primitive describes road trip

[franksolich]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/11514180

Oh my.

By the way, as one reads this, remember the locust primitive is 31, almost 32, years old.

Locut0s (3,754 posts)    Thu Aug 15, 2013, 11:09 PM

5+ hour road trip that accomplished nothing...

A 5+ hour road trip today to chauffeur my parents around in the car. The trip should have been 2 hours or so but we got stuck in several traffic jams. We got little to nothing done. We had a meal that made us nauseous. My mother has anxiety and control issues and was worried and anxious about every little thing the whole way. She's also a back seat driver when she gets that way. Nagging me the whole way. It was a crappy rainy day.
 
I need to find my own interests and get away from my parents more. I went cause I need the driving practice and there was a free meal in it But the meal sucked.
 
I feel drained

elleng (41,874 posts)    Thu Aug 15, 2013, 11:13 PM

1. Sorry, but

you DID get the driving practice, 3 hours more than you expected!

CaliforniaPeggy (105,363 posts)    Thu Aug 15, 2013, 11:15 PM

2. I think your trip accomplished something, my dear Locut0s...

It brought home to you the necessity of getting away from them and their toxic environment.
 
And of course you're drained! I can just hear your mom. I would be drained too...
 
But it's done now, so take the lesson and go run with it.

Let someone else drive them.

Locut0s (3,754 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 12:30 AM

6. Thanks Peggy. Unfortunately it's harder for me...

It's harder for me to get away. I've been diagnosed by my psychiatrist with an enmeshed personality* with my father. Basically this means we depend on each other emotionally far too much, we copy each other, we have the same worries and anxieties, we get depressed together. It's an unhealthy relationship, I never really developed on my own enough. My relationship with my mother is different but there are a dependencies there as well. I really really need to build up my own personality and character and become independent but it's difficult because of these unhealthy emotional dependencies.
 
Thanks though it IS eye opening to have these bad trips.

*the locust primitive recently bragged about this being diagnosed in him, this "enmeshed personality" thing.

annm4peace (5,211 posts)    Thu Aug 15, 2013, 11:30 PM

4. sounds like me and my folks

big hug.

maybe a good therapist will give us some good advise in dealing with this type of situtation
 
and how to deal with parents who have anxiety.

Locut0s (3,754 posts)   Fri Aug 16, 2013, 12:40 AM

8. Yeah it's difficult because...

My relationship with my parents is too close. I need to become my own person and spread my wings but the multiple emotional dependencies I've built up over the years makes it difficult. Also until I graduate from college and get a good job it will be difficult to move out. So it's difficult for me to separate myself from them as much as I really need to.

olddots (4,069 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 02:04 AM

9. when my relationship with my parents ended other relationships with other people became awkward too but never to the point of parent child relationships .It would be nice to be a Vulcan or purely logical being but maybe that can't exist in life forms .??????

^^^the mad primitive who smashed his paintings rather than cutting off his ear, bringing plaudits from   recently.

Locut0s (3,754 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 03:11 AM

10. I don't know that I'd want to be a Vulcan...

I prize my emotional experiences of things like movies, books, and the arts too much to not want those experiences. I enjoy socializing too, though I find some aspects difficult. I just wish I could rewind the clock and add back in the 15 years or so of social experiences I'm missing from my life. It's difficult to explain what it's like being 30+ and never having stepped away from your parents for more than a week, never been out to a party with friends, never danced, never held hands with a girl, never kissed, never had very close friends, never taken chances, never stepped out of my comfort zone emotionally, etc... I'm exaggerating the importance of some of these things certainly but they definitely add up to something important. Again I don't want to be a Vulcan, I just want to be less of a raw nerve.

olddots (4,069 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 03:33 AM

11. I use the Vulcan thing to get away from reality sometimes --it never works so I understand how you feel .Some of the free meals we have to contend with are like nightmares .How are your family holidays ?

Locut0s (3,754 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 03:54 AM

12. Most of my family holidays have been good. However...

However they have usually also been stressful. My mother has great difficulty spending money and doing so causes her stress. Add this stress to the usual stresses of being on vacation and her other constant anxieties and she can be difficult on holiday. I in turn am easily set off by my parents moods so it's not unusual to have a bad argument or two on almost every holiday trip we take, little blowouts and the like. It's never serious and always resolves itself but I don't think we've ever had a holiday without some small incident.

olddots (4,069 posts)   Fri Aug 16, 2013, 04:13 AM

13. traveling with people equals stress X 200

Did you ever get into one of those settings where it seems like things couldn't get more uncomfortable ? oops gotta crash have dr. appointment at 9 A.M and A.M. is for the birds .

.....and last, but not least.....Dennis the Menace!!!:

Denninmi (5,984 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 04:50 PM

14. Sorry, buddy.

The thing about you is, you know what you need to do, and you are doing it. It's hard, trust me, been there done that. But, it's like a snowball rolling down hill, starts slowly and gathers momentum and mass as it rolls along. You'll get there.

