to his doctor during one of his rare visits and ask if a social worker can't come visit, since I no longer have access to a social worker on Kirks behalf.

repeat, rinse and vomit but you'll get defensive again I'm sure.

[Big Dog]

Jeanette Tuminaro
June 11 at 9:54am ·
Well, I think it's official. Kirk Whole-Food Plant-Based Tuminaro has been dead a week and several hours, based upon the coroners reported time of death of approximately 4:25am. Of course, that was about 3 1/2 hours after I found him. I tried to stay up last night, but couldn't, so I slept through the time until just a few minutes ago.

As kind as Joe is for offering to let me stay with him, it's going to be hard to deal with him. He doesn't properly bathe or shower, instead he uses cologne and related to bathe in instead. He apparetnly does use the bath, but not in any true bathing sense of the word, and this was the case years ago when he was a roommate. I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to change that, and even if I will be able to. I do, however, plan on introducing natural scents, such as boiling orange peels and cinnamon sticks, so that it helps cut the odor in the small 450 sq ft studio apartment that I will be sharing with him.

Does anyone have any suggestions for dealing with a few emotionally unstable person, who is very stubborn and honestly doesn't realize he smells??? I don't want to hurt his feelings. I'm not worried that he would kick me out, but I do worry that he would end up extremely depressed and unwilling to listen, if I weren't able to find the right way to address this. I'm wondering if I shouldn't talk to his doctor during one of his rare visits and ask if a social worker can't come visit, since I no longer have access to a social worker on Kirks behalf.

Oh, good God, Jeanette. You traded one co-dependent loser for another.

So much for your last shred of self-respect.

[BannedFromDU]

     Jeanette - please log off and seek the help of a professional. People like Buzz Clik just want to shit on everything and then run and hide. Our advice antagonizes you. If you want to live a true, authentic, happy life of dignity and self-worth, please log off and seek some help. There are people who can and will help you. Surely you would like better for yourself. I wish you well.

[SSG Snuggle Bunny]

Strength is yours for the taking.

[Carl]

Is this the co-inhabitant from back in the day,the gay friend that you also waited on?

Please seek some professional help Jeanette,really do mean that and not in any sort of disparaging way.

Buzzy,you have proved yourself to be a typical DUmp shitstain,you don`t care a bit about her but just wanted to stir a pot which you had no idea of the details.

**** you. 

[I_B_Perky]

Carl, you seem to be a fairly reasoned person, and I have nothing personal against you.  Or, in fact, anyone in this thread.  However, please don't tell me that this forum is not without it's faults.  I can go back to the first page of this thread and bring up the instances of people talking about my husband committing suicide, or how he may cause the crematorium to catch fire, just to name a couple examples of the hate expressed here. So please, don't try to blame DU for all of the hate, because just doing a search through your forums for LVL shows just a small sample of hatred directed at people who are not welcome on your forums.  Your group seems to thrive on hatred for those who need help.  And honestly, that makes me think of something that's been attributed to Jesus.  I seem to remember something about helping those who need help.  I don't remember it well, and I have probably mangled it beyond recognition.  I apologize if that's the case.  And as for honor, go back to page one of this thread.  Very little honor to be had in what was said.

Jeanette... since I was the one that first said that, I want to you to know I was not making fun of Kirk's obesity. Far from it. And it was not HATE!  The denizens of the dump equate everything they do not like with "hate". It ain't hate if it is the truth.

What I really meant, and I think Frank understood, was that it would be a hard blow to someone that lost a loved one and to have the crematorium catch on fire when rendering the body to ashes. Yes that has happened before and I posted two examples. It would be on par with the funeral home losing a body or the casket falling out of the hearse on a highway.

I have made fun of Kirks posts on the dump from time to time, just as I do most of the dump denizens. It did not mean I hated him.  It just means that sometimes he said the stupidest things on a public forum and I publicly made fun of it. If he didn't want to be publicly made fun of, he should not have posted his thoughts for all to see at the Dump. Again, this is not hate, it is simply the truth.

Kirk came over here one time and I treated him with nothing but respect. I even complimented him on his sense of humor. I think you will find most people here are way more compassionate than you give them credit for. For real hatred, just read the dump.

I was sincere in my condolences to you on your loss and I was sincere when I said RIP Kirk. Now please take some advice. Do not peruse this board anymore. It will only cause you more grief. Give yourself time to heal and get over your loss before you come back.

