Missouri primitive being thrown out as if trash

[franksolich]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1018433846

Oh my.

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 11:47 AM

He is getting rid of me after 10 years.

He says he is tiered of me. That I am not a good housekeeper and am now bring nothing to the table.

He was going to call the cops to get rid of me last night. I begged him to please get me a bus ticket back to Joplin instead.
 
I am loosing my Food stamps due to a paperwork err. They refuse to admit they messed up. I will loose them for a year. My sisters is not talking to me back in Joplin due to Dave alienate them as it is. My Dad.. well that is it own thing.
 
This is the work of one person of course. This Chad guy. He has divorced recently. His ex told me if Dave kept being such a cum with him that he would ruin my relationship. She gave me step by step on what would happen. She even bet me $10 that it would happen just like she said. And it has.
 
After all we have been through. He is just getting rid of me because I can't give him some sort of money. He hurting me just because I am not one of those super perfect cleaning wives. But I never been. This Chad guy had pointed out all my "faults". and had blown them up in Dave's head. Things that was never a big deal is suddenly.
 
This Chad guy has taken away my happiness. In 2 weeks, since Dave got a job with the VA, he will through me on a bus with just the cloths on my back and I will go to my old home town alone and a failure. He says with the way I destroyed his life, that is all I deserve.
 
My heart is broke, my pride is gone, my mental state is wrecked. Why?????? All I did to keep us together. Now I am trash??? He is throwing me away!

Well, if anybody's seen a photograph of the guy, he's not exactly Clark Gable.

Taverner (53,840 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 11:49 AM

1. Big hug from a friend

I am so sorry.

If you want to chat I'll send you my info via PM.

This sucks.

You are not a failure - don't let anyone, including yourself, ever convince you of that

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 11:53 AM

3. I don't know what I am going to do now.

MY resume is shot. Can't get my Transcripts. I will be on the streets alone. Alone in my old hometown where I was once someone.
 
I got rid of Facebook so know I can't beg for forgiveness from my sisters.

Taverner (53,840 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 11:54 AM

4. Why would you need their forgiveness?

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 12:03 PM

8. THey told me he was going to hurt me in time.

I refused to believe them. He did a lot to drive me and them apart. Now I think I see what they were telling me. I just never believe he would hurt me. I really though he would ever throw me away.
 
But with Chad doing what he has done...

I heard them talking last night. That Monster came over while he thought I was asleep. He was telling Dave how much I was like his ex wife and he is glad Dave is taking his advice. That he was telling him since they met in the Shelter that Dave needed to dump me.
 
That Dave can get a way hotter and richer women than me. He has some women for Dave to meet as soon as I am on that bus. It was killing me!
 
And my sisters told me that something was wrong with the way Dave was. We got into some really bad fights over this. I just hope they will forgive me and help me.

kwassa (15,776 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 11:56 AM

5. I am very sorry to hear this.

You destroyed his life? Sounds like Dave takes no responsibility for his own actions. Why is he living out Chad's script?
 
It might be hard to see this now, but if Dave is like this, he is probably not worth being with. Right now you have a heap of troubles on your plate.
 
This really sucks.

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 12:20 PM

13. It hurts for him to say it.

I was the breadwinner for a long time. even when the recession hit I was able to work. I had two jobs and was a full time student when we met. Dave did part time stuff. He did get one full time gig at a convenient store once. Lasted two years till the owner sold it and the new owners fired everyone.
 
But I always came threw. Now I am in a new place with none of my old contacts. It has not been as easy as it was for me. He is the one that came from this area. He said he would help me because he knew this was not my area. He was the one with old family friends.
 
But now, he has broken all the things he said.

JanMichael (21,371 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 11:57 AM

6. You need to get outside of his hearing, and call the local women's shelter NOW

ask them to advise you on how to get pro-bono legal services. After 10 years, you are probably due a little more than the clothes on your back. A judge isn't going to ask you how your mopping skills are. It hurts, but it will hurt less to land on your feet.
 
Your SO sounds like a sorry piece of shit; now...Imagine having some money and being the hell away from that clown.

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 12:10 PM

11. Dave has the phone right now.

And that home wreaker is here using it right now.

It is an Obamaphone. That jerk better not use up all the dam minutes.

He was here last night. I have no clue why he is back this morning! This guy is scaring me.

hollysmom (1,505 posts)   Sat Jul 13, 2013, 12:00 PM

7. I am confused - what is your relationship to this guy?

wife - there are laws and free lawyers see one before leaving.

girlfriend - if you have been together 10 years - check local law,you might be common law wife.
 
employee - offer your services to neighbors - you might be surprised.

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)   Sat Jul 13, 2013, 12:07 PM

9. He has been my senifacant other for 10 years.

We never really tied the knot. We never really felt the need to. But the US government does recognize us as a couple due to the HUD/VASH program.

Tuesday Afternoon (45,528 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 12:08 PM

10. why isn't he the one leaving to move in with the almighty Chad?

