My 19 year old has personal paralysis...

[Lauri]

annabanana  Donating Member  (1000+ posts) Journal  Click to send private message to this author  Click to view this author's profile  Click to add this author to your buddy list  Click to add this author to your Ignore list      Wed May-21-08 04:43 PM
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My 19 year old has personal paralysis...

He sank into a slump during the second semester at college.. couldn't keep up his grades (despite being Honor Society in HS).. So we let him take a leave of absence that will hold his spot until the Spring semester of 2010.

He said he was interested in the Peace Corp... But he found out you have to finish school before they'd take him. Then I found out about AmeriCorp NCCC.. (which sounded great to me, and I thought to him).. He got in an application and started having second thoughts...

Now he claims that Vista was "all my idea" and that he didn't really want to do that.

So, until he starts his summer job (clerical) he's knee deep in his video games.

Now all this would be less troublesome if he ever left the house, or had any kids he socialized with (offline).

He's a very smart, intuitive kid. Kind hearted. Clever & quick witted..But I have images of him in his 40's.. still in his room while me & his dad feed & clothe him...

Is this kind of inertia normal, or at least not uncommon in a kid this age?

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x7755734

of course, the first few posters just know its depression... it couldnt be that living with a moonbat has made the kid give up? what is there to look forward to in a DUers life? Bush has single handedly ended the world, and we will never recover (unless obama saves us)

so why should the kid better himself? McCain is going to steal it all anyway.. 

[Rebel]

So DUmmie, your task of creating a DUmmie is complete. All of that indoctrination about how everyone is out to get you, how the rich are evil, how this country sucks, has now paid off. Great Job!

[BEG]

My 19 year old just finished his first year of college and just came home for the summer.  He has offered to paint the house (both inside and out) and already has done several other projects for us.  Today he called my Mom and asked for things he could do for her as well.  He has an active social life with friends that are REAL, not online.  He is looking forward to his future and even got some more scholarships all on his own, with out us prodding him. 

So....what do you think you have done wrong annabanana?   

[jinxmchue]

"personal paralysis?"

As opposed to paralysis you give to others? 

[Lord Undies]

"personal paralysis?"

As opposed to paralysis you give to others? 

I don't know why, but I thought it was going to be about how the kid couldn't get it up.   

[BEG]

"personal paralysis?"

As opposed to paralysis you give to others? 

I don't know why, but I thought it was going to be about how the kid couldn't get it up.   

LOL that was pretty funny. 

[Mr Mannn]

OK, so he got depressed, and mom let him drop outa college and all he does now is play video games.

Poor emo kid.
Seriously he's got it made. No responsibilities. Liberal parents who give him everything with no thought to the consequences.

My Mom would have kicked me out of the house. Depressed or not, if I wasn't in college I would be working a job.

Learn this lesson. DU lib parents raise mentally crippled kids.

[Sonnabend]

My wife refers to this as "constitutional inertia"..otherwise known as "wont get off his ass" 

[BlueStateSaint]

My wife refers to this as "constitutional inertia"..otherwise known as "wont get off his ass" 

Hmmm . . . I like that term, Sonna.  'Course, it could mean so many other things to DUmb****s . . .

[miskie]

Your answer lies somewhere in that picture, DUmbass.

[Taxman]

The best way to cure that paralysis is a good boot to the ass, maybe not literally but if that were my kid, he would find out rather soon that food is not free and there is no thing as free rent.  I think his personal paralysis might suddenly go away. 

[Tucker]

Sounds to me like the kid needs to enlist in the military. He needs a little order and discipline in his life right now.

[JohnnyReb]

I once had "personal paralysis" myself.

I was 22 years old, honarably discharge from the military, owned a new car that was paid for, had money in the bank and came home to stay with mom & dad. I didn't think I needed to work for awhile, you know, kind of an "unwind thing". Oh, I had chores to do on the farm to pay my room and board, that was understood without it even being discussed. So, I was whiling away my not so full days and nights catching up with friends and the local gossip etc. after my chores were done of course. My Daddy didn't approve of me 'laying around the house' (his idea if your day wasn't full of work, not mine). So he tells me, "If you're going to stay here, you got to get out and find a job. You ain't staying here and not work." So I went to a couple of places (big industry) that I knew weren't hiring, that wasn't good enough......LOL The old man wasn't known for being dumb.

