Author Topic: Guys a question for you. (Read 26835 times)

I realize that I am late to the party, but I could never be attracted to an obese woman. I would likely settle for number 2 and make the best of it. I think we could eventually find some common ground. Number one would be tempting but I am not sure I could tolerate the resultant headaches after awhile. However a little Taxman therapy on a number 1 would have her as sane as can be after a few sessions on the couch.

Schadenfreude · « **Reply #81 on:** March 30, 2009, 09:16:06 AM »

I do think that the wall flowers who become not so bad looking as adults fare best out of this deal.
I was fortunate that I was a late bloomer. I had no other choice but to use my personality and wit to compete with the hotties.

That's my theory and I'm sticking to it.

Toastedturningtidelegs · « **Reply #82 on:** March 30, 2009, 09:20:07 AM »

Quote from: DumbAss Tanker on March 30, 2009, 09:06:35 AM

You'll learn to listen to the voice of experience someday, I suppose, after you actually have some yourself, sonny-Jim.

It's all good gramps! Do you actually believe that there is no middle ground where a person can be healthy both mentally and physically?

Taxman · « **Reply #83 on:** March 30, 2009, 09:29:28 AM »

Quote from: Schadenfreude on March 30, 2009, 09:16:06 AM

I do think that the wall flowers who become not so bad looking as adults fare best out of this deal.
I was fortunate that I was a late bloomer. I had no other choice but to use my personality and wit to compete with the hotties.

That's my theory and I'm sticking to it.

I just cannot imagine someone hotter than you.

Toastedturningtidelegs · « **Reply #84 on:** March 30, 2009, 09:30:05 AM »

Quote from: Schadenfreude on March 30, 2009, 09:16:06 AM

I do think that the wall flowers who become not so bad looking as adults fare best out of this deal.
I was fortunate that I was a late bloomer. I had no other choice but to use my personality and wit to compete with the hotties.

That's my theory and I'm sticking to it.

Quiet down over there Skeletor!

mamacags · « **Reply #85 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:35:55 AM »

Quote from: jtyangel on March 30, 2009, 07:39:19 AM

Well then the original point is moot then if it does not exist in real life A man can't force himself to be physically attractive to someone he is not, nor do men necessarily have to trade in mental stability to have someone who cares for their outside appearance.

I would guess the choice is more like this when you don't know either person really well on an initial meeting: "with all things being equal on the inside from what I can tell, I'll take the physically attractive one".

As much as us girls would like to deny it, men are visual creatures. I think that initial attraction means a lot because of that and when you consider most people do not know each other well on that initial attractiveness meeting, then it should answer your question of what men would pick and why...at least initially. Most would probably ditch the headcase though no matter how beautiful if given the chance AND THEN look for another attractive woman that has ALL the qualities that they want. Just a learning and growing experience for most.

Plus I would submit that some people would think a very overweight person is wearing their mental health issues on the outside already kinda like one would be saying get away with 20 facial piercings. Kinda like a big warning flag. It may not be true necessarily, but it probably does give someone pause if you don't know the whys of why the weight is there becuase there are plenty of women for whom the weight is intimately tied to mental health issues they have. The argument obviously being that with a slender woman, she's not wearing a badge of her issues right on her sleeve for all the world to see which makes her more agreeable, initially, to your average guy.

I wasn't trying to ruffle your feathers, mama, I just think you've given the guys an impossible and unrealistic choice. I think you have a great thread going here, offshoots and all. Heck, I've been insanely busy and I got out for this one and the ewww thread so

I wasn't upset. My original point was if guys would put up with insanity to have a super hot wife or not. I was just curious. I wasn't going for realism in any sense. I had a question for the women here too. Would you be willing to marry a super ugly gross guy if he was seriously rich, would you marry a super hot guy that was dumb as rocks, or would you marry a normal looking guy who posts 1000+ posts a month on DU?

Schadenfreude · « **Reply #86 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:37:35 AM »

Quote from: Taxman on March 30, 2009, 09:29:28 AM

I just cannot imagine someone hotter than you.

I just have the power to make you think that.

My minor in Psychology and my undeniable power of persuasion has really paid off.

Sweet Dee · « **Reply #87 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:39:01 AM »

This thread amuses me

lol

Schadenfreude · « **Reply #88 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:39:41 AM »

Quote from: Toastedturningtidelegs on March 30, 2009, 09:30:05 AM

Quiet down over there Skeletor!

As I grab another truffle and simultaneously pinch a fat roll.

Schadenfreude · « **Reply #89 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:40:15 AM »

Quote from: Sweet Dee on March 30, 2009, 10:39:01 AM

This thread amuses me lol

You want me too.

