Himmmmm this is a what would you do in this circumstance as a woman.
First these things do not come up over night, there has to be a gradual build up to any man acting this way.
Regardless of what the build up was and his or her actions were at the time, this woman needs help now TODAY.
What can a woman do in this case,??
The woman wants to keep her farm, I understand that. She feels helpless that I can also understand. Most of what she says she has worked for has been stolen by a creepy husband, that I can understand.
This happens every day to both men and woman that keep their eyes closed in order to keep the peace and to pretend that things will change.
So that was the past, mistakes were made due to the desire to believe they are loved. Today reality hits, the person believes they were taken by a sweet talking partner.
Vengeance is mine says the Lord, but the Lord expects you to help your self.
One who goes out and kills those that harm them are crazy, to get back what is due has to keep the malefactor alive and make their life miserable.
Me I would sell the frigging farm and take the money to track down the SOB. Spend some of the money on a PI to track him and mess up each and every relationship he has.
Very little money would be needed to have drugs planted in his car, what ever job he got could be ended with word of mouth.
So the SOB moves across country, follow him, find him and destroy him.
Then get a job flipping burgers, live in your car for 2 years until you can afford to buy another farm, start over and buy more chickens.
This is survival, to stay alive one has to get mean and nasty at times.