I don't know...what...do you have a point?
Well, honestly, it irritated me that there was victim-blaming in this own thread, where there had also been death threats against the guy.
If a rapist is worthy of death, yet people will still blame the victim for choosing to go down the "wrong" jogging path... that's a dichotomy that I don't get.
Something went very wrong in this child's upbringing, or maybe he was just wired wrong, and while he might not have listened to the things I would tell a son if I had one any more than he did to "Don't rape and kill your teacher".... boys and girls both need to be educated about the realities of rape.
We do a pretty good job with girls, trying to teach them that they can't drink like the boys, and that it's better to call the campus safe ride program instead of stay the night when you're blotto (I just wasn't a college student). Self-defense classes. Guns, for those who haven't had mental health issues to the point they shouldn't own one (and if I was going to drink I wouldn't have carried the one I owned anyway).
But I knew this man's mother. I could not look her in the eye after it happened, because I knew she knew me well enough that she would realize I couldn't be lying... and have to face that somehow, her son was a rapist, and blame herself. And she was a single mom, etc, etc. I knew she had a good heart.
But I do think that by letting society keep teaching that boys can't control their sex drive (and usually they start deadfishing long before getting to sex if they're not into it, I'm referring to that as reluctance not rape -- and that convincing a woman to have sex after she's said no many times is probably not going to be very fun sex either, and while maybe not rape, is certainly coercion that is dirty pool at the very least), that it's only his pleasure that should matter, that only the absence of "no" matters, and the suggestion that a man cannot pull out when withdrawal has been a method of contraception used by many couples who are okay with the possibility of becoming preggers but just aren't trying), are all creating a very dangerous situation for boys and girls alike.
For the girls, there's the obvious reasons. For the guys, though... there are some really screwed up women out there. There ARE women who will report out of revenge or regret. There are girls who will not accept the responsibility for the fact they drank and blacked out. If I'd been blacked out and people told me I was all over the guy (the other friend left before anything happened and all he said was that I was still asleep on the couch when he left), I'd have been kicking my own ass for a really stupid decision, but not crying rape. Some women aren't like that. Their friends might not like your sons and lie to the girl and tell her she was passed out, even.
If, as a man, you don't screw drunk chicks and you think of her pleasure as well as your own, you'll be a smart man, and a gentle man. And not get falsely accused of rape.
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Edit was for grammar fail.