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1-Old-Man (2,471 posts) http://www.democraticunderground.com/10023696338I'm just frothing with anger - let me get this off my chestMy wife and I have a friend, once her best friend, who is a ****ing idiot. But idiot or not both of us still love her to death and can't stand to see the sort of treatment she is getting from her family. The lady in question is younger than we are, somewhere in her late 50's or early 60's. She is married with three grown children. She is also a long-time alcoholic and heavy user of illicit drugs. The alcohol has been with her since childhood, the drug use can mostly be attributed to a bad eye infection she fell victim to years ago; it was the pain killers she was proscribed that got her on the path to taking any and all similar medications she has been able to get her hands on. There hasn't been a day in the last 20 years during which she was not inebriated. Her husband is worthless. Her old child, the son, is scary crazy; a violent bastard (not a slur, a fact) who even as a child frightened full grown men. She also has two worthless daughters, possibly the laziest young women I have ever known. The youngest of the two, who still lives at home, is about 20 and weighs three times as much as I do and won't get up to make her own food - mama's got to do it for her. Colleen, that is the ladies' name, has cancer. Mostly its in her throat but it has spread to everywhere. Were it not for her younger sister, a person I would not trust as far as I could throw my pickup truck, she would be dead today. Despite her husband's insistence that there is nothing wrong with her the sister hauled her to a local hospital three weeks ago. She did that after going by the house and finding her emaciated, laying in a bed often soiled, dehydrated, and unable to speak or eat. At this moment she is back in that same hospital receiving chemo and radiation treatments. She's been in there for three days now, my wife has been with her most of that time. And where is the husband? He's at home fiddle-****ing around with his gadgets. Where are the two daughters (both of whom live within 5 miles of the hospital she is in)? Who the **** knows. And where is the son? Haven't seen that ****wad anywhere around either. Despite her failings this is not a mean woman, not in any way imaginable. She was a caring and devoted mother. She would never lie to you, never cheat you, never steal a damned thing from you. She is just a very decent person with a lot of problems and not one god damned bit of support from her own family. I'm so pissed off about this that I'm dam near foaming at the mouth. What in all of creation is wrong with people.
nadinbrzezinski (126,136 posts) 2. You are dealing with a very dysfunctionalLast edited Thu Sep 19, 2013, 01:51 PM USA/ET - Edit history (1)Situation racked in dependency and co dependency. Try to talk to social workers. They might be able to help, and you might add to this abuse. Oh and hugs, you are a good man
The lady in question is younger than we are, somewhere in her late 50's or early 60's. She is married with three grown children. She is also a long-time alcoholic and heavy user of illicit drugs. The alcohol has been with her since childhood, the drug use can mostly be attributed to a bad eye infection she fell victim to years ago; it was the pain killers she was proscribed that got her on the path to taking any and all similar medications she has been able to get her hands on. There hasn't been a day in the last 20 years during which she was not inebriated. Her husband is worthless. Her old child, the son, is scary crazy; a violent bastard (not a slur, a fact) who even as a child frightened full grown men. She also has two worthless daughters, possibly the laziest young women I have ever known. The youngest of the two, who still lives at home, is about 20 and weighs three times as much as I do and won't get up to make her own food - mama's got to do it for her.
the drug use can mostly be attributed to a bad eye infection she fell victim to years ago
Is he even reading what he wrote? A nice lady? A devoted mother? Although he admits she hasn't been sober a day in the entire life of her youngest child who is 20? I'd bet based on the sons issue shes been an addict a lot longer then that and during her pregnancies too. While I'm sorry to hear of anyone suffering thru cancer sadly it sounds like she is reaping what she has sewn and for whatever reason her husband is a big enabler. But by all means blame it in the adult children who it sounds like haven't seen one day if normalcy in their entire lives thanks to that 'sweet devoted shirt of her back' mother. What a load of horseshit. And he's another enabler and another reason why she's still a drunk and her kids are so dysfunctional. But by all means keep blowing smoke up your addict friends ass that it's all her family's fault and she's going to die a miserable drunk. Great friend you are.