I don't get it.

It is your home, too.

He wants something different. Shouldn't he be the one to leave?

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 12:11 PM

12. Yes and no.

This is a HUD/VASH housing set up. with Dave being the Vet, he is primary. I am secondary. I can get tossed at anytime, as I am now.

noamnety (18,517 posts)   Sat Jul 13, 2013, 12:34 PM

17. I have a very small suggestion for you.

I would edit out names here, and remove some of the personally identifying information from your profile. Sometimes we all need to vent and doing it anonymously on a forum works for a lot of people and I don't think there's any harm in that. But when you start combining it with information that can be used to identify you personally, it can add to problems with family, friends, potential future employers. I would hate to see a rant here end up affecting your future job prospects - and it's the sort of thing you might never even know had happened.

[franksolich]

[USA4ME]

$100 says her name is "minority voter" and his name is "Democratic party."

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[Freeper]

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 11:53 AM

3. I don't know what I am going to do now.

MY resume is shot. Can't get my Transcripts. I will be on the streets alone. Alone in my old hometown where I was once someone.
 
I got rid of Facebook so know I can't beg for forgiveness from my sisters.

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)
8. THey told me he was going to hurt me in time.

I refused to believe them. He did a lot to drive me and them apart. Now I think I see what they were telling me. I just never believe he would hurt me. I really though he would ever throw me away.

But with Chad doing what he has done...

I heard them talking last night. That Monster came over while he thought I was asleep. He was telling Dave how much I was like his ex wife and he is glad Dave is taking his advice. That he was telling him since they met in the Shelter that Dave needed to dump me.

That Dave can get a way hotter and richer women than me. He has some women for Dave to meet as soon as I am on that bus. It was killing me!

And my sisters told me that something was wrong with the way Dave was. We got into some really bad fights over this. I just hope they will forgive me and help me.

Here's a thought DUmmyette, maybe if you called up your sisters and told them they were right and you are sorry that you treated them so badly they may help you out and maybe let you stay with one of them. If they do, start looking for a job right away. Doesn't matter if it a job as a door greeter at Wal Mart find something. Don't sit around waiting for them to take care of you. Take some responsibility for your life and do what needs to be done.

I understand that no one at DU will give her that advice so maybe she will lurk here and see this here. The only advice she will get from the DUmp is to get on food stamps and leech off of someone.

[BattleHymn]

I begged him to please get me a bus ticket back to Joplin instead.

Oh HELL no. 

My sisters is not talking to me back in Joplin due to Dave alienate them as it is.

Ok, that makes me feel a little better. 


Somebody buy this primitive a dictionary, good grief.  I think nads has been proofreading and correcting her posts.

[Zathras]

Awwww, poor widdle DUmbass kicked to the curb and thrown out like the trash she is. It gives me a warm fuzzy feeling inside when I read about a DUmbass falling on hard times. I hope it lasts forever.

[Delmar]

This is the work of one person of course. This Chad guy.

This Chad guy had pointed out all my "faults".

This Chad guy has taken away my happiness.

But with Chad doing what he has done...

Why is he getting rid of me and listening to this Chad guy.

From what I can make out of this tale of woe, Dave is her husband and "this Chad" is some outside troublemaker.  Chad probably doesn't even really exist, just some self-destructive manifestation of her own self-loathing.  I wish I had a "Chad", someone that I could blame for everything that has ever gone wrong in my life. 

[Ballygrl]

I'm so confused, who is Dave and who is Chad? and how do they fit into this picture?

[Ballygrl]

Women who continuously pick losers have a problem and they need to get into therapy to rectify the problem because it'll keep happening again and again and again.

[Ballygrl]

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 12:10 PM

11. Dave has the phone right now.

And that home wreaker is here using it right now.

It is an Obamaphone. That jerk better not use up all the dam minutes.

He was here last night. I have no clue why he is back this morning! This guy is scaring me.

Has anyone ever heard someone on the left refer to the Government Cellphone program as an Obamaphone? we on the right do but I never heard someone on the left do it.

[obumazombie]

This could give trailer trash a bad name.

[BadCat]

Oh boy!
This will be the Joplin version of bobbolink, but this stupid loser won't be living in a car.

Hope you freeze, bitch.

[JLO]

Has anyone ever heard someone on the left refer to the Government Cellphone program as an Obamaphone? we on the right do but I never heard someone on the left do it.

I think you are onto something.   

[Rebel]

Has anyone ever heard someone on the left refer to the Government Cellphone program as an Obamaphone? we on the right do but I never heard someone on the left do it.

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[zeitgeist]

I'm so confused, who is Dave and who is Chad? and how do they fit into this picture?

I figure Chad is using her share of the sex or drugs in this relationship.  That help? 

[diesel driver]

From what I can make out of this tale of woe, Dave is her husband and "this Chad" is some outside troublemaker.  Chad probably doesn't even really exist, just some self-destructive manifestation of her own self-loathing.  I wish I had a "Chad", someone that I could blame for everything that has ever gone wrong in my life. 

