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Offline franksolich

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question for married couples
« on: July 06, 2014, 09:35:33 PM »
One spouse works the night shift.

The other spouse stays at home; isn't formally employed in any job.

Does the second spouse stay awake all night and sleep during the day too?

Thanks.

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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #1 on: July 06, 2014, 09:59:41 PM »
When I worked nights, my wife had the same day/night cycle I did, although she worked, too.  She just had her hours shifted to a later time.

I know of two other married couples where one spouse is a stay-at-home, and the other works nights.  They both had the same day/night cycle.

None of the couples mentioned have children, though.

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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #2 on: July 06, 2014, 10:01:48 PM »
One spouse works the night shift.

The other spouse stays at home; isn't formally employed in any job.

Does the second spouse stay awake all night and sleep during the day too?

Thanks.

I worked the mid shift, 3:30 pm to midnight for a few years.  My wife basically followed my schedule of sleeping during the morning and early afternoon, and staying awake until daylight. 

Not having any kids made it easier to do.

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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #3 on: July 06, 2014, 10:23:39 PM »
My brother works second shift.  I usually end up following his schedule on weekends because I sleep in late.  During the week, it's just me and the dog and cat.
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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #4 on: July 07, 2014, 09:54:50 AM »
My brother works second shift.  I usually end up following his schedule on weekends because I sleep in late.  During the week, it's just me and the dog and cat.

Hubby worked days, me second shift for years. 

Our Company when it put on a second shift offered the woman a day shift if they had kids.       I had no choice but to go second and found some woman with children wanted second as for the increase in pay.     How the woman did this with small baby's I have no idea, get home at 2Am.   sleep for 5 hours and head back to work at 3PM.   

One clue was most of the woman had family members living with them to help with the child care when they were not working to increase the family income.  Most of these family's have  everyone working to support the family.    If the kids were in school, their JOB was to study hard to make a better future for not just them but the whole family.   

I have no idea what's so ever when the tradition of living apart from a family came to be leaving it up to the Man to single handed to support his family.

I had only a couple hours sleep when the phone rang and Hubby at work called me to turn on the TV. We were going to war.    Half asleep I dragged myself out of bed to watch in a now fully awake mode the 911 disaster. 

  I had to use a sick day as there was no way I could go to work with little sleep and or miss  American History from day one.  This is the way it goes when husbands and wives are on different shifts.

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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #5 on: July 07, 2014, 10:02:31 AM »
When young, I worked all shifts at sometime for awhile and swing shift for 3 years. I liked the swing shift arrangement we had, 7 days on and 2 to 4 days off then 7 days on another shift. During those years I made more money on the side than I did at work...it was a great.
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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #6 on: July 07, 2014, 03:22:55 PM »
When young, I worked all shifts at sometime for awhile and swing shift for 3 years. I liked the swing shift arrangement we had, 7 days on and 2 to 4 days off then 7 days on another shift. During those years I made more money on the side than I did at work...it was a great.

My oldest sons father worked a killer shift.  Each week the shift changed,

No time to adjust to the shift,  just one week a shift, next week another.    It is a wonder the workers did not go crazy.

These were the iron miners under ground did not have a 7 days on a 7 days off,  They had but a 2 day time to adjust to going from a first shift to a second and on to the third shift.

No time for their body's to adjust to the change of internal clock we all have, it takes awhile to change it and when we try to change it ever 7 days --this is a problem.

Had a problem for me to go on second shift, everything changed upside down. My sleep patterns changed radically.  When I had to work 3rd. shift it got me so confused I at times drove home in the AM. on the wrong side of the road-----  It takes a strong man or woman to work the 3rd shift and become able to make good decisions at 5AM.       

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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #7 on: July 07, 2014, 04:09:57 PM »
*Thread hijack*
I work a great shift now, Fri-Sunday, 12 hours per day.

