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Bull.  Complete total fabrication.  This is not the way teenagers speak to each other.  This is adult trying to sound like what they think teenagers would say and failing.


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BTW my daughter is on the pill, low dose, to prevent acne. Doctors orders.

No one has called her a slut. If they did, I'd make them pound sand, with their face.
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BTW my daughter is on the pill, low dose, to prevent acne. Doctors orders.

No one has called her a slut. If they did, I'd make them pound sand, with their face.

She probably hasn't told all her little girlfriends, nor the not so friends.

Ever since Accutane was taken off of the market, dermatologists have tried to find something that works without the bad side effects.

My skin was great when I was on the pill. Went to hell in a hand basket after the first ovary was removed and I finally went on Accutane at 35 when nothing else would work. My daughter was on it at 14.

I took my daughter to the GYN before she started college, to go on the pill. For 2 reasons. One she had the wicked periods that were getting progressively worse. And I wanted to make sure if she "took stupid",  got drunk or someone slipped her a roofie, she at least wouldn't get pregnant. I also thought it would be better to be proactive and be on the pill than to have to make a decision what to do if she did get pregnant. She had just turned 18.
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If its a skin issue I would advise checking out the natural benefits of coconut oil and tea tree. One of my favorite things about our Drs they don't automatically pull out the RX pad.
If its just a loose girl issue, I advise not opening your legs to everyone that says I love you.

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I think many of us are missing the big picture.

If someone told me the following with a straight face,

I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"

...I would be APPALLED that she was not raising her daughter with any morals in the first place. There is NO WAY that my daughter, or the daughter of any man I know who is actively raising her, would even have to consider THINKING that. And if she is actually taking BC because of an actual, non-sexually related medical condition, she would be intelligent enough to know how to communicate that particular medication to others (if it's their business in the first place).

Bottom line: Her daughter is either a slut like Sandra Fluke, or she's ignorant just like her parents. The parent is mostly at fault here.
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My daughter is now on BC to control diagnosed PMDD. We waited until after she turned 18, to see if it would "straighten out" on its own. I'm really concerned that these girls are on BC so very young, while their bodies are still trying to mature. There are consequences to long term hormone pills, sometimes including infertility (as happened to one of my friends whose parents put her on BC pills at 14).

I just asked my daughter if anything like this has happened at her school. She informed me she was one of the last of the girls she knows to go on the pill, but no one really cares. They know who the sluts are and it's not because they take the pill.

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My daughter, who is a senior, said this weekend that there are at least four girls in one of her classes that are obviously pregnant.  I asked if they were treated any differently and she said no, no one seems to care. On one hand I'm glad the girls aren't treated as outcasts, on the other hand it says a lot about our society that no one seems to think its a big deal.

I have stressed to my girls (and my son) that they only have ONE first time. You can't take it back, there are no "do-overs". They are worth more than some guy's (or girl, in the case of my son) good time.  I have always used the way my husband treats me as an example of how they should expect to be treated (or the way to treat someone in the case of my son) and NEVER accept anything less.


Exactly.  And I tell my kids the only 100% sure fire way to not get (or get someone) pregnant is to not have sex.

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Exactly.  And I tell my kids the only 100% sure fire way to not get (or get someone) pregnant is to not have sex.


Agree! We have made it clear our preference is that our children wait until they find "the one." Seems the sex-ed courses the schools teach forget that part.

My daughter's best friend since 8th grade had a baby over Christmas break. She very obviously pregnant all of fall semester and is now back to finish her senior year. This particular young lady is a 4.0 student, who had been accepted to Duke University, but now thinks she can't attend college because of the baby. Her parents have kicked her out and she and the baby are living with her boyfriend's family. Now the poor girl thinks I hate her because she got pregnant. (This is not at all the case. I'm just disappointed) As you said, it only takes once.

