DUchebags on Tx Judge spanking

[Erasmus]

You forgot wooden spoons.   

Are you my brother?????

Maybe?!?!  Wooden spoons were definitely part of her arsenal if handy.

[IassaFTots]

Maybe?!?!  Wooden spoons were definitely part of her arsenal if handy.

I learned very early not to laugh if the dang spoon broke when experiencing the spontaneous smack in the kitchen, wearing toughskins. 

[USA4ME]

I saw the video the other day.  He was angry, and rightfully so, but punishing your child when you're angry isn't the best of ideas.  Better to make sure you've got your control before you punish them.

The language he used was way out of line.  No excuse for that.  Dropping the f-bomb isn't my thing anyway, much less to a teen child.

But losing his job over it?  Hope it doesn't happen.

I just got the impression this child throught being special needs should exclude her from getting punished for disobedience.  It was a spanking this time, but if she had just been sent to her room or had some priviledge taken away, I think this girl had it in for her folks and it would have been something else she would have done to "expose" him (try and hurt him).

Of course, I don't know all the family background history, so it's hard to say definitively.  But punishing when angry and cussing out your kid are pretty easy to point out as being inappropriate.

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[Ptarmigan]

I am all for corporal punishment, but that is way out of line. The judge, Judge William Adams is questionable.

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[Delmar]

Well, you could do what my grandmother did.  She never spanked, as she didn't believe children were ever "bad".  Children were only "sick" and in need of a tablespoon of caster oil or so.  Any time we acted up, grandmother would always say that we must be feeling bad, and she'd head for the caster oil.  

My mother, on the other hand, is a spanking ninja.  At any moment, she could identify at least 5 items within arms reach that were suitable for use in spanking.  Fly swatters, belts, shoes, flip flops, newspapers, yard sticks. 

I wish I had a dollar for every yard stick that my mom broke on me.
Spatulas and wooden spoons--it's no surprise that cops like to keep the women away from the kitchen when responding to domestic dustups.

[MrsSmith]

I haven't watched the video, but it seems the girl involved came out of it whole.  She obviously set up the camera to record it, so must also obviously have done something that she knew would result this way.  I'd have to wonder just how far this kid was pushing her dad...not that "pushing" means a kid deserves a beating...but I've been on at least 3 sides of similar situations so far in my life.

1) I lived with parents that seldom resorted to physical punishment.  When Dad did spank, though, it was memorable.  The belt was something you knew you'd "earned" when you got it...and you had to really push to get there.  Every time we were actually "whipped," we deserved it, we knew it was coming...and we got over it.
It sounds to me like this girl knew she deserved punishment, knew it was coming...and got over it.

2) I lived with a sibling that pushed way harder than I did...someone Dr Dobson would call a strong-willed child.  He got away with a lot more than my other brother and I, which seemed so terribly unfair at the time.  He got my easy-going Dad to the point of almost actually beating him when he was 14.  To be honest, while I was horrified at the time, my brother deserved something pretty severe!!

3) I have raised 4 teenagers, mostly alone, and still have one at home.  I haven't needed to use physical force against 4 of the 5...but the 5th one, my middle kid, I actually punched him once.  Knocked him down.  He deserved it.  If faced with an identical situation today, I'd do it again.

Actually, I just thought of a 4th situation.  I know a family with a "strong-willed" kid where the family has taken her back again and again.  She has stolen money, stolen cars, lied about her parents, etc.  She just recently went around telling everyone that she was kicked out of the house because her dad caught her eating "his food."  I doubted it, and sure enough, a couple weeks later she confessed to my daughter that her dad caught her taking money out of his wallet. 

Sometimes, love means being tough enough to come up with a punishment that works.

[Reality vs DU]

I haven't watched the video, but it seems the girl involved came out of it whole.  She obviously set up the camera to record it, so must also obviously have done something that she knew would result this way.  I'd have to wonder just how far this kid was pushing her dad...not that "pushing" means a kid deserves a beating...but I've been on at least 3 sides of similar situations so far in my life.

1) I lived with parents that seldom resorted to physical punishment.  When Dad did spank, though, it was memorable.  The belt was something you knew you'd "earned" when you got it...and you had to really push to get there.  Every time we were actually "whipped," we deserved it, we knew it was coming...and we got over it.
It sounds to me like this girl knew she deserved punishment, knew it was coming...and got over it.

2) I lived with a sibling that pushed way harder than I did...someone Dr Dobson would call a strong-willed child.  He got away with a lot more than my other brother and I, which seemed so terribly unfair at the time.  He got my easy-going Dad to the point of almost actually beating him when he was 14.  To be honest, while I was horrified at the time, my brother deserved something pretty severe!!

3) I have raised 4 teenagers, mostly alone, and still have one at home.  I haven't needed to use physical force against 4 of the 5...but the 5th one, my middle kid, I actually punched him once.  Knocked him down.  He deserved it.  If faced with an identical situation today, I'd do it again.

Actually, I just thought of a 4th situation.  I know a family with a "strong-willed" kid where the family has taken her back again and again.  She has stolen money, stolen cars, lied about her parents, etc.  She just recently went around telling everyone that she was kicked out of the house because her dad caught her eating "his food."  I doubted it, and sure enough, a couple weeks later she confessed to my daughter that her dad caught her taking money out of his wallet. 

Sometimes, love means being tough enough to come up with a punishment that works.

You should watch the video, this is not "tough love" it is child abuse.  She claims she setup the camera to catch the abuse she new was coming because it had happened before.  Her motivations are irrelevant anyway, what is relevant is was this abuse or not, I say yes.

[youtube=425,350]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhQKCheKnTw[/youtube]

[JohnnyReb]

You should watch the video, this is not "tough love" it is child abuse.  She claims she setup the camera to catch the abuse she new was coming because it had happened before.  Her motivations are irrelevant anyway, what is relevant is was this abuse or not, I say yes.

[youtube=425,350]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhQKCheKnTw[/youtube]

If what she got was abuse, I got abused a lot. It kept me from becoming a drain on a civil society.

[jtyangel]

If what she got was abuse, I got abused a lot. It kept me from becoming a drain on a civil society.

If the reasons why she released it now are true, it doesn't sound like it worked on her. Just sayin'.

[Gina]

If what she got was abuse, I got abused a lot. It kept me from becoming a drain on a civil society.

And look how you turned out