I must say there is a darn good reason why humans can conceive in the very young years, it is callled sanity and strength.
Raising a human is not a job for the weak or those with little stamina, Hardest job in the world.
I hear the story of folks that delay having children until they are in late 30's due to economic reasons. To the horror of some woman they find that their eggs are non viable, past abortions have left them sterile or they no longer have a partner to help raise a child.
Then the woman that can conceive at 35-40+, these are the woman that are on top of the world when they find they are finally pregnant, all the fun of the baby showers, WoHO .
After the baby is born and 6-8 weeks later they come back to work and are a nervous wreck, fall asleep at work or spend all their time calling the sitter. Some of their work mates may all ready be grand parents, not too happy to do their own work and the work of of someone their own age.
Youth is the key here, only the young have the ability to juggle school, work, home and childcare at the same time.
I was stunned to hear day care costs over $100 a week per child in some places. One gives birth to twins----OUCH.
Those of us that were young that raised our kids had good health and the ability to keep up with the kids. The kids are now gone to raise their own and we get to handle the grand kids when we wish, still have 20+ years of work ahead of us without the chaos of baby's and young kids, can look back on the GOOD OLD DAYS and wonder how we survived them.
One should not raise children unless they realise this is a life time work in progress. Everything in life one knows changes, your life is now for that child. Times get difficult and the child still need milk and when the cost is the same as a pack of cigarette's, unless you give the child breakfast of cereal with water, you must quit smoking. Kids get brand new clothes, parents get used at GoodWill.
Now for us who managed to get our kids raised up at and early age and off on their own, we worked and did without for 20 years and can now go forward with a new life====UNTIL.
Here comes a son they paid to educate but has fallen on hard times, needs you to support them as if he was a 10 year old. While he "looks" for a JOB YOU ARE EXPECTED TO FEED HIM, DO HIS LAUNDRY, PAY HIS BILLS.--------Worse is when he comes home with a jail record, a strange woman and 2 kids.
Along comes a daughter with 2 kids that needs to find her self and dumps her baby's on your door step, sad, just when you get the kids in school and use to a secure life she comes back and drags them out to live with some biker she met and gets welfare and section 8 housing.
I can see this posters point, takes allot of balls to raise a kid, educate then then throw them out of the nest, some of us have the smarts to do so , others of us let down our guard and do more harm allowing the kids back home.
Complicated thing family relations, I my self can finally breath after raising and education my kids, took awhile as some of them kept coming back to MOMMY but I learned.
