http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025096875Oh my.
One detects some family discord.
LaydeeBug (5,925 posts) Sat Jun 14, 2014, 08:55 AM
Family drama, my felon brother thinks he should be in charge of 'the financials' so he is asking the hospital to stop feeding and hydration. Dad's directive is ambiguous in this matter because he states 'no life support' but then states he can have a vent, etc. The problem with that is while on a vent, you can't eat, so you need a g-tube. dad had told me on several occasions that a g-tube "ain't no big deal. They close right up" His directive also states that if there is any question as to his wishes, he wanted his agent to speak on his behalf. I am that agent.
He appointed me to make the call.
He is breathing on his own for a few hours each day, but Hopkins is taking this to court, because they don't want to be sued.
They claim not to have a dog in the race either way, but two doctors declared Dad vegetative, which is not true, but the chorus they started singing when I said that dad did not want to live were he a vegetable.
I hired the same lawyer to represent Dad as who made the medical directive, but Hopkins attorney filed as if he did not have one, and some judge appointed a stranger. The atty I hired on Dad's behalf has filed an emergency motion because she was retained at the time Hopkins lawyer filed his emergency motion, but I haven't heard anything back yet.
My brother is a convict. King pin. On federal release right now. He asked me to buy a refrigerator to store his drugs, I didn't do it, and now this.
I am breathless and frantic, and maybe fighting an uphill battle. Of all the things I thought could take my Dad's life, my brother would have been far down on the list.
Make no mistake: this is about money. The ironic part is, and he doesn't know it, but I am Dad's sole heir. So once they starve him, or dehydrate him to death (and how am I supposed to believe they won't win) they would have made me richer.
We aren't talking dialysis here. We are talking 'something is pumping his heart for him". We are talking about food and water. I have been running ragged to get the house ready to bring him home (you can live at home with a trach and a g-tube and a vent) and my brother thinks he can get himself something.
I will never speak to him again. He is a felon and a disgrace, and a ****ing Republican, might I add.
Can a convicted felon vote?
<<<detects a lie here.
Michigander_Life (148 posts) Sat Jun 14, 2014, 08:59 AM
1. You have my utmost sympathies
Your brother sounds despicable; you must have gotten all the "good person" genes in your family. I've noticed it is common on DU for people to empathize with criminals as products of circumstance, but when it comes down to it, there really ARE a lot of evil people out there.
Borchkins (205 posts) Sat Jun 14, 2014, 08:59 AM
2. You're the agent
You're the decision-maker. If your lawyer doesn't normally practice in elder law, Go to NAELA.org and find an elder law attorney in your area. Your dad chose you to be his advocate.
Good luck,
B
(Wisconsin elder law attorney)
<<<won't believe it until another attorney, the Texas pyramid, the "Gothmog" primitive, checks in
monmouth3 (3,356 posts) Sat Jun 14, 2014, 09:06 AM
3. You are and have been a devoted daughter, seeking only the best solutions for your dear dad.
Ignore your brother, he has no say in what is best. I've been following your story and so admire you...
Sunlei (5,914 posts) Sat Jun 14, 2014, 09:37 AM
5. utmost sympathies, you know your Dad better than anyone. Sounds like you love each other very much.
He trusts you with the heirship, the medical directive. If you think he wants to live and has a chance to survive whatever his main health issue is, you're doing the right thing fighting for your Dad.
If he was my Dad I'd keep on the Doctors asses, make sure he is kept hydrated enough and fed (check the charts and keep tabs on his blood work results) I'm sure you know what I mean.
Your Dad is lucky to have a loving child who will fight for him to have a chance to live.
p/s probably for the best to ignore the brother, he must add so much stress to the situation.
You know, I just thought of something.
(a) a dying father
(b) a brother wanting to get a new refrigerator to stash his drugs
Hmmmmm.
Maybe the ladybug primitive's the Taverner primitive's sister?
