EXACTFRIGGINTACTLY......go get a damn job and take your mutts with you.
HMMMMMMMM.
The mother comes from an Asian Culture that expects family to live with them. Generations of grandparents, parents and young siblings. A cycle of life, when parents are too old to work they move in with their children and raise their baby's so their children can work and support them in their old age. The baby's seldom have a stranger care for them with all the relatives around.
A good system that insures the grand or great grand parents be around to teach the baby's the religion, culture, and history of their family. The kids learn from the parents of their parents the arts and crafts of their heritage, much like we today look back on Grandpa teaching us to fish and hunt wood work or any skill they developed in their youth
Grandma shows the girls how to sew, cook, clean and how to help them with any new baby's in the family. With parents busting ass at working 18 hours a day, their children know that down the road it will be up to them to continue the cycle and care for their parents and siblings baby's when the time comes.
Difficult for this culture to understand the ways, where a man and a woman marry, go off to live by themselves, have a child and to support the child turn the child over to strangers who just feed and watch their child with no link to the family past. Our ways are totally abnormal to some Cultures.
This poor woman has no link to her past, few that speak her language, no support group, just a stranger in a strange land. This must be very lonely and scared for her with a new born living in a Culture so unlike her own.
She has learned English to survive but her husband and his brother choose to not bother to learn her language or Culture. Both seem to just expect her to SNAP to it and somehow morph into a woman that is like woman born and raised in this country.
The BIL may have a job and contribute to the family and just not understand the fact that when one moves into anothers home they are subject to the rules of the house, by tradition the home is under the womans control Especially when she has children.
The woman and mother may not understand that even if BIL is paying his way that he feels that he has any say in how she runs her home.------Could this be a male ego power play between brothers, could there be some hidden Lust on the part of the BIL ????
Yupo BTDT, BIL lived with us for 14 years, worked very hard at his job but had a learning problem at 55, still could not read or write, could not drive and had to depend on everyone else to get him to the doctors or stores. I fixed that .
