DUmmie isn't getting a free house, now wants to live in a van down by the river

[BattleHymn]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1018921776

Looks like this DUmmie's parents wised up:

Mon Feb 6, 2017, 05:33 PM
starshine00 (295 posts)

has anyone here ever lived in a van/rv 'on the road'?


I may end up having to do this, or perhaps I should say choosing to do this, very soon. I would love to read or hear about people's experiences if you have a blog or a youtube vlog or something similar where you share your experiences. Do you regret doing this or was it a good decision (if by choice). I am currently living with a personality disordered parent and it is killing my soul. I am in my late forties and want to enjoy what time I have left in life without this toxicity. The house we are in was supposed to be somewhere I could stay after their death as long as I could afford it, however they recently admitted to me that they put in the will that the house is to then be sold and the $ divided between us four siblings, this will enrich my sibs a few thousand dollars each as there is still a mortgage, but will leave me with not enough to buy another place. I am PTSD disabled so it doesn't look like I will ever acrue enough for my own place unless I win the lottery. Now that I have this knowledge I honestly want to leave tomorrow but I have a number of pets and am terrifed what might happen if I break down somewhere with so many animals. Plus I don't want to delude myself about what is essentially homelessness. I looked for a subgroup on this but didn't find one, I hope this is okay to post this here.

And now on to the rest of the DUmmies:

Mon Feb 6, 2017, 05:47 PM
mike_c (34,637 posts)
2. try it before you commit utterly....

Take a 4-6 week road trip in the same manner, more-or-less, as you're thinking about full-timing. Not a Disneyland vacation or any other kind of vacation. Maybe just stealth camping in your own locale. It's definitely not for everyone. You'll know pretty quickly whether you like it or hate it.

My partner and I have talked about doing something like this when I retire in a couple of years. We like the lifestyle and spend weeks at a time on the road or out dry camping whenever we can, but we've come to the conclusion that we don't want to do it permanently.

Mon Feb 6, 2017, 06:08 PM
ghostsinthemachine (2,254 posts)
4. My story is your story

Moved into my van 2 years ago. My inheritance wasnt squat so I bought an old van. Runs great has good room.

Imagining you will have enough for a late model vehicle, some things you need to know.

Camper vans care great BUT, if the height is over 7 feet they become obvious and that is the height limit for most over night parking ordinances. RVs are obvious and they get hassled by the cops constantly (most municipalities have no car camping ordinances). A no description van never gets hassled.
Get an extra battery system. Charging things is imperative. Being able to run a fan in summer (buy a USB fan for cars) or a small heater (via inverter, which you can also watch a regular TV or power a computer) is huge. Bigly huge. I live in CA and the fan is essential.
I have three temp sleeping situations. Really cold (winter bag with 20° rating) a most of the time (40°) bag. And then I have a lightweight waterproof bag for summer.
Be sure it has tinted windows that work and allow cross ventilation.
Join a gym with showers. Great place to catch some Fox news (always on) or TV and a workout shower kills time. Some of the cheaper gyms don't have showers, so beware.
Buy a parks pass. Good investment, and parks are great places to hang out.
The library is your friend. Internet, computers and books, as well as listings for events and services.
Starbucks, any coffee shop is your friend. Internet and for a couple of bucks you can sit there all day. Or night. Usually you can find a group you like too.

Use the parks BBQ to BBQ but don't expect to do much cooking. Huge hassle. Clean up especially. Have spices and sauces and plates and utensils, but don't expect to use them much.
Parking at night: I never go to my spot until after ten or so. I go to apartments or duplexes where this a lot of on street parking and just blend in to the rest of the cars. Most private lots have security. I move around a lot, seldom in the same spot more than one night. I never get hassled.

I download TV and movies to watch on my computer and have a external speaker so stuff sounds good.

Until ten I tend to hang at the library then go watch TV in a busy parking lot. Security,. If there, never hassles me. Sometimes, on softball nights, I hang at the park until they close, usually after ten.

I am working on becoming part of the campground hosts program, moving from campground to campground as pleasure tends, but that will require a larger RV, one that is not Street able.

I also volunteer for a lot of music festivals. Usually security which means I do pretty much what I do otherwise but with a security shirt on. Most feed ya and put you up in the best camp spots possible. Some offer pay for some jobs. Having a van is perfect for that.

Mon Feb 6, 2017, 06:37 PM
starshine00 (295 posts)
8. thanks for all the information.

