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Offline franksolich

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primitive needs an opinion
« on: August 08, 2014, 03:31:12 PM »
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1160478

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Skins's island is s-o-o-o-o-o boring today..

And slow, too--it's been nine hours since anything was posted in the cooking and baking forum.

This is the best one could find, from the parenting forum.

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rustysgurl (72 posts)    Tue Jul 22, 2014, 05:18 PM

Need Your Opinions Here

My husband and I have allowed my daughter from a previous marriage to live with us while completing her college degree. Her last class is this week, and we were going out to a restaurant tonight to celebrate.

The last time all 3 of us went to this restaurant, my daughter (who is quite a ways beyond legal age) ordered a beer with her Mexican food. My husband was not happy, saying he didn't like paying for 'her beer'.

It's not that he's against beer drinking in general ... he thinks when a guest goes out to dinner with someone the guest should order the cheapest thing on the menu as a sign of courtesy. The price difference between the soft drink he wanted her to get and the beer she ordered was approximately $2.

Am I off base in being upset at him, or is he really as stingy as I think he is? He thinks her expecting us to pay for the one beer she drank with her meal shows a lack of maturity. I think he's being an idiot. He said either I tell her she pays for her own beer or he's going to tell her himself.
 
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PoliticAverse (9,566 posts)    Tue Jul 22, 2014, 05:22 PM

1. Based on your description I'm going with stingy. It's not like she ordered a $20 bottle of wine.

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kdmorris (4,883 posts)    Tue Jul 22, 2014, 06:00 PM

2. I'm going to have to go with stingy, too

Especially if he's against paying for her one beer for what you've described as a celebration for her finishing college.
 
Besides... she's not really a guest. She's his family - at least when he married you, she became his family.
 
But, the issue really seems to go deeper than $2 extra for a beer and I'm not a qualified family counselor.

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ginnyinWI (13,976 posts)    Tue Jul 22, 2014, 06:29 PM

3. he's an idiot.

When you invite someone out for dinner at any time, let alone a celebration of her accomplishing the goal of finishing college (!), that certainly implies that the guest can order what they want, within reason. I mean come on, 2 bucks? One beer?? Does he want to remain on good terms with her or not, when she goes off and has a family of her own? Tell him to look down that road before he burns bridges.

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edgineered (634 posts)    Tue Jul 22, 2014, 07:06 PM

4. He is a lost cause.

A similar incident occurred when taking my visiting sister, her daughter and my own daughters to a chinese buffet. My niece returned to the table with egg drop soup. Her mother had a fit. Her reasoning was that she could make egg drop soup at home, it did not matter that her daughter liked it. Am I wrong in thinking that your husband is one of those who eat at a buffet for the sole purpose of being a glutton?

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rustysgurl (72 posts)    Tue Jul 22, 2014, 09:22 PM

5. He Doesn't Care For Buffets

Actually he doesn't care for buffets, because you can't take anything home from a buffet. He prefers restaurants where you can get a doggy bag (go figure).

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laundry_queen (7,132 posts)    Thu Jul 31, 2014, 05:27 AM

7. I vote for being an idiot.

When I was a kid, my parents were pretty stingy - making my brother and I order burgers or pasta while they dined on steak and lobster. I hated it then and I've never done that with my kids. As the person eating the 'lesser than' meal, it makes you feel like crap.
 
However, now as an adult, my parents insist that on my birthday (or similarly, we are going out this week or next because I've also just completed my degree) that I order whatever it is I want. Drinks too. That's how it should be if you are the 'guest of honor'.
 
Your husband needs to understand that as much as it is polite that you don't take advantage of the person who is paying (and he's welcome to do that when someone invites HIM out), it's also in bad form and extremely rude to insist that your guest pay for their own drinks. Don't like it, don't invite them out. Period. If I was to invite someone out to celebrate and they ordered the most expensive thing on the menu plus drinks - oh well. I have to plan for that. If I can't afford it, then I don't take them to that restaurant. It's not rocket science.

I don't think it's your daughter who is showing a lack of maturity - your husband needs to get some manners here. You might also point out to him that the damage he'll do to the relationship if he makes her pay is not worth $2. And he will do damage. Imagine someone telling your that you and your accomplishment isn't worth $2. I'd be pissed.
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Re: primitive needs an opinion
« Reply #1 on: August 08, 2014, 03:40:21 PM »
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Re: primitive needs an opinion
« Reply #2 on: August 08, 2014, 04:16:23 PM »
A DUmmie without an opinion.....is the world ending this weekend or something?

Excuse me, she has an opinion just wants to synchronize it with the other DUmmies.
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Re: primitive needs an opinion
« Reply #3 on: August 08, 2014, 04:37:00 PM »
I'll give an opinion.  That husband a Grade A asshole.  When you take someone out to celebrate, especially something really rare, you're to be a gracious host.  What a prick.  Didn't she see this while dating him?

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Re: primitive needs an opinion
« Reply #4 on: August 08, 2014, 04:38:41 PM »
My opinion is they're all on welfare or soon will be.

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Re: primitive needs an opinion
« Reply #5 on: August 08, 2014, 05:07:18 PM »
Quote from: USA4ME on August 08, 2014, 04:38:41 PM
My opinion is they're all on welfare or soon will be.

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Perhaps the husband didn't realize that SNAP covers alcohol. 
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Re: primitive needs an opinion
« Reply #6 on: August 08, 2014, 07:23:15 PM »
My opinion -

The husband is a butthole, the mother is a primitive, and the daughter would probably be better off if she pulled up stakes.
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Re: primitive needs an opinion
« Reply #7 on: August 09, 2014, 08:33:38 AM »
The rusty grrrl primitive, a mere babe in Skins' woods, is seeking the opinions of strangers about a matter of marriage and family. Not a parent or trusted friend, not a pastor or priest, not a marriage counselor- total strangers. And not just any strangers- the worst bunch of dysfunctional, mentally ill, morally bankrupt moochers and emotional vampires imaginable.

What kind of answers did the rusty grrrl primitive expect to receive?

What would she do with those opinions, use them to reinforce her clear loathing of her husband? "See, everyone thinks you're an asshole." Justify screwing around on him, or killing him in his sleep?

And why would a wife write something like that about her husband, presumably the man she vowed to love, honor, and cherish, to any bunch of strangers on an Internet board?
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Re: primitive needs an opinion
« Reply #8 on: August 09, 2014, 10:36:48 AM »
The Dummy has bigger problems than just a stingy husband and her daughter needs to get out of there ASAP.

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