minivan2 (16 posts)
What do you think of marriage proposals
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Do you want them to be in public? private? don't care?
I hate public displays of affection. So it should be private.
Mainly if it's on TV then it is so cliche
Also, I'm 18 so if I get married I'll be really young, and I don't have a girlfriend.
randome (18,512 posts)
3. 'Proposals' are given far too much melodrama.
A discussion like that should never occur in the context of a surprise among like-minded intellectuals, I would think.
But I LIKE public displays of affection!
JustAnotherGen (8,767 posts)
4. What sparked this question?
minivan2 (16 posts)
9. I was watching the Price is Right today
...
Well, of course you were.
LumosMaxima (417 posts)
7. Private.
And even in private, low-key and not an embarrassing spectacle. I've never been a romantic person. That stuff just makes me squirm.
athena (1,147 posts)
13. Honestly,
if someone proposed to me that way, I would run away as fast as possible.
I'm married, so the question is moot, but I still think public proposals are creepy. There is something manipulative about them. And they're inconsiderate of the person being proposed to, who might not want to be put on the spot.
Nothing sucks worse than someone willing to risk ultimate humiliation by asking the person they love to marry them.
HOW CAN THEY BE SO SELFISH!
randome (18,512 posts)
14. "Surprise! I want to marry you!"
If it's really a surprise, maybe the relationship is built more on spectacle than anything else.
Ah well, people will be people.
kcr (5,388 posts)
32. I agree.
I wouldn't like it either and hate them for the same reason. It comes off as manipulative to me, too.
Nobody wants to love you anyway.
monmouth3 (2,520 posts)
21. The last two I got sucked. Avoid them at all costs....n/t
In_The_Wind (52,946 posts)
26. I honestly don't remember the proposals.
Maybe it's because they weren't special. They just sorta happened.
"I just tend to wake up naked next to people. It's weird how it keeps happening."
tazkcmo (1,055 posts)
29. Entirely uneccesary
and an indirect cause of divorce.
ScreamingMeemie (63,057 posts)
30. "If you can get rid of this trailer, I'll marry you..."
Said my soon to be husband in the living room of my trailer...
...and I loved every word of it because he was nervous, and that's just how it came out.
Nye Bevan (14,024 posts)
34. I don't like public marriage proposals. They put the woman in a very awkward position,
as even if she wants to decline she may not do so as she doesn't want to look like the "bad guy" in a public setting. I have no problem with PDA's such as holding hands, hugs or occasional kisses, however.
Golly, we can only wonder how much gay pride parades irk these Proglodytes.
MADem (96,002 posts)
36. I think they're kinda "bullying" exercises, myself.
The proposer gets down on one knee, asks the dramatic question...and the CROWD. GOES. WILD!!!!!!!!!
The "proposee" is left in the uncomfortable position of either saying "Ewwww, Yes, Yes, AH WILL, AH WILL marry you" followed by the big sloppy kiss and crowd cheers....
....or saying "Uh....no...." and hearing boos and grumbling and stunned silence, followed by All Eyes on the unhappy couple until they flee the venue.
If it's really meaningful I think it should be meaningfully communicated in private, unless the two have already agreed to marry and they're just doing the whole "public betrothal" in order to be publicity/attention "w-words" because they're a happy pair of narcissists.
If you're eighteen, make sure you use birth control, be responsible, and don't even think about getting married until you have more life experience and economic security. You'll likely regret it if you marry too young.
Proglodytes spend so much time telling us sex is beautiful and natural but then they spend every other waking moment to complicate, confuse and degrade human intimacy.
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