I know that there is a way to do this I just have to figure it out. I am essentially in a living death situation here. Plus I just got involved with a rotten individual online and broke my own heart so I would like to drop off the map since while they sh*t all over me they are stalky as well and keep remote accessing me somehow. Ugh. I just want to change EVERYTHING. I feel too old to be this miserable voluntarily.

Mon Feb 6, 2017, 06:52 PM
Star Member SammyWinstonJack (39,400 posts)
10. I live full time in an RV. Try cheaprvliving.com/blog. Also has

a vlog on youtube. A wealth of info. Also on youtube. AdventureVanMan and Carolyn's RV LIVING. Lots of full time RVers on youtube. Good luck!
First try cheaprvliving.com, though.

Mon Feb 6, 2017, 07:27 PM
starshine00 (295 posts)
15. great to know

I would be exchanging the pain of the known for the fear of the unknown. I just don't want to contribute to this situation /household anymore since I am the one that found the house (which cut my mother's house payment in half, and met all her stupid criteria like being 'close to walmart but out of the city limits', such a nightmare, I spent summer before last which was several months of temps in the nineties beginning may driving around in a car w/ no AC to finally find this house which is perfect for both our needs. However my mother lives on the 'victim' corner of the Karpman drama triangle and i am far from a persecutor but that is the role I am being stuck in daily. I just about can't take it anymore, I honestly think fear of the unknown robber or rapist would be healthier on my psyche than this constant draining emotional vampirism. She knows I have PTSD and as such am very short-tempered and prone to quick rages so every day she does her best to try to enrage me so she can then portray herself as a victim. This is the reason my therapist pushed me really hard to apply for disability in the first place, because she felt it was so unhealthy for me to be constantly triggered by my lunatic mother. I honestly feel I will end up in at least the purgatory section of hell if I stay because I am CONSTANTLY angry at her, which is how she wants it apparently. But at this point in my life I really want peace and it is clear I will never have it in this living arrangement. I didn't know it was that cheap to live in RV parks, thanks so much for the info.

This is going to turn out to be a great grifting opportunity for the DUmmie that lit the campfire. 

[USA4ME]

starshine00

I looked for a subgroup on this but didn't find one, I hope this is okay to post this here.

There's no need for a subgroup when the whole site is one giant "I'm a loser in life and where can I mooch?" Your post followed in that great tradition, therefore you posted in the right place.

Also, had willpitt not killed the bobbolink primitive a/k/a bobo the hobo, she could have provided a lot of useful info. But the ghostinthemachine primitive gave out enough insight on the topic. What a great life he has living in his van.

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[98ZJUSMC]

Just............

 

Wayyyyy too much.  Mid-late 40's.  Living with Sponging off of Mom.  You can afford a therapist.


 

[Ralph Wiggum]

Had to be done...

https://youtu.be/3nhgfjrKi0o

[DUmpstruck]

The DUmmie should ask Bobbolink if Pittstain has not knocked her off.

[Big Dog]

ghostsinthemachine (2,254 posts)
4. My story is your story

Moved into my van 2 years ago.

WHAT? You became homeless two years ago? In the Obamaconomy?

Did Comrade Obama know of this?

[Carl]

Useless mongrels.

[98ZJUSMC]

The DUmmie should ask Bobbolink if Pittstain has not knocked her off.

[nomad54]

Man, if ghostsinthemachine spent as much energy looking for work as he does mooching/trying to circumvent the system, he wouldn't have to live in a van.

Why do all these people seem to have pets?  They aren't smart enough to care for themselves, what makes them think they can care for another living thing.

[FunkyZero]

Let's see...
I think I can sum this up:  "I was living with my parents at 40 but they have had it with my sh#$ and not only told me I had to move out, but cut me from the will so I'm not willing to help them anymore since I'm not getting their stuff when they die."

[SVPete]

I am PTSD disabled ...

I am in my late forties ...

OK, did this dude serve in the Gulf War, when he was in his 20s, or is he "appropriating" and trivializing a term that means serious issues stemming serious service? I've had bad experiences in life that have molded my personality and social interactions in not good ways, but to a great degree, that's just part of being human.

Unless the guy served in the Gulf War (or similar military service), I think this characterizes the guy's "disability": "fear of the unknown". He got into some sort of rough patch, and just never climbed back out of it. And now he's paralyzed by fear of looking for and working at a job, finding a home (away from his familiar abusive and parasitic mother), paying bills, and interacting with other human being as an independent peer.

gitm is a real winner! He's taken what should be desperation-station survival and made it a lifestyle of contributing all but nothing while living off of people and society and off their kindness. I've seen quasi-homeless people use the gym for showers and restroom facilities (at least one such guy was very "in-shape", just not working but a frequent user of recreational chemicals), and I've seen the somebody's-living-there RVs, vans, and cars parked at the periphery of shopping center parking lots, even in the daytime.