One afternoon he comes home from work and says, "You got a job yet?" Me, "No Sir." Daddy says, "Get in the car." You didn't argue with my daddy so I got in the car. I ask, "Where we going?" Daddy says, "To get you a job." Me, "I don't need a job. I got money." Daddy says, "Don't argue with me. You need a job." We pull up in a fellows yard that I've known all my life and he's standing in the yard. He's a contractor and was known as a real slave driver. Daddy asks, "Need any help?" ....thus began the damnest job interview you ever heard. Man answers, "Yeah, I can always use some help. Why, you looking for a job?" Daddy answers, "No. But "Bo" is." I blurt out, "I'm not looking for a job." Man asks daddy, "What can he do." Daddy says, "Anything you need done." I blurt out, "I don't need a job." Man asks daddy, "When can he start?" Daddy says, "First thing in the morning." I interject again, "I don't want a job." Man tells daddy, "Tell him to be here at 6:30 in the morning." Daddy says, "He'll be here." Me again, "....but I don't want a job." Needless to say, I was there the next morning before 6:30 thus ending my one and only foray into "personal paralysis". .......but then, that was back when parents were parents and they didn't think you were fully grown up until you were 40 or they were dead, whichever came first.

[franksolich]

Damn, JohnnyReb, you're good.

[JohnnyReb]

Damn, JohnnyReb, you're good.

Thank you. ....but it's every word the truth.

I see that mans son every once in awhile now. And even though it's been 40 years ago, he still laughs about that.   

[Splashdown]

On a related note, a parent came to me during one of our PTA meetings and told me her son had "work aversion disorder."

Are you frickin' kidding me? There's a disease called "work aversion disorder"? You mean a 17-year-old doesn't want to do required reading, write essays, and study for quizzes? And it's a disorder?

My response to her?

"Who doesn't"?

 

[JohnnyReb]

On a related note, a parent came to me during one of our PTA meetings and told me her son had "work aversion disorder."

Are you frickin' kidding me? There's a disease called "work aversion disorder"? You mean a 17-year-old doesn't want to do required reading, write essays, and study for quizzes? And it's a disorder?

My response to her?

"Who doesn't"?

 

Yeah. It's been around for a long time. People used to starve to death from it but thanks to liberalism, they found a cure or at least a life prolonging remedy, it's called "Welfare and foodstamps".

[FlaGator]

I'm no doctor but at his age I would be concerned that his parents may be witnessing the onset of schizophrenia. It usually begins around college age and generally takes between 5 to 10 years  to totally take over a person. My brother started showing the signs of schizophrenia around the age of 20 and by the time he hit 25 he was suffering from delusions and auditory hallicinations. Unfortunately there isn't much hope to circumvent the illness. If he can get diagnosed and if the disease is present then he needs to start treatment ASAP. That would give him a chance at a somewhat normal life. Denial will only make things much worse.

[BEG]

I once had "personal paralysis" myself.

I was 22 years old, honarably discharge from the military, owned a new car that was paid for, had money in the bank and came home to stay with mom & dad. I didn't think I needed to work for awhile, you know, kind of an "unwind thing". Oh, I had chores to do on the farm to pay my room and board, that was understood without it even being discussed. So, I was whiling away my not so full days and nights catching up with friends and the local gossip etc. after my chores were done of course. My Daddy didn't approve of me 'laying around the house' (his idea if your day wasn't full of work, not mine). So he tells me, "If you're going to stay here, you got to get out and find a job. You ain't staying here and not work." So I went to a couple of places (big industry) that I knew weren't hiring, that wasn't good enough......LOL The old man wasn't known for being dumb.

One afternoon he comes home from work and says, "You got a job yet?" Me, "No Sir." Daddy says, "Get in the car." You didn't argue with my daddy so I got in the car. I ask, "Where we going?" Daddy says, "To get you a job." Me, "I don't need a job. I got money." Daddy says, "Don't argue with me. You need a job." We pull up in a fellows yard that I've known all my life and he's standing in the yard. He's a contractor and was known as a real slave driver. Daddy asks, "Need any help?" ....thus began the damnest job interview you ever heard. Man answers, "Yeah, I can always use some help. Why, you looking for a job?" Daddy answers, "No. But "Bo" is." I blurt out, "I'm not looking for a job." Man asks daddy, "What can he do." Daddy says, "Anything you need done." I blurt out, "I don't need a job." Man asks daddy, "When can he start?" Daddy says, "First thing in the morning." I interject again, "I don't want a job." Man tells daddy, "Tell him to be here at 6:30 in the morning." Daddy says, "He'll be here." Me again, "....but I don't want a job." Needless to say, I was there the next morning before 6:30 thus ending my one and only foray into "personal paralysis". .......but then, that was back when parents were parents and they didn't think you were fully grown up until you were 40 or they were dead, whichever came first.