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My daughter is now on BC to control diagnosed PMDD. We waited until after she turned 18, to see if it would "straighten out" on its own. I'm really concerned that these girls are on BC so very young, while their bodies are still trying to mature. There are consequences to long term hormone pills, sometimes including infertility (as happened to one of my friends whose parents put her on BC pills at 14).

I just asked my daughter if anything like this has happened at her school. She informed me she was one of the last of the girls she knows to go on the pill, but no one really cares. They know who the sluts are and it's not because they take the pill.

Your reasoning was the same as mine, for my daughter, on the body maturity thing and also on the long-term consequences of being on the pill. Having gone through the "wait and see if it gets better" ordeal myself, I was pretty sure, that wasn't going to happen with her.

I didn't go off of it by choice, but because other issues were starting to happen, which forced me to go off of it. Also, my GYN was concerned that if I stayed on it much longer, I might not be able to get pregnant at all.

I didn't want that to happen to my daughter. It's also much easier to miss a class or two in HS than it is in college.


I really don't think whether a girl is on the pill or not, is going to make that much difference as to whether or not she has sex in middle school or high school.

What's going to make the difference in how long she waits....is how much her parents have tried to guide her into becoming a responsible adult learning to make the right choices, and how much they have taught her to respect herself and her body.   
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I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
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................. We sat down on the couch and she just cried for what seemed like forever. I held her and cried with her and said more things that I just can't remember now!

Way to show her strength there. But at least you didn't have some verbatim conversation with her.

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Finally I got her calmed down enough to tell me the story from the beginning. The note was in her locker when she opened it before her first class. She was so upset that she went to her teacher in first period and asked to be excused to go to the bathroom. She said for first and second period she tried not to be too upset- she cried a little bit but was just trying to figure out who would leave such a piece of trash in her locker. By third period, she had shown the note to a couple of her friends and they were so helpful, trying to play detective and at the same time telling her she should just ignore the stupid people! She managed to get through a math quiz and Spanish test and headed off to lunch in a pretty solid frame of mind.

Honestly, this just wouldn't happen unless there are extenuating circumstances we don't know about. Nobody cares. There are enough girls using birth control that it's really no big deal (it wasn't when I was in high school and that was in the late 70's.

Either this girl has been bragging about being on the pill to anyone who will listen or she really does get around. Maybe she's one of those arrogant liberals like her mother who thinks she knows everything and tells everyone else what to think. Maybe she brags about how smart she is or does something else that puts people off. Granted, bullies can be mean and there are some people who, it seems, are bullied all the way through school and that may be the case here. They'd find something to harass her about anyway.

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And that's when it really fell apart; apparently, the girls from the day before were the authors of the note. They lined up behind my daughter to get their lunch tray and started in on her. "Birth control whore", "I told my mom you were on the pill and she said you were nothing but a little tramp" "My mom said some guy she listens to on the radio was just talking about girls like you- he even said you were a slut!" "Yeah, my mom said the same thing, said it's about time people spoke up and weren't afraid to tell the truth"! They laughed, they harassed, they said so many things my daughter couldn't begin to remember it all- she walked back to her table without food and told her friends what was going on. She cried through lunch and through the rest of the day. She said she almost went to the office to call me to come get her but she was trying to be strong and not let them win!

This simply doesn't ring true. Mom wouldn't say "some guy she listens to" nor would the daughter. My sons knew who I listened to simply because I'd bring up something he said every now and then. Discussions with my teenagers about current events & sharing opinions is one of the most rewarding things about parenting teens. It also gives you a chance to keep discussing values.

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The last class of the day, however, was the final straw- it's her history class and 2 of these little monsters are in the class with her. They start the class off by talking about current events. One of the little witches brought up Rush Limbaugh and the (male) teacher said that he was an American Icon- sometimes he says things that can be construed as insensitive but overall, he was one of the few people left in today's media who was not afraid to speak the truth! The girls began to laugh and the conversation apparently changed. I don't think the teacher had any clue as to what was going on. My daughter said the rest of the class was just a blur- when the bell rang, she ran to her locker and down to the bathroom.