[VelvetElvis]

PTSD "disabled", but thinks it's a good idea to go live in a van with its menagerie in tow.
That van oughta smell great after a few weeks, doncha think?

They don't call them DUmmies for nothing, do they?

[Karin]

I believe this is a she, as she mentions fear of rape.  I'm so sick of these DUmmies appropriating PTSD, which I think of in military context only. 

Look at all the psychobabble terms she throws around!  So smart!!

Interesting post by Ghostinthemachine.  Imagine structuring your life around that:  Strategizing how to not get hassled. 

[67 Rover]

And a new go fund my leeching lifestyle account starting in 3. 2. 1...   

[SVPete]

I believe this is a she, as she mentions fear of rape.  I'm so sick of these DUmmies appropriating PTSD, which I think of in military context only. 

Look at all the psychobabble terms she throws around!  So smart!!
...

Didn't think of ss00 being a female  for some reason. This (I'm guessing) kind of Valor Appropriation disgusts me. It trivializes real service under trauma!

Speculating, I think this female's biography would be something like this:

* Egg Donor was a narcissistic non-parent when ss00 was growing up;

* Sperm Donor was either a brief partner for sexually liberated-Egg-Donor or divorced and bailed during ss00's childhood;

* ss00 failed to launch and returned to narcissistic Egg Donor, becoming her co-dependent "care-giver";

* ss00 has finally gotten tired of narcissistic Egg Donor's @#$%, but lacks the character, education, and work history to relaunch.

[freedumb2003b]

Let's see...
I think I can sum this up:  "I was living with my parents at 40 but they have had it with my sh#$ and not only told me I had to move out, but cut me from the will so I'm not willing to help them anymore since I'm not getting their stuff when they die."

Liberalism exposed: "I have to live with my mommy because I never grew up, therefore my opinion of what grownups should do matters."

I am currently living with a personality disordered parent and it is killing my soul. I am in my late forties and want to enjoy what time I have left in life without this toxicity

My inheritance wasnt squat so I bought an old van.

I just don't want to contribute to this situation /household anymore since I am the one that found the house (which cut my mother's house payment in half, and met all her stupid criteria like being 'close to walmart but out of the city limits'

[BattleHymn]

Let's see...
I think I can sum this up:  "I was living with my parents at 40 but they have had it with my sh#$ and not only told me I had to move out, but cut me from the will so I'm not willing to help them anymore since I'm not getting their stuff when they die."

You should search the archives and here for the Stewert primitive.

That's essentially his life story, word for word.

[FaC]

I believe this is a she, as she mentions fear of rape. 

I am not sure that "fear of rape" is a valid way to determine a DUmmie's gender 

[I_B_Perky]

Mon Feb 6, 2017, 05:33 PM
starshine00 (295 posts)

has anyone here ever lived in a van/rv 'on the road'?


I may end up having to do this, or perhaps I should say choosing to do this, very soon. I would love to read or hear about people's experiences if you have a blog or a youtube vlog or something similar where you share your experiences. Do you regret doing this or was it a good decision (if by choice). I am currently living with a personality disordered parent and it is killing my soul. I am in my late forties and want to enjoy what time I have left in life without this toxicity. The house we are in was supposed to be somewhere I could stay after their death as long as I could afford it, however they recently admitted to me that they put in the will that the house is to then be sold and the $ divided between us four siblings, this will enrich my sibs a few thousand dollars each as there is still a mortgage, but will leave me with not enough to buy another place. I am PTSD disabled so it doesn't look like I will ever acrue enough for my own place unless I win the lottery. Now that I have this knowledge I honestly want to leave tomorrow but I have a number of pets and am terrifed what might happen if I break down somewhere with so many animals. Plus I don't want to delude myself about what is essentially homelessness. I looked for a subgroup on this but didn't find one, I hope this is okay to post this here.

Ask Undergroundpanther how all that worked out for her.  She lived with her mom, with daily drama, until mom died and now she is either on the street or in the looney bin.

Here is Dr. IB Perky's diagnosis and cure.

Diagnosis: You are a ****ing loser
Cure: Off yourself right now. Why? It will save you a lot of freezing, hunger, pain and the result will be the same in the end. So you might as well go ahead and do it.

5 cents please.