I don't think Dave is her husband, I think Dave is her boyfriend/roommate/significant other. 

I think Dave is tired of her laziness, her bitching, and her all around DUmbassness.

[FiddyBeowulf]

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 11:47 AM

He is getting rid of me after 10 years.

He says he is tiered of me. That I am not a good housekeeper and am now bring nothing to the table.

He hurting me just because I am not one of those super perfect cleaning wives.

My heart is broke, my pride is gone, my mental state is wrecked. Why?????? All I did to keep us together. Now I am trash??? He is throwing me away!

Maybe picking up a broom every once in a while could have prevented getting tossed out? 

[98ZJUSMC]

Well, long story short, he's probably sick and tired of your shiite.  Then again, he looks like someone who loves the goobbermint gravy train.

...and once again, a failed product of our wonderful public edumakashun system.

Idiot.

Just a thought, but I wouldn't list spelling as a plus on your resume.


OK.  Going waaaay out on a limb here.

Lady Freedom Returns (5,434 posts)    Sat Jul 13, 2013, 11:47 AM

He is getting rid of me after 10 years.

He says he is tiered of me getting  all the time.

That I am not a good housekeeper and am now bring nothing to the table.

Other than an ounce or two every couple of months.

He hurting me just because I am not one of those super perfect cleaning wives.

 Because I couldn't care less.

My heart is broke, my pride is gone, my mental state is wrecked.

Because someone else has to buy my weed.

Why?????? All I did to keep us together. Now I am trash??? He is throwing me away!

Like a cashed roach. 

[I_B_Perky]

I'm definitely not one to pile on to someone, even a dummie, when the love life has taken a turn for the crapper. I will say though a few things stick out.

First we have:

He says he is tiered of me. That I am not a good housekeeper and am now bring nothing to the table.

Bring nothing to the table? Oh we have this:

I am loosing my Food stamps due to a paperwork err. They refuse to admit they messed up. I will loose them for a year.

Then this:

After all we have been through. He is just getting rid of me because I can't give him some sort of money.

Then this:

In 2 weeks, since Dave got a job with the VA,

Then this:

He says with the way I destroyed his life, that is all I deserve.

So the guy has lost his meal ticket and had to get a **gasp** job. Sounds to me like he never cared about you in the first place dummie. BTW dummie... did he ever work the whole time ya all was together? If not, now you know how men feel about gold diggers.

My heart is broke, my pride is gone, my mental state is wrecked. Why?????? All I did to keep us together. Now I am trash??? He is throwing me away!

Look dummie. Love stinks sometimes. Been thru it myself. Been told to get lost and hit the road after a long term relationship more than once. Each and every time it hurt so bad I could hardly stand it.  So what did I do? I moved on. Perky is not gonna stay around when his presence is no longer desired. For some strange reason, the gals would always want to remain friends. I told each and every one of them that I was moving on and it was over.

So what does one in your situation do when that happens? You get up, dust yourself off, get a job, a female room mate to share expenses and move on. He wasn't worth it and you learned a valuable lesson.

5 cents please.

[Bad Dog]

Why is it they always have so much trouble with their transcripts?

[obumazombie]

Why is it they always have so much trouble with their transcripts?

Or lack of.

[BlueStateSaint]

Maybe picking up a broom every once in a while could have prevented getting tossed out? 

But what if the broom is said DUmb****'s primary mode of transportaion?

[jtyangel]

Ok I know it's a dummie but a thought: the boyfriend is seeing someone else. Rarely do men or women get the boot that quickly unless they are looking to move in another. Sorry but although the dummie sounds like well a dummie I do feel for her

Then again how many times did this guy maybe try to get her out and was at his wits ends and resorted to this. Wish I knew more of the story. Hey maybe her guy and this chad are now lovers. If so she's a homophobe if she does not instantly celebrate thier dehumanizing of her so they can celebrate in their gayness. Hater.

[Ballygrl]

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Ooooops, forgot about her LOL.

[zeitgeist]

Ok I know it's a dummie but a thought: the boyfriend is seeing someone else. Rarely do men or women get the boot that quickly unless they are looking to move in another. Sorry but although the dummie sounds like well a dummie I do feel for her

Then again how many times did this guy maybe try to get her out and was at his wits ends and resorted to this. Wish I knew more of the story. Hey maybe her guy and this chad are now lovers. If so she's a homophobe if she does not instantly celebrate thier dehumanizing of her so they can celebrate in their gayness. Hater.

And then too it is entirely possible that she and Chad had a bit of a fling, you know, in a moment of alcoholic/narcotic euphoria, which was confessed to Dave by Chad.  "Hey dude. Yer old lady was really putting the moves on me while you were working the other night, sorry,  ah, you know, a stiff Chad has no conscience, but I just wanted to let ya know, Dude if she'd do me she's probably done half the neighborhood."  It does happen that way too.