http://www.democraticunderground.com/11514643Maraya1969 (10,420 posts)
I am having a real hard time forgiving and deciding what to do with my "boyfriend"
I was obsessed with this guy for months and he treated me horribly. I realize I had a problem. But all of a sudden last week he called me and was all, "please forgive me and told me how he was afraid of being close so he acted like a big shot and pushed people away.
But the the thing is this guy is a horrible alcoholic and I am almost positive he has bipolar disorder. He has spent the last several months in and out of rehabs and psych wards, sober living homes and homeless places.
So I said he could come here. I was very leary. I certainly do not have the kind of feelings I used to have with this man. Come to find out that while he was telling me how little money he had he was going to the ATM, taking money out and getting drunk with it. Thant was right after he got really manic one night
ht.
So last night he was drunk, (and I thought he only had one or two until the police told me he was "inebriated). He was horrible so when he went outside I locked him out of the house. So a couple minutes later a large brick is thrown through my double glass window and glass and all over the living room. I'm still finding it today.
So I called 911 and they caught him and if I filed charged he wold have been charged with a felony. I just didn't feel comfortable with that because I have gotten in trouble in the past and I have always said since then that you don't call the police for someone who is mentally ill. So I just had him taken to a psychiatric ward.
I don't know what to do now. I feel disgust toward him. I feel like I am the one with a hangover. But all his stuff is here and I know he has no where to go except a homeless shelter. So I was thinking that if he wanted to come back I would present these conditions.
1. He had to turn his debit card over to me so he can't pull that crap about not having money and the going to the bank and getting everything he needed to drink.
2. I talk to his doctor, find out his diagnosis, what is his treatment plan and give him his medications, (oh he would
lie to me and tell me he was only an alcoholic and he would not take him medication as prescribed.
3. Take his money out to pay the window.
And that is it. If he doesn't agree to these stipulations he can go to a home.
What do you think?
A "boyfriend" that he/she (I'm never really sure what genders the DUmmies are or which gender they're hooking up with) says treated him/her horribly, was a drunk and probably bipolar, but hey! it might be better now.
It wasn't. The cops are called due to vandalism, but no chargers filed because we don't want the vandals to get in trouble, do we.
A drunk, history of abuse, so when this episode is over, let's bring him back home. BUT FIRST, get some DUmmy advice, some healing white light, folded hands photos. Next will be a ticket to Tucson.