If this is true he's one of the handful of conservative teachers in the country but I highly doubt he'd let this kind of harassment go on in his classroom. Besides, the teacher is exactly right about Rush. However, if this really happened why didn't your daughter tell them to shut the hell up and MYOB?

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I asked my daughter how these girls found out about her being on birth control. It had to have come from someone on the trip, but we have no idea who. It doesn't matter, really, I just would like to know. My daughter looked at me so innocent, so very sad and asked me "Am I a slut because I take a prescription birth control pill? I don't take it because I am having sex, I take it to help my periods- am I a bad person, Mom?"

AM I A BAD PERSON? My 16 year old daughter asked me if she was a bad person because she is on the pill! Who are we? What century do we live in? Who in the hell has the right to say these things? Who does Rush Limbaugh think he is? Why is he allowed to say these things and hurt people? Why have I spent the last 2 days trying to convince my 16 year old that she is not a slut?


Well somewhere along the line, IF this is even true, your daughter had to tell someone who somehow managed to let the only 3 or 4 girls in the entire school who would care about her taking birth control pills and are also mean. Also, how is it possible for a 16 year old to be this naive? Seriously, she's 16! I'd expect this kind of thing from a 12 year old but by 16 she should have the maturity to know taking birth control pills for her complexion doesn't make her a "bad person" even if some bullies said she is.

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On Monday, I am going to my child's high school and meeting with her counselor and principal. I don't yet know what I am going to say but I know this- nothing is going to take away the pain my daughter felt, the humiliation she felt, the indignation she felt. Nothing will make this all O.K., nothing will take us back to before this all happened. As a parent, you want to protect your child from hurt and pain. I didn't protect my child from this- I can only try to make sure that she suffers no more at the hands of these little witches. Or ignorant assholes like Rush Limbaugh.

the rest:
http://www.dailykos.com/s...s-not-a-slut-?via=siderec

Of course, it could simply be that the girl made out with a hot dog or she has a fat ass:
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She probably hasn't told all her little girlfriends, nor the not so friends.

Ever since Accutane was taken off of the market, dermatologists have tried to find something that works without the bad side effects.

My skin was great when I was on the pill. Went to hell in a hand basket after the first ovary was removed and I finally went on Accutane at 35 when nothing else would work. My daughter was on it at 14.

I took my daughter to the GYN before she started college, to go on the pill. For 2 reasons. One she had the wicked periods that were getting progressively worse. And I wanted to make sure if she "took stupid",  got drunk or someone slipped her a roofie, she at least wouldn't get pregnant. I also thought it would be better to be proactive and be on the pill than to have to make a decision what to do if she did get pregnant. She had just turned 18.


My wife had the same issue until she had all the...........lady parts removed. A 2 week period was the norm. Poor woman was miserable. Now.........IT"S WHOOPIE TIME.     :-)

My daughter is having the same issues...at 14.      :panic:
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Bad acne and heavy irregular periods.  Both good rationalizations.  They have been used for ever.  My ex's doctor used one when he put her on the pill at 16 after a regular lower unit check up reveled she was either heavily engaged in horseback riding or sexually active (to keep her mother from having a bird when she found out).  

And now for my favorite story from the sixties.  A very Catholic family with several teen age girls mom shows up heavy with child. The dirty little secret, she was on the pill and her oldest daughter had been taking her pills on the sly. Of course this was in a small coastal town where this type thing was the worst kept secret and who to chastize?  The daughter or the mom??  Nobody got away unscathed in that one.  

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AM I A BAD PERSON? My 16 year old daughter asked me if she was a bad person because she is on the pill! Who are we? What century do we live in? Who in the hell has the right to say these things? Who does Rush Limbaugh think he is? Why is he allowed to say these things and hurt people? Why have I spent the last 2 days trying to convince my 16 year old that she is not a slut?


