I rowed over to Skins' Island and read the thread. What a bunch of feel-good, plastic-banana, kum-bah-yah bullshit. In other words, exactly what I expected.
Listen up, lurking DUmmies, 'cuz I'm only gonna tell you once. The judicious application of violence has solved many more problems than hand-holding and chanting ever did. Stop expecting the government to bubble wrap each of us and protect us from harm. It won't happen, because it can't happen.
DUmmythought, including the delusion that there is a "society" as sentient, controlling, yet malleable meta-organism greater than the individual, is Lovecraftian madness. A creature such as you imagine does not exist.
The way to make it "less acceptable" to commit violence against anyone (not just wives or girlfriends), is for people to value themselves enough to fight for their own survival and safety, and for other members of society (using the proper application of the word) to respect everyone who protects himself/herself from harm.
Hyenas hunt lambs, not Lions and Lionesses. Grow some ****ing fangs, lurking DUmmies. Are you ready for that paradigm shift?