Hi-5 for you! 

[Taxman]

On a related note, a parent came to me during one of our PTA meetings and told me her son had "work aversion disorder."

Are you frickin' kidding me? There's a disease called "work aversion disorder"? You mean a 17-year-old doesn't want to do required reading, write essays, and study for quizzes? And it's a disorder?

My response to her?

"Who doesn't"?

 

PC speak for laziness.   

[Texacon]

DUmmies never learn.  THIS is exactly why most conservatives don't agree with lots of social programs.  There are far too many on the dole who have 'personal paralysis'.  We call it LAZY where I grew up and it can become epidemic if you let it.

KC

[Texacon]

And DUmmies, please learn this; Without motivation the lazy only get worse.  It is like a disease.  The more you feed it the worse it gets.

Kick out your lazy kid and tell them they are on their own.  There is no more serious motivation than the prospect of sleeping on the streets.  You will either find out you have a professional homeless person on your hands or a highly motivated young person who can survive on their own.

KC

[DixieBelle]

H5 Johnny! I think our dads may be related. My brother went through a phase of "don'tgiveadamnitis" Dad cured him real fast.

I was once out of work at 20 and kind of floundering. I was going through that typical stage most kids go through. I ended up taking a semester off from college and moving in with my dad and stepmom. He woke me up the first day at 6am and told me that until I got a job, my job was to find a job. He took me down to the store, bought me a paper with the help wanted ads (before internet) and told me sit at the typewriter and make a resume (before personal computers). Then, I had to go down to the library (I had to walk) and photocopy it and mail them off. Dad asked to see the envelopes and ads everyday.

[Zafod Beeblebrox]

He's a very smart, intuitive kid. Kind hearted. Clever & quick witted..But I have images of him in his 40's.. still in his room while me & his dad feed & clothe him...

I have an idea, KICK HIS LAZY VIDEO GAMING LOOSER ASS OUT OF THE HOUSE!!!

I didnt live with my folks when I was 19.
I wasnt in college so I was asked to move out if I was not going to go to school.
It made me a better person and taught me how to live on my own.

[JohnnyReb]

[quote Kick out your lazy kid and tell them they are on their own.  There is no more serious motivation than the prospect of sleeping on the streets.  KC
[/quote]

That require them to be real parents and .....well liberals just can't do that.

Another funny one on me.

About a month before I was to marry, my daddy says, "You found a place to stay yet?" I answered him, "No Sir." He says, "Well where the hell you think you and your bride are going to stay?" I tell him, "Well, I kindda thought we'd stay with you and momma for a little while until I could save up some more money." He says, "You get the hell out of here and go find a place today. The kitchen ain't big enough for 2 women." I had a 2 room garage apartment before the sun went down that day.

When I got married, I had a car, some clothes and an uncashed paycheck. That was just about it. Wife had what most wives have when they get married, a dress she'll only wear one time and some leftover wedding cake that they try to save forever. 3 weeks after the wedding and a couple days before Christmas, I quit my job. A week later I took what money I had and bought a lot. Then I borrowed money from my grandmother for a house and on newyears day, started digging the foundation. Remember now, I had no job and plus now I had a berzerk wife, also without a job. I picked up some odd jobs and worked on the house, all the while I never missed a payment. Then signed a bond for title and started making payments on 2 adjoining lots(short term notes). Then the bank suffered a lapse of good judgement and loaned me a wad so I could buy some heavy equipment and go into business. All this happened within the first 6 months of getting married so you know what kind of condition the wife was in.......LOL Her father would have killed me if he hadn't been in Viet Nam......LOL

Anyway, two and half years after starting from literally the very bottom, I had a new house, a new car, new pickup and a business, all paid for, free and clear. Then all the "You're never home", "We don't spend enough time together", "Money isn't everything", "There's more to life than material things" crap started. .....but years later she sure wanted more than her fair share of everything......LOL

Now I'm ALMOST broke enough to be a democrat but I sure am happy.......and she's miserable. (Just in case she's looking)