Schadenfreude · « **Reply #90 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:41:34 AM »

Quote from: mamacags on March 30, 2009, 10:35:55 AM

I wasn't upset. My original point was if guys would put up with insanity to have a super hot wife or not. I was just curious. I wasn't going for realism in any sense. I had a question for the women here too. Would you be willing to marry a super ugly gross guy if he was seriously rich, would you marry a super hot guy that was dumb as rocks, or would you marry a normal looking guy who posts 1000+ posts a month on DU?

Eeek... this is mirroring real life.

Just kidding boys!

Eupher · « **Reply #91 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:43:17 AM »

Having been romantically involved with at least one nutcase, who happened to be strikingly beautiful, I can say with complete authority that that's a Hell unlike anything I ever want to go through again.

That said, the idea of hooking up with a 300-pounder ain't my idea of heaven, either.

I like the wallflower analogy. Wallflowers are far less needy, require no "high maintenance" and are much more inclined to be "normal" in all the usual ways.

The old expression, "Beauty is skin deep, but ugly goes right to the bone" isn't entirely true. :innocent:

BEG · « **Reply #92 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:47:59 AM »

Quote from: Eupher on March 30, 2009, 10:43:17 AM

Having been romantically involved with at least one nutcase, who happened to be strikingly beautiful, I can say with complete authority that that's a Hell unlike anything I ever want to go through again.

That said, the idea of hooking up with a 300-pounder ain't my idea of heaven, either.

I like the wallflower analogy. Wallflowers are far less needy, require no "high maintenance" and are much more inclined to be "normal" in all the usual ways.

The old expression, "Beauty is skin deep, but ugly goes right to the bone" isn't entirely true. :innocent:

Oh Schade's type of wallflower is VERY HIGH MAINTENANCE. Don't say I didn't warn ya....just sayin'.

BEG · « **Reply #93 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:49:20 AM »

Quote from: mamacags on March 30, 2009, 10:35:55 AM

I wasn't upset. My original point was if guys would put up with insanity to have a super hot wife or not. I was just curious. I wasn't going for realism in any sense. I had a question for the women here too. Would you be willing to marry a super ugly gross guy if he was seriously rich, would you marry a super hot guy that was dumb as rocks, or would you marry a normal looking guy who posts 1000+ posts a month on DU?

I would rather be single or live with Schade.

*By the way, there are no normal guys who post on DU (unless you are a mole).

Eupher · « **Reply #94 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:51:17 AM »

Quote from: BEG on March 30, 2009, 10:47:59 AM

Oh Schade's type of wallflower is VERY HIGH MAINTENANCE. Don't say I didn't warn ya....just sayin'.

Hmmm. Well, there are exceptions to every rule.

Wallflowers can "come into their own" and realize just what they've been missing. That's the first step toward insanity.....

Celtic Rose · « **Reply #95 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:52:18 AM »

Quote from: mamacags on March 30, 2009, 10:35:55 AM

I wasn't upset. My original point was if guys would put up with insanity to have a super hot wife or not. I was just curious. I wasn't going for realism in any sense. I had a question for the women here too. Would you be willing to marry a super ugly gross guy if he was seriously rich, would you marry a super hot guy that was dumb as rocks, or would you marry a normal looking guy who posts 1000+ posts a month on DU?

I think the convent looks like the best choice out of those

BEG · « **Reply #96 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:53:22 AM »

Quote from: Eupher on March 30, 2009, 10:51:17 AM

Hmmm. Well, there are exceptions to every rule.

Wallflowers can "come into their own" and realize just what they've been missing. That's the first step toward insanity.....

I was kidding, Schade is extremely normal.

Seriously....I swear.

Sweet Dee · « **Reply #97 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:55:01 AM »

Quote from: Celtic Rose on March 30, 2009, 10:52:18 AM

I think the convent looks like the best choice out of those

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lol agreed

Eupher · « **Reply #98 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:55:49 AM »

Quote from: BEG on March 30, 2009, 10:53:22 AM

I was kidding, Schade is extremely normal. Seriously....I swear.

And so was I. Kidding, that is.

I have seen on these pages what Schade's capable of. And you're not too far behind her.

BEG · « **Reply #99 on:** March 30, 2009, 10:57:14 AM »

Quote from: Eupher on March 30, 2009, 10:55:49 AM

And so was I. Kidding, that is.

I have seen on these pages what Schade's capable of. And you're not too far behind her.

Nuh uh, I'm a good girl I am.

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Author Topic: Guys a question for you. (Read 26835 times)