Do you understand the point made though how this leftist push to redefine rape as almost anytime two people have sex trivializes the trauma of an actual brutal attack?
You know something odd? Women who are attacked by strangers generally recover emotionally faster. They generally have more support from friends and family, so don't blame themselves as much for trusting the wrong person, as is the case in acquaintance rape.
I am curious, though, what your definition of an "actual brutal attack" is. Of the FBI-classified types of rapists (
http://www1.csbsju.edu/uspp/crimpsych/CPSG-5.htm), power-reassurance rapists often try to make their victims as comfortable as possible and apologize for what they did. They are the most likely to be frightened off if the woman resists, and crying can often make them stop. Yet, they may still have (or pretend to have) a weapon and threaten to use it in a "Please, I don't want to have to use this..." type way. They may even try to make the woman's body enjoy the attack.
Is that still an actual brutal attack, or does it have to be a power-assertive or an anger rapist? I imagine your answer is that yes, it's an actual brutal attack, given that these are generally also stalkers who pre-select their victims, but *she* may or may not know them.
What about this? (As I said, I'm not talking about myself in any of these examples anymore, these are just hypotheticals). Guy fools around with girl. Girl says she doesn't want to go any further (before penetration). The guy maybe had a drink that night, and was a little angry -- he'd just taken her out to dinner for the sixth time, for goodness's sake! A prostitute would be cheaper! He starts to guilt-trip her, cajole, beg, plead, complain about pain....
There's one of two outcomes on the girl's end -- hold to her "No", or to reluctantly give in out of guilt.
And the guy can respond one of two ways to her "No" -- he can either deal with BBs, or he could force her.
If he forces her, I hope you consider that an actual brutal attack, even if he may not use a weapon other than the fact of his own physical strength and the fact they may already be naked.
But is verbal coercion *right*? Not rape, but is it *right* to do, whether she gives in or not? Wouldn't it be better to teach both genders that it's much more fun when both parties want it, otherwise you are pretty much (sorry to be gross) masturbating with another human being instead of your hand?