Are_grits_groceries: Is_she_jealous?

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Star Member Are_grits_groceries (13,412 posts)

Asking for help- Why and what it does both good and bad.
Last week I asked for help here. Thanks to OneGrassRoot I was able to make a request on Wishadoo and have it posted here too. The post I made is here:
Are Grits Groceries
http://www.wishadoo.org/wishlist/199/money-for-repairing-my-car-new-glasses-other/

The good part is that I may receive some money to alleviate my problems. The concrete results are enormously helpful.

I also experienced some less tangible results. I received a little over $300. Each donation lifted my spirits and made me feel less lonely. I had thought about this before I asked, but the intensity of these feelings surprised me. It was a very welcome effect.

The detrimental effect is that I feel like a loser. That can be reinforced by the negative stereotypes around. After being able to make it for years on my own, I can't anymore. Asking brings a hard-edged reality to my situation. It is deflating.

Am I throwing a pity party? I do go through periods imagining myself in unrealistic future scenarios. "Oh woe is me. I'll have to live thru the snow outside with my 2 cats." Snow? I live in SC. My Grandmama's version was "Nobody loves me. Everybody hates me. I'm going in the garden and stick worms up my nose." What can I say? It runs in the family.

I am in no way ungrateful for any help of any kind. The act of receiving help is one of relief as opposed to asking. In addition, people on DU can be kind in many ways no matter the situation. I know those here do what they can.

These are my thoughts. I have no idea if anyone has ever wondered about this. I still need help, but I know I will live through the snow.

Here she is, pontificating on the good and bad aspects of having her pathetic hand out for handouts, most of which she requires to keep two housecats alive. In a nutshell: it's GOOD that people give her money.


Compare this to her distant memories of nabbing exam cheaters, and her glee at wielding the infinitesimal bit of power she had:

Star Member Are_grits_groceries (13,412 posts)

"Oh! My little sweetums isn't going to get into Harvard* because of you!" Teaching "the entitled."


*Insert any college or university here.

I heard this all the time when I had Parent/Teacher conferences because 'little sweetums' had been punished or had not gotten an A+++++++++++++++.

I remember one meeting which was held because I had given 2 students ZEROES for cheating. One was showing the other his answers. It wasn't even close, and they both admitted it. The parents of the 'show-er' didn't think he was cheating. I never heard from the parents of the 'show-ee.'

They refused to believe it was cheating. I refused to debate the semantics of the situation. They could call it 'out of the goodness of his hearting' for all I cared. He got a ZERO. This didn't compute in their universe because ZERO was a temperature or a nickname for a Japanese plane in WWII, but not a grade.

I was told ad nauseum about what cheating was and wasn't. I was also told I would be held responsible for his failure to get into Harvard or Oxford or whatever ultra-elite school that was the flavor of the month. I told them he was in the NINTH grade and that it was the FIRST month of the school year. He had plenty of time to pull the grade up and make an A. He wasn't doomed, and I didn't require ZERO to be written on his forehead in indelible red magic marker like some educational version of Hester Prynne. They wanted to know if she had gotten a ZERO also.(facepalm ran through my mind)

This was the opening of a new play at Hawthorne High School. I didn't realize it at the time, but I was a major character in this offering. I was hounded for weeks about giving the poor, bedraggled little person a retest. His counselor told me that they did that all the time at the middle school he came from. She didn't agree with it, but that's where a lot of it started.

I finally got so fed up with the almost daily conferences with somebody about it that I told the principal it had better stop. I gave her my written resignation and said that I was leaving if I heard one more word about it. I told her that I didn't have another job, but I thought that blowing grass clippings off medians was preferable to this torture. She said to keep teaching and she would take care of it. I thought she should be able to because she was responsible for 99% of it.

I wasn't sure what the parents thought. I wasn't going to send out a form letter to every school about the incident so the child wouldn't be accepted. Nor did I keep a calendar to remind me in 4 years to find out where he was applying so I could haunt the committee that considered possible enrollees.

These types of children were doomed IMHO. The parents refused to let any type of punishment be given because it would spoil the record of their child. I thought it was better to let them suffer the consequences now which were minor rather than bail them out all the time. They wouldn't be able to bail them out of life later on.

When this topic came up as it inevitably did when parents were running interference, I always wanted to tell them to save up because if they weren't using that cash for Harvard later, they might be using it to post a bond somewhere.

(I know people will now jump in to tell me how their child was unfairly treated in some situation. I'm not against a parent coming to the defense of a child when necessary. I'm dealing with kids who are never wrong no matter what.)

What a stupid turd.


Hey, A_G_G? Your attitude is why you're going to die alone and poor, and why your corpse will eventually be gnawed on by your ailing cats until the stench is so bad the mailman calls the cops.

[Linda]

If she was a teacher, what happened to her teachers pension?

[BannedFromDU]

If she was a teacher, what happened to her teachers pension?

Probably goes to Skinner.

[Sprout]

If she was a teacher, what happened to her teachers pension?

If she was a teacher, why doesn't she have health insurance?

[dane]

The detrimental effect is that I feel like a loser

As well she should.  Spending $ that she doesn't have and must beg for from anonymous strangers for two 16 year old cats doesn't sound fiscally prudent.

I know several people who get their eyes examined to determine the strength of correction needed and get the glasses from WalMart and/or similar places.  Reading glasses as well as for distance.

As for getting around - there are numerous services that provide transportation for the elderly/infirm, as well as general house-cleaning.  One here in my small town is (for want of a better term) a 'senior citizen's day care' and offers meals at the site and/or delivered to the home, transportation for grocery shopping and medical visits, and so on.

Just another pitiful DUmmy, expecting to be on the receiving end of the redistribution of other people's assets.

[GOBUCKS]

Sat Sep 21, 2013, 05:04 AM
Are_grits_groceries (13,412 posts)

"Oh! My little sweetums isn't going to get into Harvard* because of you!"

Thu Sep 19, 2013, 07:31 AMAre_grits_groceries (13,412 posts)
Asking for help- Why and what it does both good and bad.
Last week I asked for help here. Thanks to OneGrassRoot I was able to make a request on Wishadoo and have it posted here too.

I like how she describes herself as the bitch teacher from hell at the same time she's trying to pilfer a few bucks from the DUmmies. Strategy. We don't call 'em DUmmies for nothing.

[zeitgeist]

What the heck, I thought Gritty was a former public savant, therefore a union druid, who would retire, riding off over the rainbow to Shangri-La.  Did her unicorn pull up lame down the stretch?  Did she dig through a heapin helpin of Oblameo's horse hazanga only to find her pony had suffocated?  Who has the inside line on poor ole Gritty, the back story?  Shirley one cannot be reduced to begging on the interwebz without a back story.  Did that mean, lecherous Geo. Bush the younger do her wrong? This is hugh and series, an educator, one of the best and brightest, who molded play dough minds into goose steppin socialists, reduced to this.  Oh, the hugh manatees.   

[Dori]

Do teachers pay into social security?

[Mr Mannn]

I always wondered what would happen if conservatives spammed Wishadoo with obviously bogus pleas for money.

[GOBUCKS]

I always wondered what would happen if conservatives spammed Wishadoo with obviously bogus pleas for money.

Uh...you think something on WishaDU! isn't bogus?