My family give what is needed, everything from a membership in AAA for a year to tooth brushes and tooth paste, under ware and school supplies for the rest of the year to the kids.
Some adults get certificates to pay for new tires and breaks, or a check to pay a couple months rent. I do not give the check to the adults as I send it to the landlord-----Need to know if the money is actually spent on rent.
I expect the adults with children to buy toys Etc for their own kids, I know after all these years if my kids need a new stove to buy it and have it sent to them from the store.------ Got burned one year, sent money to a family member to buy a washer and someone stole the money, or so they said.