greedy thorn primitive finally does it.

[lastparker]

Surely this is a dupe, but try as I might, I can't find another reference to this post....

greenbriar  (1000+ posts)      Fri May-09-08 11:33 PM
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I finally did it...told hubby he had a drinking problem and better fix it or I was gone
 to my suprise, he said he had been thinking so as well


he thinks the worst is past (admitting the issue) I think the worst is coming

lots of top tier primitives weigh in, but my favorite is:

Blue State Native  (1000+ posts)       Sat May-10-08 07:43 PM
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34. Bet your husband is happy that you are discussing his personal addiction in a public forum on the 
 internets, among strangers he isn't even aware of.

   

 

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x7723605

[DixieBelle]

Oh snap!!!

I don't believe a word she types. She'll be claiming he's relapsed or something and then she'll be saying she's leaving him.

[mamacags]

Or that he died of alcohol poisoning (wink wink)

[mamacags]

mike_c  (1000+ posts)       Sat May-10-08 04:36 PM
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23. go to al-anon....
 Edited on Sat May-10-08 04:36 PM by mike_c
Don't try to control your husband's drinking-- that simply won't be a long term solution and will likely make matters worse for both of you. It's good that HE understands he has a problem, as others have noted here.

I went through many of the same things you're dealing with. I threatened to leave (and ultimately did), poured innumerable bottles down the drain, searched for the hidden alcohol stashes (some were very creative), drank with her, refused to drink with her, yelled, screamed, and fought, cried and begged, and generally screwed things up even further. The point I'm trying to make is that if you can't live with your husband's alcoholism then you BOTH likely need help, and if either of you deny it you'll only end up crashing in the end. Go to al-anon and stick with it long enough to see through the coffee klatch social group atmosphere that often dominates meetings. Read some of the al-anon literature and again, work through the 12-step jingoism and quasi-religious nonsense to the core of the matter: you cannot make things better if your natural response is part of the problem (and nine times out of ten it is, no matter how good our intentions are). You both need support, and to some extent you can both support one another, but you're probably both a bit angry with one another's behavior and that will be your undoing if you let it.

I would have to be drunk 24/7 to deal with MikeC too.   

[FlaGator]

Yeah, but in mike's case "she" was a Praying Mantis.

She's have to be praying to if she lived with him.

[BlueStateSaint]

Yeah, but in mike's case "she" was a Praying Mantis.

She's have to be praying to if she lived with him.

Too funny!    H5s!

[bijou]

Yeah, but in mike's case "she" was a Praying Mantis.

You can joke about it BadCat, but there are some who take that sort of thing seriously.

[PatriotGame]

Or that he died of alcohol poisoning (wink wink)

After reading the tripe from the GreenHorn Public Parasite, death should be a welcomed change for him.

[PatriotGame]

Yeah, but in mike's case "she" was a Praying Mantis.

Too bad for the world she wasn't the Black Widow.

[PatriotGame]

Yeah, but in mike's case "she" was a Praying Mantis.

You can joke about it BadCat, but there are some who take that sort of thing seriously.

Oh crap! I fully threw up in my mouth after revisiting that freak show. 

[Texacon]

greenbriar  (1000+ posts)      Fri May-09-08 11:33 PM
Original message
I finally did it...told hubby he had a drinking problem and better fix it or I was gone
 to my suprise, he said he had been thinking so as well


he thinks the worst is past (admitting the issue) I think the worst is coming

Ahem, he may not have meant what it thinks.  He may have thought it needed to go!   

KC