Oh, I don't know...why dont you ask Sarah Palin's kids how they feel first?

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If your first lesson in drivers ed was learning to sit up in a car...you might be a slut.

If ya can't hold an aspirin between yer knees, ya might be a slut!

Exactly.  And I tell my kids the only 100% sure fire way to not get (or get someone) pregnant is to not have sex.

Oh, shit! Ya suggest abstinence! You'd be infringing on their sexuality!

According to these liberal slugs, whenever you decide to spread yer legs, that's when you should let little Johny have his way with you! After all, if you' as a parent gets involved your crimpin' their style! To discourage that is a crime against humanity!
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If its a skin issue I would advise checking out the natural benefits of coconut oil and tea tree. One of my favorite things about our Drs they don't automatically pull out the RX pad.
If its just a loose girl issue, I advise not opening your legs to everyone that says I love you.


Thank you for the suggestion!!  I have very mild acne and redness.  My dermatologist gave me two different creams to use after washing my face.  The creams work, but I need something better to wash my face with other then the store bought stuff that does not work!!  Proactiv doesn't even work.
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Thank you for the suggestion!!  I have very mild acne and redness.  My dermatologist gave me two different creams to use after washing my face.  The creams work, but I need something better to wash my face with other then the store bought stuff that does not work!!  Proactiv doesn't even work.

I can't use proactive or anything like it, I look like a strawberry for weeks after one application if I do. Take a look into natural healing, you'd be shocked at what vitamin D alone will do for you healthwise. Let me know if ya want a few links of my favs.

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My wife had the same issue until she had all the...........lady parts removed. A 2 week period was the norm. Poor woman was miserable. Now.........IT"S WHOOPIE TIME.     :-)

My daughter is having the same issues...at 14.      :panic:

I finally opted to have my uterus out when I was 40. Shocked the heck out of the nurse when I got up the  morning after surgery, showered and washed my hair, after they took the morphine self injector out of my arm because I wasn't using it. The morphine injector was switched out for 800 motrin "on request".

They didn't understand how I was doing so well. I was doing so well, because I was finally pain free after a 7 MONTH period!!  It was the best thing I ever did !!
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Took momma two days to tell her daughter, "You are not a slut...you are an unpaid sex worker."
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That story is about as true as this one

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/02/26/1068434/-Banker-Leaves-1-Tip-on-133-Bill-to-Show-His-Disdain-for-the-99-

That turned out to be a LIE also.

I tell you, the DUmmies just like drama.  Any little thing gets them all pissy.

Speaking of acne, my son was on accutane in high school.  That was a miracle drug for him.  I had to fill out questionaires every month. The drug company wanted to make sure he wasn't female and was on or using no less than 3 methods of birth control. The doctor confirmed he was male.   :-)

I'm showing my age here but I assumed girls today were more sophisticated than we were back in the day. You'd think being on birth control pills would make you cool and Mom super cool. What do I know.


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I remember way back when I was 16.  I had a 15 year old girl friend, and we were very sexually active.  She just went down to the liberals favourite place...Planned Parenthood. 

They gave her the Pill...no charge.
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I remember way back when I was 16.  I had a 15 year old girl friend, and we were very sexually active.  She just went down to the liberals favourite place...Planned Parenthood. 

They gave her the Pill...no charge.

Yeah, but this Ms Fluke is a 30 year old slut....so evidently even the planned parenthood liberals think she old enough to accept responsibility for herself. 

BTW Is a bitter, man hating, liberal moonbat of a woman really in any danger of becoming pregnant?
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BTW Is a bitter, man hating, liberal moonbat of a woman really in any danger of becoming pregnant?

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I know that one shouldn't answer a question with another question, but the answer is . . . Would Stevenumbers hit it? :???: :fuelfire:

Probably a hit and run most likely.
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Took momma two days to tell her daughter, "You are not a slut...you are an unpaid sex worker."

Ahem..."Volunteer."  Looks better on the resume that way, you know...
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