Sat Nov 23, 2013, 11:52 PM
Locut0s (4,282 posts)
Anyone have rich conservative relatives who like to deny their wealth?
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Or even get angry at you when you bring up the possibility that they may in fact be wealthy? I've got 2 sets of uncles who are both fairly wealthy, one more than the other, and both of whom are conservative to some degree, one MUCH more so than the other. Both of them seem to like to play mind games with the rest of the family and if the topic of wealth somehow comes up they seem to like to play the fool. "What me? We aren't wealthy" And there is a tone of "how dare you suggest we are", even when the topic naturally arises. Often this comes about in our family when it comes to splitting a bill for something.
Often the rich members of the family want to do something grand and showy for our grandfather, and now late grandmother, and want the rest of us to chip in. When we suggested we should all pay according to our ability, instead of their idea of a very high flat rate, they would get all high and mighty and bothered about the whole thing. Like it's your fault you don't have as much money as we do and how dare you bring up the fact that we have a lot, we hardly have any (*rolls eyes*). This has come up more than once. Recently there was a conversation between one of the rich uncles and our grandfather in which the rich uncle suggested he could get X mount of money for his house which anyone who knew anything about real estate in this city would know is undervaluing the property but AT LEAST 2x! But of course you could never bring up this fact, he would just get angry.
Anyone else have similar relatives?
Yes I do. Except I am the "rich" relative now loconuts.
I grew up fairly poor. I had a "rich" great uncle. Not rich like Kerry... far from it... but he didn't have to worry about money in his retirement. I wanted to be like him. So when I was around 19, I asked him how he did it. He told me that he lived below his means and save up for what you want to buy instead of borrowing for it. He said that 9 times out of 10, you will find out that you do not want/need it after you save for it. He always had a couple of older cars that ran, but they always ran. He had a fairly nice house. I wanted to be like him.
He told me... the man with an 8th grade education...and the man that was far smarter than I was... that you live below your means. You work harder than everyone else. You show up early. You do the shit nobody wants to do and do it with a smile. The raises will come after that. Then whenever you get a raise... you bank that raise. You are already living, so why do you need that money? He said to take every 3rd or 4th raise to keep up with inflation. He said it will be hard, but in 30-40 years you will have a lot of money.
Grandpa Perky told me the same thing as well as Pa Perky.
Ya know what loconuts? I listened to those men. I listened hard and did exactly what they said. Now? I'm gonna have a good retirement and if SS is there it will be fun money.
Now let us look at you. You sit around and whine. That is all you do is freaking whine. Get off your ass, get a job, do it better than everybody else and I don't care if you are a fry cook at Mickey D's, you too will be successful. I made a living in the restaurant business for about 15 years. A pretty good living. Then I got into a different job and make an even better living. You can learn a lot saying "You want fries with that?".
Your problem is you want the success, but don't wanna pay the dues. In short, you are a damned parasite loser. Save us all the grief and off yourself. I suggest a tall building.