[GOBUCKS]

Denninmi (5,984 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 04:50 PM

It's hard, trust me, been there done that. But, it's like a snowball rolling down hill, starts slowly and gathers momentum and mass as it rolls along. 

DUmmy Dennis the Menace is right!

He's just like a big snowball rolling down a hill, faster and faster.
 
And then it hits a tree and is smashed into a thousand pieces!

Every day, Dennis gets closer to that tree.

[dane]

I need to find my own interests and get away from my parents more. I went cause I need the driving practice and there was a free meal in it But the meal sucked.

Lives with parents, goes on vacation with parents, eats "free meals" provided by those same parens - and complains that the free meal sucked and that he needs to get away from those parents more.

Get a job, pack up, and move out.  Imagine how grateful those long-suffering parents will be.

[Bad Dog]

Enmeshed personality, in layman's terms = no discernible personality.  Loconuts could not manage his underwear drawer without Daddy.  He is well and truly f***** and, he and Mummy will never be able to survive after Daddy dies.

[DLR Pyro]

Little wonder why DUmmies rely so much on the government to get them thru life cradle to grave and can't understand why conservatives prefer to be independent and live without government intervention.

[DumbAss Tanker]

Locut0s (3,754 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 12:30 AM

6. Thanks Peggy. Unfortunately it's harder for me...

'...Seeing as how I'm totally unemployable, wouldn't want to work even if I could, have no money of my own, am entirely dependent on my parents for everything from my bowl of Froot Loops at breakfast to washing my jammies, and only have a learner's permit and no car of my own, and they couldn't even remotely afford to keep up a separate place for me...'

 

[Big Dog]

Locut0s (3,754 posts)    Thu Aug 15, 2013, 11:09 PM

5+ hour road trip that accomplished nothing...

A 5+ hour road trip today to chauffeur my parents around in the car.

Aren't these the same parents who took your loser ass to Hawaii with them, LocoPuffs??

Locut0s (3,754 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 12:30 AM

6. Thanks Peggy. Unfortunately it's harder for me...

It's harder for me to get away. I've been diagnosed by my psychiatrist with an enmeshed personality* with my father.

LocoPuffs, you are as full of shit as a Christmas goose.

"Enmeshed personality" is not a diagnosis. It is nowhere to be found in the DSM. A psychiatrist won't get paid by insurance or Medicaid if he makes up his own diagnoses.

You're just a loser. Accept it.

Locut0s (3,754 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 03:11 AM

10. I don't know that I'd want to be a Vulcan...

I prize my emotional experiences

As do we, DUmmie. Your emo life is the only thing that is keeping you in the running for DUmmie of the Year.

olddots (4,069 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 03:33 AM

11. I use the Vulcan thing to get away from reality sometimes

Word on the street is that the delicate flower DUmmie was being beaten up by a pack of bronies, and had to be rescued by a Sailor Moon drag impersonator.

[Texacon]

Thus is one jacked up man. A man by age only. The rest is well and truly stunted.

KC

[BlueStateSaint]

Thus is one jacked up man. A man by age only. The rest is well and truly stunted.

KC

Hell, The Heiress is more emotionally mature--and she's starting first grade in a few weeks.

[BadCat]

Let's start a dead pool on the locust.

Will it be suicide or will he/it be raped to death in a gay bath house?

[DumbAss Tanker]

Let's start a dead pool on the locust.

Will it be suicide or will he/it be raped to death in a gay bath house?

He's still fairly young, doesn't seem to have enough motivation to kill himself, and seems as futilely hetero as stevenumbers, so my money would have to go on 'Chokes to death wolfing down pizza while on DU at 2 a.m.'

[Linda]

It surprises me how much and how often the DUmmies like to BRAG about their mental disorders. Most people that have mental problems deal with them privately and don't make a public issue about them.

[67 Rover]

Let's start a dead pool on the locust.

Will it be suicide or will he/it be raped to death in a gay bath house?

Lead poisoning, probably injected by the parents themselves.

[BlueStateSaint]

He's still fairly young, doesn't seem to have enough motivation to kill himself, and seems as futilely hetero as stevenumbers, so my money would have to go on 'Chokes to death wolfing down pizza while on DU at 2 a.m.'

Naah--I'm with BadCat, though with this one caveat:

He bottoms for a 'gift-giver' in said bathhouse.

[JohnnyReb]

He says his relationship with his parents is to close......they probably think so too.

[Delmar]

olddots (4,069 posts)    Fri Aug 16, 2013, 03:33 AM

11. I use the Vulcan thing to get away from reality sometimes --it never works so I understand how you feel .Some of the free meals we have to contend with are like nightmares .How are your family holidays ?

Is this an indictment of liberalism in general or is odd lot still talking about Locut0s.

Note to the tortured artiste, the two spaces come after the period or question mark, not before.