Sea one thing that got me a lot of dates even if I am quite plain and not so smart was to leave my baggage in storage until I had dated a guy for a year or so.
I cannot tell you the number of guys that all said the same thing, "You are the first woman I ever met that has no hard luck story, or got along with their family."
Be up beat, try to get the date to laugh and be fun to be around even if it is just over the internet.
Another thing, when a guy is into rock climbing or free falling, read up on their Hobie's
or take an interest if you can so you will know something about their passion.
Example, I met a rock hound and spending the weekend looking at freaking rocks was as fun for me as getting a pubic wax job.
But I began reading up on the passion of his and found myself fascinated with what I could learn from him. Much time was also spent in Boston in museums seeing the most amazing geodes and to this day I do wonder what the heck is inside that rock outside the door.
Unless you have an interesting passion most men cannot relate to you, but you can to them. One has to as a woman get a mans interest and unless you are into sky diving or drive a race car, sewing and reading are not tops on their list for interest.
Take them to interesting places they have never been to before either in person or E-mail.
After a first date, buy or rent a Jeep then invite him on a Jeep weekend where Jeep owners take their cars into impossible places, most fun a man can have without his dick in his hand.
Imagination is what runs a mans world, out of the blue take him to a strip club or a cat show. Do not tell him where you are going before you get there.
UNH has some fun things to go to that are free and the last place a man would think to go. Keep the guy wondering where the heck is by then, his girlfriend, going to take him to next week.
Get him to be able to tell his friends about where ever you spent the surprise weekend and what a crazy woman he was lucky to meet up with.
Important to not tell him where you are going until you get there and find he is at a rock concert or a stump pulling contest.