Couples who share the housework are more likely to divorce, study finds

[CactusCarlos]

In what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.

“What we’ve seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesn’t necessarily contribute to contentment,” said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled “Equality in the Home”.

The lack of correlation between equality at home and quality of life was surprising, the researcher said.

“One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite,” he said.

The figures clearly show that “the more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate,” he went on.

The rest: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/9572187/Couples-who-share-the-housework-are-more-likely-to-divorce-study-finds.html

 

[longview]

I'm not really surprised.

[JohnnyReb]

Looks like mom and dad had it right all along. From the back door in was her domain and from the backdoor yonder way was his.

[Mr Mannn]

I KNEW IT! Leaving my socks on the floor is really saying, "Honey, I love you!"

[Jasonw560]

My wife asked if I found it on one of the "Man Sites" I visit.

[IassaFTots]

I believe it.  The wife probably gets pissed easier due to the hubby not doing his share right.   

[rich_t]

I believe it.  The wife probably gets pissed easier due to the hubby not doing his share right.   

Bingo.

He ain't doing it right and it adds stress to the relationship.

Ergo.. She should do it all.

 

[IassaFTots]

Bingo.

He ain't doing it right and it adds stress to the relationship.

Ergo.. She should do it all.

 

Truthfully, I don't have a problem with that at all.  As long as he hangs around, to reach stuff up high, and carry the heavy things, like the recycle bin.  I'll admit, I don't like doing some chores, but I will still do them to my satisfaction when I do them.   

[JohnnyReb]

Things I learned in my first marriage.....
1- Never, ever do the dishes....from then on it's YOUR JOB.

2- Don't go clothes shopping with your wife...if it's for her it'll take all day and she still won't have a thing to wear and if it's for you... you don't get to have a say in the purchase. So just tell her what you need....get black oil or grease stains on those pieces you just flat don't want to wear....and say "I'm sorry. I didn't know you like them so much."

3- Women now have equal rights....you still have the right to do all the driving on vacations and if you forget she'll remind you that it's a man's job.

4- There's her money and our money....and you don't get much say in how "our money" is spent and no say whatsoever about "her money".

5- Women have three, that's 3, types of "hot buttons"...there's the mad as hell "hot button"...and it's all your fault...and you know what you did????... then there's the "hot as hell" temperture button because it's summertime ...and it's all your fault because we should be living in Canada....and you know what you did???... then there is the "hot button" for sex....it's like the old find the pea/ball under the shell/cup....no matter which button you push it's never the right "hot button" for sex.... and you know what you did????

[Zeus]

Back in the part of the country where I grew up about 85 - 90% of married females are stay at home moms. They perform all the household chores,if they get help it's from the children. Once the children are grown and off to college or jobs then they might venture out to the world of outside employment. Even then they do the majority of household chores. they might have the husband switch clothes from the washer to the dryer or turn the Crockpot off at a certain time etc. Divorce is practically unheard of, I'd bet it's the lowest in the country.

Marriage has never been or never will be a 50/50 proposition. Once it's established as such it's setup for disappointment/failure.

[Boudicca]

Back in the part of the country where I grew up about 85 - 90% of married females are stay at home moms. They perform all the household chores,if they get help it's from the children. Once the children are grown and off to college or jobs then they might venture out to the world of outside employment. Even then they do the majority of household chores. they might have the husband switch clothes from the washer to the dryer or turn the Crockpot off at a certain time etc. Divorce is practically unheard of, I'd bet it's the lowest in the country.

Marriage has never been or never will be a 50/50 proposition. Once it's established as such it's setup for disappointment/failure.

One contributing factor in my divorce was that I worked more hours than the ex, but when we came home he lounged on the sofa and I did all the housework.  I didn't appreciate it at all.

Second marriage has passed the 28th year mark.  The four years I've worked outside the home, we had a hired maid who came in several times a week.  The rest of the time, he does the outdoors chores, and maintenance on vehicles and our home.  I do the cleaning.  When he does a load of dishes or laundry, I make it a point to thank him.  Because, really, it's MY job.  Of course, I have been known to do a bit of gardening.

It may not work for everyone, but the 50's model marriage has been very happy for us!

[IassaFTots]

One contributing factor in my divorce was that I worked more hours than the ex, but when we came home he lounged on the sofa and I did all the housework.  I didn't appreciate it at all.

Second marriage has passed the 28th year mark.  The four years I've worked outside the home, we had a hired maid who came in several times a week.  The rest of the time, he does the outdoors chores, and maintenance on vehicles and our home.  I do the cleaning.  When he does a load of dishes or laundry, I make it a point to thank him.  Because, really, it's MY job.  Of course, I have been known to do a bit of gardening.

