DMFnumbers,
The point I think that we are the trying to make is that yes, homelessness happens, but what you don't want to to is let a homeless person or unemployed person see them self as a victim. THAT is the start of their problems.
When a person identifies them self as a victim, they don't ask the hard questions of 'what can I do right now to change this'? They stay wallowing in the 'woe is me' pity party.
They don't give themselves the opportunity to improve themselves, and their state in life. Sometimes you have to get frustrated in order to make a change for the better.
Some, not all, 'homeless people' make a 'career' out of extorting money from people who think they are genuinely helping someone in need.
If people aren't making changes for the better, its because they don't WANT to; They have no motivation to, because their 'needs' are being met, and in some cases they are self a medicating their state.
What I am getting at, is people need to stop trying to be a victim, accept what has happened to them, and MOVE ON. And accept the fact that something shitty happened, but it will NOT define the rest of your life... Unless you LET it.
Here is an example of a homeless person who DIDN'T let her situation define her, and changed her life for the better:
http://newscenter.nmsu.edu/Articles/view/11133/former-homeless-veteran-earns-two-nmsu-degrees-pays-it-forward One of the cavers here has a quote from Audie Murphy that sums up the job hunt perfectly: 'I may be changed by war, but I will not be defined by it'. I may be paraphrasing slightly, but it holds true to being fired as well.
Oh, and buzz click, I'm pretty certain what was meant by the 'screwing off for 18 years' comment was that if you screw around in school, your work habits carry over to your career, and you don't make it far unless YOU make a change.