I'm still waiting for the enjoyment part.
It's your attitude I think. You have the attitude of an up tight British WASP.
"[ I"M ] still waiting for the enjoyment part" tells it all.
What kind of fishing do you enjoy, salt or fresh water, you looking for Bass or Tuna.??
You just head out with no pray in mind you will reel in an old boot or worse each time.
Once you decide just what you want to fish or hunt for then you need the proper gear be it reels or shot gun. Bait now comes the hard part, one does not catch Trout with marshmellows.
If you wear eye glasses get new frames, let the woman at the eye doctors help you select them. Get perhaps 3 different pair all different and assign them for work, play and oh-la-la.
Empty your closet of all clothing styles you have not changed in 10 years, learn to wear t. shirts only under other crisp collared shirts----- If you do that now, reverse it throw out all t shirts and only wear a ball cap to the ball park. No t shirts with anything written on them.
Loafers, no sneakers or tied shoes, no way to make a good impression when you trip over a lace and end up sprawled on the floor. Especially a dance floor as you try out new moves.
Splurge at a men's wear center even for Jeans that you will never wear on a date unless that dress is called for. Even if your package is Bramma Bull size the sales men can get you into well fitting jeans that do not have the crotch 5 inches below your butt.
OK Sparky we got you dressed and ready to go a hunting or fishing.
Forget the jewelery, one ring on right hand pinkie is OK. The bait is set, where do you want to put it.??
The small restaurants at airfield are great for meeting people who know people that love to fly. Hang out once or twice a week for breakfast and ignore the woman. Talk to the men show interest and learn the lingo. Once the men get used to seeing you around then you just may find a few of them that has a couple of daughters.
Plunk down $400.00 and buy a kayak and become a regular at the Wentworth By The Sea for breakfast, Notice that all the fun people are up at the crack of dawn.
Find places that people go to that have a passion for, be it hot air balloons or railroad trains. Learn all you can about the passion others have, people love to share their obsessions.
The last place you want to go a fishing is the bar scene, or an XXX rated movie theatre.
Off your butt old man, you have allot of good years left in you. It would be a shame to waste them in front of the TV feeling sorry for yourself. DON'T expect a Play Boy Bunny to show up at any time giving out samples------
Most important, be MYSTERIOUS, you work is in fact classified so that is true, your military service aboard subs is classified also true. You are separated true, but that is all you need to say to arouse interest in people.
When you decide to take a vacation to visit family, people who are used to seeing you will ask where you were, Just smile and say an emergency at work sent you elsewhere. You do not have to lie, the emergency was you going on vacation to visit family and some one had to fill your shoes at work.
You will be surprised that after only 3 months at a fun place wearing different eyeglasses each time folks will begin to point you out as an interesting person, one well worth knowing. Long as you tell the truth with a twist of lime no problem.
Good Luckand God Bless