5 cents please  This one is free.

[landofconfusion80]

here's a list of therapists in your area.  maybe they can help break the cycle of self destruction that you seem to be hurtling through:


https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/state/NV/Las+Vegas.html

[franksolich]

Jeanette unfortunately's the textbook example of why franksolich has given up on "helping" women being used, misused, and abused, by men.

I used to be real gung-ho about this, because real men don't use, misuse, or abuse women.

But any more, one gets the impression she's asking for it, she wants it.

So.....what is one to do, other than just simply walk away?

[dutch508]

Love is a ****ed up thing. Men and women will stay in a relationship even tho it is killing them.

Now, personally, I don't give a shit about Kirk. He died. It happens. If he was a complete tool or if he was the second coming of Ghandi I would care just about the same.

As for Jeanne, I don't wish anyone had to deal with losing a significant other... and that's where my give a shit factor stops.

Kirk came on here a couple of times. Like most DUmpmonkies he got his ass handed to him and he went away. Now Jeanne is on here bemoaning the fact some people made fun of Kirk.

Jeanne... and I say this with any small sense of caring I can pretend to show- Why do you care?
Who cares what someone might have said about Kirk. If you knew him and loved him then the rest don't matter. Go home and grieve. Then move on. Life is too short to give a flying **** what other people say.

The ****s. They shall not be given this day or anyday.

[I_B_Perky]

Jeanette unfortunately's the textbook example of why franksolich has given up on "helping" women being used, misused, and abused, by men.

I used to be real gung-ho about this, because real men don't use, misuse, or abuse women.

But any more, one gets the impression she's asking for it, she wants it.

So.....what is one to do, other than just simply walk away?

Send them to DU?   

[GOBUCKS]

Kirk Whole-Food Plant-Based Tuminaro has been dead a week

That's some middle name the LVL adopted!

Sounds like a politician here in red state hell, Byron Low Tax Looper, who legally changed his name as a campaign strategy.

(That, plus he shot his opponent in the head, killing him.)

[SSG Snuggle Bunny]

So.....what is one to do, other than just simply walk away?

Hence my advice.

Strength is there for the taking. The mere act itself is liberating and it is not, by definition, a thing that can be provided by others.

So of the subject will not take what is freely theirs what shall the rest of us do?

Not cry, is my suggestion.

[Bad Dog]

(That, plus he shot his opponent in the head, killing him.)

One of LBJ's favorite tactics.  Possibly the Clintons too.

[Skul]

RIP, Kirk.

[GOBUCKS]

Good grief, now she's moving in with old Joe, the former roommate:

As kind as Joe is for offering to let me stay with him, it's going to be hard to deal with him. He doesn't properly bathe or shower, instead he uses cologne and related to bathe in instead. He apparetnly does use the bath, but not in any true bathing sense of the word, and this was the case years ago when he was a roommate. I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to change that, and even if I will be able to. I do, however, plan on introducing natural scents, such as boiling orange peels and cinnamon sticks, so that it helps cut the odor in the small 450 sq ft studio apartment that I will be sharing with him.

Does anyone have any suggestions for dealing with a few emotionally unstable person,

Talk about emotionally unstable!!

She's as crazy as the late lamented LVL.

Finally free from one leech, ready to start with another.

[RobJohnson]

I'm sorry, I'm not sure how to respond.  First, I truly appreciate the condolences that some of you have expressed toward me with the death of my husband.  However, it truly saddens me when I read so many comments full of hate.  Calling his death a suicide, saying that he deserved every bit of pain and injury he sustained, that it was entirely his fault that he was on disability.

Comments like the one I quoted.  Sorry, we had what?  Free food?  Ok, we received a monthly food stamp allowance that totaled $103.

<Snip to remove the liberal dribble>
 

No matter what the amount, it was still free to you, paid for by the hardworking taxpayers. If that was your EBT benefit, that simply proves that your monthly income was much higher then most, even when not working.

I won't bore everyone by posting the EBT charts for the State of Nevada.

Here's the deal. Any sympathy I previously held for you I now retract bluja000. You are just as bad as your dead husband, if not worse. Excuse after excuse, when I actually know how things work.

We have a well known guideline here and we never expect anyone from DU to tell the truth, and this includes you. So you cry about not having enough food, yet were too lazy to fill out the utility assistance paperwork? Your entire post is full of excuses.

I love how you continue to claim "we were better off with me not working."