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5. Women don't march in lockstep with each other
Although you'd think they would on some issues. Maybe they think the word slut and prostitute are OK for women who actually have sex without being married or they despise women who don't go to church or aren't morally upright.
I know plenty of women who love to criticize other women in all kinds of things, from the way they dress to the way they talk or act or parent, or any number of things. I also know women who always want to please whatever man is around, whether it's their husband or their boss or the kids' high school coach. I also know women who feel they are failures unless they have a man around. And I also know women who are very competitive with other women about getting their man and keeping him.
It's not so odd to know women like this and realize they care much more about their social position than anything they may have in common with other women. It may be as simple as they have what they want so issues other women may have aren't of importance to them.
That comment is rather telling, don't you think? Women on the right are being accused of being stupid and unable to think for themselves and yet if we are to march in "lockstep" as you say, then we're supposed to leave our brains at the door and adopt whatever point of view you have on those things you deem "women's issues". And I don't give a flying rip who has sex, how often, whether they're married or whether they're gay, straight, a furry or whatever the latest special group is. While I know it's difficult for you to see people who don't think like you as actual human beings, you'd be surprised by how many "conservative" women actually had sex before they were married. We simply don't advertise it because it's no one's business.
And why shouldn't I want to appeal to men? I'm a girlie girl. I don't care what everyone else is, but that's who I am. Men want to appeal to women, too. It's not a one way street. But the main reason I keep myself as attractive as I can...it makes ME feel good about myself. When I get up in the morning and take my shower with my favorite yummy smelling soap, shampoo & conditioner and then slather lotion on myself I feel pampered. Hell most days, even if I know I'm not going anywhere I'll still put on a little makeup. Because that's MY time. I workout because I like the way I look and feel when I'm fit. That's also my time. My whole family knows if they hear workout music and have to talk to me RIGHT NOW they better put on a pair of tennis shoes because unless the house is on fire or one of the goats is kidding, I'm not stopping. I love being 5' nothing and being able to pack around bales of hay and 50lbs feed bags. As for lockstep, I'm pretty sure there's more women who don't want to slog around in chicken poop & mud everyday than ones that do.
I don't give a flying rats ass what my social position is. You guys sure are fixated on who has what and how much, though. Me, I rarely think about. But the most ironic thing about this whole "philosophy" is, when I was in college and all wrapped up in this wimmin's studies nonsense, all I heard about was how much more compassionate women are than men. If women ran the world there would be no wars, no hunger, no nuclear weapons ("you can't hug your children with nuclear arms") because all that patriarchal oppression was the biggest problem in the world. But how "compassionate" is it to be so full of rage when people don't think exactly like you? Even when you guys are making up stories about how you got one up on some stupid conservative you exhibit an arrogance that shows NO empathy towards another human being.
But I get it, the most important issue facing women today is keeping abortion (oh, pardon, a "woman's right to choose"...sounds so much more compassionate that way) legal. I can understand why a man might not be opposed to abortion. It's not connected to them, especially if they have no emotional connection to the woman. It's an abstract so "getting rid of it" at that point, I can see how a guy might think that's just fine. But a woman? From the first moment I knew I was pregnant that was MY baby. That first little flutter when you know it's there is amazing so how can it be okay to think about it as a mass of tissue to be discarded? The one thing they got right in my feminist studies (though the application of it was WAY off base) was that women are the more nurturing, compassionate of the sexes, as a general rule. That's by design. I love feeding the little squirrels and the birds and even use elbow grease instead of chemicals unless I absolutely have no choice. For heavens sake, I feel bad when one of my chickens dies, let alone a tiny human being. I'm supposed to want to save the planet, but not the future humans to inhabit it, protect it and care for it? It makes absolutely no sense. I'm simply unable to think that way.
Cindie
