http://www.democraticunderground.com/115748221Imagine bereaving the loss of a love one. Perhaps you're flipping through a cherished photo album, reliving the good times this side of eternity you and your loved one shared. Then, a knock at the door. You open it to find a patchouli-stenched grizzled old bat with a dish that contains something out of the C&B forum of the DUmp. Well, some poor sot is about to experience just that:
Sun Nov 30, 2014, 02:05 PM
struggle4progress (80,381 posts)
What's a good hot dish to take a bereaved neighbor?
The fellow next door just died this morning after a very lengthy illness. His wife is distraught. She has a bit of family in town so she has some good support. But I'd like to take something over, maybe tomorrow, so she has something she can eat or share with visitors.
Any suggestions?
Sun Nov 30, 2014, 02:08 PM
Star Member applegrove (65,804 posts)
1. Cook a ham. Make some corn bread?
Sun Nov 30, 2014, 02:09 PM
Star Member CurtEastPoint (5,517 posts)
2. Not being flip but if you google Fneral Potatoes, there are many recipes.
Good, solid comfort food, aptly named.
I think you meant "funeral potatoes".
Sun Nov 30, 2014, 03:40 PM
Star Member dixiegrrrrl (38,663 posts)
6. or pound cake
the saying down here is "keep a black dress in the closet and a pound cake in the freezer".
Your suggestion of offering a meal after normal support leaves is a good one, esp. for an older guy.
some do how to cook, but may not be up to it.
some would be missing a home cooked meal.
Uh, the guy is the one that
died. I don't think he'll be needing any nourishment. Reading comprehension is not a primitive strength.
I can see this primitive showing up at the door with a note attached to a NJCher puke stew, "sorry about the loss of your wife".
Sun Dec 7, 2014, 05:54 PM
Thor_MN (6,823 posts)
14. Umm... It was the husband that died?
But I agree that waiting a little bit is best. And "disposable" packaging is good too. Unless there is someone who really enjoys refrigerator/freezer tetris and figuring out what bowl belongs to what person, of course.
Sun Nov 30, 2014, 02:47 PM
Star Member NJCher (17,439 posts)
5. Here's what went fastest at my neighbor's
My neighbor's husband died and everyone in the neighborhood took something. Now, mind you, we have two very accomplished culinary experts in the neighborhood. I saw all the dishes out on a table and it was quite a sight.
But guess what dish everyone took from? Something that came from a damn supermarket, specifically Whole Foods. It was a plate of wraps.
I don't know if it was because they were easy "finger food" or what, but this was the most popular item.
I wonder if NJCher is counting herself in that group of culinary experts. It sounds like she's pretty pissed off that everyone chose prepared finger foods over her puke stew:
(Thanks to GOBUCKS, "puke stew" nadin searches now return NJCher's stew as result #5.)
Sun Nov 30, 2014, 03:57 PM
Erich Bloodaxe BSN (5,535 posts)
7. First, my condolences to your neighbour. Second, a story a fellow coworker told me...
A neighbour of hers had died, and she was pulling in to her driveway and was a witness when the guy next door to the deceased was taking something over to the widower... A cooked pork chop on the end of a fork, or 'pork on a fork' as she referred to it.
I live in such a classy area : P
We'd go with some form of comfort food obviously, probably 'crack potatoes'. Take a bag of frozen shredded potatoes, two bags of shredded cheddar cheese, two small cans of condensed cream of chicken soup, and a jar of real bacon bits. Mix the potatoes, one bag of cheese, the soup and half the bacon bits, spread out in a 9x13 casserole dish. Top with the other bag of cheese and sprinkle with the rest of the bacon bits. Into a preheated 350 degree oven for 30 minutes covered with aluminum foil, then 30 minutes uncovered. Pull out and allow to cool a bit before inhaling, or risk a burnt mouth.
Uh, thanks, but I'll take the "pork on a fork". The latter sounds like something even a cat would gag at.
Sun Dec 7, 2014, 07:27 PM
Star Member Rhiannon12866 (68,535 posts)
15. That's what I've made. I figure everybody likes lasagna
And you can put anything in it that you like.
For starters, not everyone likes lasagna. I certainly do not. Secondly, the bolded is what is wrong with most of the dishes in the C&B forum.
Sat Dec 6, 2014, 09:23 PM
Star Member pinto (105,684 posts)
13. A hello and a hug.
I can't figure out if this is the best response, or if this primitive is just too damn cheap to spend anything on a neighbor.
Sun Dec 7, 2014, 07:31 PM
Star Member Rhiannon12866 (68,535 posts)
16. I'd suggest making something you're good at
And that can be easily reheated. I've made lasagna for this type of occasion. And you can make baked ziti the same way, just a different noodle. I figured that would work if one person was eating, or several.
This thread is golden. It really is.
Sun Dec 7, 2014, 11:14 PM
bif (16,242 posts)
17. I'd say a bunch of booze.
But that's just me.
Nah. If fizzgig shows up, she'll probably say the same thing. That is, if she survived her night on the party bus.
Sat Dec 13, 2014, 08:10 AM
Star Member CTyankee (42,327 posts)
20. when my next door neighbor died I brought a chicken casserole. Ham was out of the question
since they and their family members were all Jewish. The husband only last a few weeks and then he died. A different casserole was needed. I actually had a nice place that made casseroles for you. I got something with ground beef...probably lasagna.
This primitive's chicken casserole was so bad, it took the life of the husband.