It may not work for everyone, but the 50's model marriage has been very happy for us!

Been married twice, Happily dating and now cohabitating with my boyfriend for 11 years, and have the same situation you do.  It works well.

[Kyle Ricky]

In my house, I do most of the cleaning. The wife does the dishes and laundry. It seems to work pretty well; except for when my OCD kicks in and I am yelling at everyone for being a down right slob who can't clean up after themselves.

[Zeus]

[vesta111]

I believe I just fell in love with Zeus.

I knew when my marriage was in trouble when I came home with the new baby,  fell into bed to be awakened an hour later with the EX wanting to know when I was going to cook dinner.                 

[MrsSmith]

I don't mind doing most of the housework if hubby is busy doing something else.  I do get a little tired of doing the housework, the repair work, the fencing, the building, and the car maintenance while hubby is sitting on his hind end reading or watching a movie.  So we now "compromise."  I just never "get around" to cleaning the house, and he finally gets tired of it, picks up and vacuums.   

On the other hand, my son gets stuck doing both the inside and outside work, all the cleaning, and the laundry... while his stay-at-home wife does the cooking and cares for their one child.  He really has gotten shafted.     One reason they have only one child is her idea of a "fair" division of labor.   

[Zeus]

[Boudicca]

I don't mind doing most of the housework if hubby is busy doing something else.  I do get a little tired of doing the housework, the repair work, the fencing, the building, and the car maintenance while hubby is sitting on his hind end reading or watching a movie.  So we now "compromise."  I just never "get around" to cleaning the house, and he finally gets tired of it, picks up and vacuums.   

On the other hand, my son gets stuck doing both the inside and outside work, all the cleaning, and the laundry... while his stay-at-home wife does the cooking and cares for their one child.  He really has gotten shafted.     One reason they have only one child is her idea of a "fair" division of labor.   

We had some neighbors like your son and his wife, when we were stationed in Germany.  She did nothing and when she was pregnant she'd WAKE HIM UP at 0200 or whenever just to have him keep her company while she was awake.  Of course he had to get up and work, while she slept in until noon or later.  He did everything; she wouldn't even get a driver's license.  The baby was born and he had two people to wait on.

I heard later they got a divorce.  Now she's working! 

[Ballygrl]

My husband and I have no problem with gender specific roles, he takes care of the outside of the house and the cars and I clean the house and do the laundry, he likes to cook once in a while especially on the grill so I guess we split that job.

[Ballygrl]

I believe it.  The wife probably gets pissed easier due to the hubby not doing his share right.   

If that isn't the truth, I like to do things my way in the house, I don't want any help at all.

[Kyle Ricky]

We had some neighbors like your son and his wife, when we were stationed in Germany.  She did nothing and when she was pregnant she'd WAKE HIM UP at 0200 or whenever just to have him keep her company while she was awake.  Of course he had to get up and work, while she slept in until noon or later.  He did everything; she wouldn't even get a driver's license.  The baby was born and he had two people to wait on.

I heard later they got a divorce.  Now she's working! 

I can see why that marriage didn't last. She didn't want a husband. She wanted a servant.

[Boudicca]

I can see why that marriage didn't last. She didn't want a husband. She wanted a servant.

I was so tempted to kick her ass.  She's no doubt an Obama voter these days.

[Karin]

So I'm cleaning the kitchen.  Husband is sitting on sofa, watching a Sport.  He criticizes the way I'm doing something. 

World War III. 

[IassaFTots]

So I'm cleaning the kitchen.  Husband is sitting on sofa, watching a Sport.  He criticizes the way I'm doing something. 

World War III. 

 

Yep. 

[Zeus]

What St. Paul Really Meant by Female “Subordination”
by Howard Kainz

The Second Reading for Sunday, August 26, is from St. Paul (Ephesians 5:21-32), in which Paul offers the instruction in 5:22, “Wives should be subordinate to their husbands, as to the Lord.” Following this Epistle, an optional alternative “shorter” epistle is offered; actually it is only a few lines shorter.  This optional substitute reading is possibly a concession to those who are afraid to read about wives “being subordinate” to their husbands—thus risking sideway glances and whispering among the congregation, or even an occasional radical feminist walking out of church. One cannot imagine the nuns at the LCWR choosing this reading for their Masses; and, taken in isolation, it might imply a subordinate status for women in the Church as a whole.

On the other hand, doesn’t the first verse, 5:21, put the whole thing into perspective?  “Be subordinate to one another out of reverence for Christ,” says Paul.  He obviously is speaking of mutual subordination.

But why the special reference to “wives being subordinate” in the second verse?

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