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MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« on: March 28, 2012, 02:53:49 PM »
Discuss.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #1 on: March 28, 2012, 02:58:29 PM »
Most of the women around here that get divorced had someone alreadt lined up before they split from their husbands....It's the truth.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #2 on: March 28, 2012, 03:00:35 PM »
Quote from: SGT Snuggle Bunny on March 28, 2012, 02:53:49 PM
Discuss.

Does the buddy care?

Will it affect your friendship with either of them?

Is she interested in you?

How do your families feel about it?
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #3 on: March 28, 2012, 03:14:28 PM »
I don't know as there can be a hard-and-fast rule for such a sticky situation.  Where I used to work in Bucksport, Maine, two couples would get divorces and simply exchange.  A weird little town. 

Actually, my current husband got a divorce, and his friend was dating his ex within the year.  He seemed to have no problem with it at all, and they're golf partners today.  No rift happened, in other words.
 

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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #4 on: March 28, 2012, 03:15:37 PM »
Avoid unless you plan on marrying her or moving away. It's only going to lead to trouble at work or home if you do date the ex.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #5 on: March 28, 2012, 04:07:42 PM »
If they were married - never

If they were dating - 14 hours, just make sure everybody sobered up first...
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #6 on: March 28, 2012, 06:19:58 PM »
Quote from: JohnnyReb on March 28, 2012, 02:58:29 PM
Most of the women around here that get divorced had someone alreadt lined up before they split from their husbands....It's the truth.

Same here. My ex was nice about it though,she waited 6 months before moving him into my house.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #7 on: March 28, 2012, 07:59:35 PM »
I would say never.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #8 on: March 28, 2012, 08:07:09 PM »
Quote from: BEG on March 28, 2012, 07:59:35 PM
I would say never.

I don't know your husband.  :-)
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #9 on: March 28, 2012, 11:06:58 PM »
Something tells me I'm gonna get majorly flamed if I comment.  I'm just gonna sit over here and watch.... :popcorn:
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #10 on: March 28, 2012, 11:08:10 PM »
Not into sloppy seconds.

No thanks.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #11 on: March 28, 2012, 11:28:49 PM »
Quote from: Zeus on March 28, 2012, 06:19:58 PM
Same here. My ex was nice about it though,she waited 6 months before moving him into my house.

ouch.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #12 on: March 28, 2012, 11:30:12 PM »
Quote from: NHSparky on March 28, 2012, 11:06:58 PM
Something tells me I'm gonna get majorly flamed if I comment.  I'm just gonna sit over here and watch.... :popcorn:

Since when are you worried about being flamed?!?   :lmao:   :rotf:
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #13 on: March 29, 2012, 12:08:02 AM »
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Re: Re: Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #14 on: March 29, 2012, 12:11:03 AM »
Quote from: NHSparky on March 28, 2012, 11:06:58 PM
Something tells me I'm gonna get majorly flamed if I comment.  I'm just gonna sit over here and watch.... :popcorn:

I agree... :popcorn:
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #15 on: March 29, 2012, 12:25:08 AM »
I'd rather not go down that road.

In my experience, I'd just as soon not have to kill any family or friends.

Some might accuse me of being a nancy boy or whatever.

The thing is that I can control myself (sort of) but...others, not so much.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #16 on: March 29, 2012, 10:18:38 AM »
Quote from: chris_ on March 28, 2012, 11:08:10 PM
Not into sloppy seconds.

No thanks.

What does that mean?  All the women you go out with have never had a relationship before? 
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #17 on: March 29, 2012, 10:27:32 AM »
Quote from: Eupher on March 28, 2012, 11:28:49 PM
ouch.

It's all good. Although  still to this day my ex barely will give me the time of day,I've had a few talks with her boy friend.

Nice enough fellow, not the sharpest dude but seems like an Affidable guy, other than screwing around with married women.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #18 on: March 29, 2012, 10:40:34 AM »
Quote from: Karin on March 29, 2012, 10:18:38 AM
What does that mean?  All the women you go out with have never had a relationship before? 

The comedic opportunities with that one are boundless, but I like chris_, so I'll leave it to the less merciful among us.

 O-)
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #19 on: March 29, 2012, 10:43:37 AM »
Quote from: DumbAss Tanker on March 29, 2012, 10:40:34 AM
The comedic opportunities with that one are boundless, but I like chris_, so I'll leave it to the less merciful among us.

 O-)

I've got to agree with you, DAT . . . I'm letting that one go back down.  Besides, one never knows when chris_ will take over the board again . . .  :tongue:
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #20 on: March 29, 2012, 10:44:41 AM »
:rofl:  I guess I left myself open for that.

Based on my personal experience, I don't think it's a good idea to get involved with a friend's ex-whatever.  I just don't do it.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #21 on: March 29, 2012, 02:26:28 PM »
How about doing your brothers ex GF while they still "see" eachother. Then marrying her?    O-)
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #22 on: March 29, 2012, 02:30:21 PM »
Quote from: Karin on March 29, 2012, 10:18:38 AM
What does that mean?  All the women you go out with have never had a relationship before? 

He likes to take his ladies to dinner first but sometimes its hard to get an iron lung through the door fo the local McDonald's.
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #23 on: March 29, 2012, 02:33:13 PM »
In my neck of the woods, it will get you shot.  Can't say I never wanted to though.  :-)
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Re: MAN LAW: How long after break-up do you wait to ask-out buddy's ex?
« Reply #24 on: March 29, 2012, 03:26:47 PM »
I know of a couple guys back home that married their brothers widows.
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