Recurring theme of DUmmies is they have poor relationship with other family members. They are often estranged from them.
Sounds to me that old Tom was doing well for himself regardless of his problems, holding down a job, a paid off condo, handling his own finances and a girlfriend.
When and for what reason did the family get a judge to find Tom needed management over his life and finances ?
The elderly often put their trust and estate in the hands of a lawyer that will bleed them dry. Nothing new here, same old song and dance.
I just hate it when someone of any age is grifted, then family say it is not worth the time or the money to go after the SOB's , the money or property is gone so why bother to beat a dead horse.
This is not to get revenge but to insure the rest of society is safe from being eaten alive by these creeps. Even if the creeps are family to you taking advantage of another family member, stop them before they destroy the lives of other unwitting victims.
Human nature is to justify ones acts, unless one is declared insane there is no excuse for anyone that talks themselves into believing they have the right to take what is not there's.
Heard the old, we are doing this for their own good too many times. Society has a way to deal with the creeps and as they languish in a cell they keep repeating that no good deed goes unpunished.