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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #8 on: July 07, 2014, 04:46:15 PM »
*Thread hijack*
I work a great shift now, Fri-Sunday, 12 hours per day.
There were rumors of changing things where I worked 44 years ago to that. A weekend shift of daylight shift this weekend and night shift next weekend. Sounded great to me, work 36 hours get paid for 40 and have 4 days during the week to make money. I was more ambitious back then. :-)

My "X" didn't understand how difficult the graveyard shift could be until she worked it a few times when had been married about 3 years. After that you could hear a pin drop in the house when I was trying to sleep after getting home from the graveyard shift.
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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #9 on: July 07, 2014, 04:52:46 PM »
I'm more than a bit of a night owl to begin with.
But when my wife worked 7p to 7a, I would visit her for her 30 minute lunch break along about 3am.
I would be in bed before sunup.


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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #10 on: July 07, 2014, 05:03:34 PM »
There were rumors of changing things where I worked 44 years ago to that. A weekend shift of daylight shift this weekend and night shift next weekend. Sounded great to me, work 36 hours get paid for 40 and have 4 days during the week to make money. I was more ambitious back then. :-)

My "X" didn't understand how difficult the graveyard shift could be until she worked it a few times when had been married about 3 years. After that you could hear a pin drop in the house when I was trying to sleep after getting home from the graveyard shift.

I just work the days, we don't have a night shift on the weekend, but during the week there is someone in the shop from 5 am to midnight, sometimes earlier, sometime later. Many times someone is working throughout the night, too.

Of course, I'm also on call basically any time I'm not working unless I'm taking vacation time off.

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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #11 on: July 09, 2014, 01:03:03 PM »
I just work the days, we don't have a night shift on the weekend, but during the week there is someone in the shop from 5 am to midnight, sometimes earlier, sometime later. Many times someone is working throughout the night, too.

Of course, I'm also on call basically any time I'm not working unless I'm taking vacation time off.

That 3rd shift is a killer.   We in school learned that when in a hospital this can be dangerous.

We went on a 3rd shift for 2 weeks, and found that the body goes with the cycle of the  bio- cycle that effects all creatures on earth.

Not just the patients but us the care givers.

My daughter was in ICU and I went in to bath her body and brush her hair.   A bad accident had taken place at about 3 am and   all hell broke out in the next room.

A bit later the Charge nurse came in wanting to know what the heck I was doing.   I knew from her stance the poor nurse was under the what I call night stress.

Happens from time to time there is a reason humans and animals sleep at night, not easy to turn a day creature of any kind into a night creature.

Frank, when going in for an operation, try to get the first time in the AM.  The Doctors are wide awake. the first shift crew of the Nurses are alert.   

Second shift not so bad unless an emergency comes at 10 in the evening, by then the nurses and doctors are tired out and just want to go home.    They will do their job but perhaps miss something they should see due to having spent 10 hours with 22 patients.


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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #12 on: July 09, 2014, 01:48:07 PM »
One spouse works the night shift.

The other spouse stays at home; isn't formally employed in any job.

Does the second spouse stay awake all night and sleep during the day too?

Thanks.


I would think when the night shift employee comes home they are going to want to go to sleep.  If they have kids the non job spouse is going to be awake during the day for the kids

Hubby is self employed so he takes care of the kids.  I work all day and come home and cook dinner.  He does the rest  :-)  I gotz that whip!






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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #13 on: July 09, 2014, 02:08:41 PM »
Pretty much the same as Gina. Husband is self-employed, "kid" is now 18 and essentially away all summer (he's a camp counselor and is only home Friday night to Sunday morning) and I work 8:30 am to 6pm, come home and cook dinner if it isn't already made.  (I have a whip too :-) )
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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #14 on: July 09, 2014, 02:14:36 PM »
Pretty much the same as Gina. Husband is self-employed, "kid" is now 18 and essentially away all summer (he's a camp counselor and is only home Friday night to Sunday morning) and I work 8:30 am to 6pm, come home and cook dinner if it isn't already made.  (I have a whip too :-) )

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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #15 on: July 09, 2014, 02:31:09 PM »
:cheersmate:  and we are both hot as hell  :wink:
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Re: question for married couples
« Reply #16 on: July 09, 2014, 02:41:33 PM »
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