Are Grits Groceries misses her Snowball

[Vagabond]

AGG bemoans the loss of a pet 50 years ago.

Are_grits_groceries  (1000+ posts)        Sat Nov-26-11 06:23 AM
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I was in the Wayback Machine. I found some pics, and I shouldn't have gone.

This is understandable, we all have pictures somewhere of people we lost and miss.
 

I have found brazillions of pics in the last few weeks. They have made me laugh, smile, cry, and feel melancholy. I found some today that immediately brought back intense rage and hurt.

Your a primitive, intense rage sums you up.

At first I found pics from elementary school. My 3rd grade class picture is a hoot. Such innocence. I can remember every name, and it's been 50 years.

I can't remember third grade, it doesn't matter, and it's only been 30 years.

Then I found a photo that sent me into another realm and a tailspin. I was holding my white cat named Snowball. I had another adult cat called Mamacat who was Sowball's mother. Snowball had gone and had kittens much to my surprise.

Imagine that, an unspade kit having kittens.

I loved all those cats and kittens beyond all measure. They were my buddies, my friends, and my family.

Well, I can certainly understand that.

Well, after Snowball had her kittens, my Daddy had a fit. He began wailing about the cost of keeping them and what a burden they were. One day he made his decree. He was sending Mamacat and one kitten to my aunt who lived on a farm. I could keep one kitten. The rest were going to the pound. To say I was devastated was an understatement.

So you wanted your Dad to ignore the needs of his family for a bunch of cats?  That money may have been the difference between food on the table or not.  You would have cared then.

I begged him to let me find homes for them when they were old enough. I begged him to let me earn money to have Snowball and Mamacat spayed. He wouldn't listen. I cried alll the time. I couldn't help it.

Isn't it your side that always says kids should be allowed to focus on school and not have to work?  Your dad thought you needed to be allowed to just go to school and play like a normal eight year old.

One day I was packed up with Mamacat and her one kitten. We were sent to my aunt's. I don't remember how long I was there. When I got back, Snowball and the kittens were gone. The pain and guilt I felt were overwhelming. I cold imagine her feeling lost and scared and wondering where Was.

So your dad found them a home where they could be cats and be of benefit to your aunt, yet maybe you could still go see them.

I am crying now. Silly, huh?

Yep, just like a DUmmie.  Always remember the bad, never the good.

I hated my Daddy with every fiber of my being, and I still do even though he's been gone for 30 years.

We have arrived.  The very essence of a DUmmie is the holding of hatred.  Your dad loved you.  He's gone.  Let go of the hate.

I am bereft once more after more than 50 years. The melancholy is upon me.

DUmmie Are_Grits_Groceries.  Full of hate and melancholy for 50 years.

[GOBUCKS]

I hated my Daddy with every fiber of my being, and I still do even though he's been gone for 30 years.

Because of a housecat.
If that's not the essence of DUmmitude, I don't know what is.

[DumbAss Tanker]

...So, remember, don't be a dick to your kids, or they might turn into hard-over Liberal moonbats.

This has been a public service announcement.

[jtyangel]

Is this person serious?  Really? I'm not going to get in a pissing war with them, but suffice to say I went through some REAL issues with my own father(and mother)--they both are pretty narcisstic for one, but I love them both very much just the same. I know they are flawed, just like me, just like everyone and just like everyone I'm sure they have their regrets. Do I wish things had been different? Certainly. Do I want my entire life to be about things that happened 25 years ago? Absolutely not. Do I want to never keep working towards a relationship I'd like to have with them? No, I hope things always continue to improve so I'm not the one with regrets when they are gone from this world into the Lord's arms.

What amazes me about dummies like this is they would put aside the most egregious of crimes against OTHER people to forgive murderers and terrorists, yet they continue to live in rage against a person who helped give them life over a ****ing household pet that was given away in the interest of the family's needs. 

[vesta111]

Is this person serious?  Really? I'm not going to get in a pissing war with them, but suffice to say I went through some REAL issues with my own father(and mother)--they both are pretty narcisstic for one, but I love them both very much just the same. I know they are flawed, just like me, just like everyone and just like everyone I'm sure they have their regrets. Do I wish things had been different? Certainly. Do I want my entire life to be about things that happened 25 years ago? Absolutely not. Do I want to never keep working towards a relationship I'd like to have with them? No, I hope things always continue to improve so I'm not the one with regrets when they are gone from this world into the Lord's arms.

What amazes me about dummies like this is they would put aside the most egregious of crimes against OTHER people to forgive murderers and terrorists, yet they continue to live in rage against a person who helped give them life over a ****ing household pet that was given away in the interest of the family's needs. 

I am torn here after working with seniors in Nursing Homes, and my own blood.   82 year uncle whose wife passed away looking at old photos of his first adult years and pictures of the woman he married and 3 children as they grew just smiled at the memories.  Pictures of him with parents and grandparents, he smiled.

Then we found a picture of him at 10 years old with his first dog his grandgather had given him.----He Cried.

[jtyangel]

I am torn here after working with seniors in Nursing Homes, and my own blood.   82 year uncle whose wife passed away looking at old photos of his first adult years and pictures of the woman he married and 3 children as they grew just smiled at the memories.  Pictures of him with parents and grandparents, he smiled.

Then we found a picture of him at 10 years old with his first dog his grandgather had given him.----He Cried.

Just a note Vesta. The key there may be '...his grandfather had given him'. Sometimes it takes seeing an object long forgotten that was given by a loved one to rush back memories about that loved one we had shelved for a while. It may be less about the dog and more about the fact that his grandfather had given it to him.

Another side note, when I have gone through pics, I can go through quite a few and sometimes it is the culmination of feelings and then one just gets set off for some reason. It's not that photo 1-20 did not elicit an emotional response, but that each ensuring photo built the emotional response to the point of breakdown.

All that said, what is there to be torn about? Holding a 50 year grudge against one's dead parent because he took most of the kittens and their mother to the pound in the interest of making sure his own family would not sacrifice for the animals is not normal. I don't care how beloved the pet is; it is pathological. The father did not kill the animals, throw them over a bridge in a bag, toss them by the side of a road...he took a couple to a sibling of either he or his wife's to happily chase mice on a farm and he took the others to the pound for the mother to finish suckling and then hopefully be adopted out. This person needs to seek help if they really are still holding on to hatred of that magnitude.

[Boudicca]

Doubtful this is really about the cats.  The woman obviously has unresolved issues with her father and if she hasn't let them go in 50 years probably never will.  I could understand if he abused her, in any fashion, but surrendering cats to the pound doesn't even constitute abuse of the cats, let alone her.

[JohnnyReb]

Just a note Vesta. The key there may be '...his grandfather had given him'. Sometimes it takes seeing an object long forgotten that was given by a loved one to rush back memories about that loved one we had shelved for a while.

In my case, it was a pair of rabbit dogs that was given to me 58 years ago today. My daddy paid $8 for the two and then had to lie to mama and say that the colored man that worked for us had given them to me. It was years later when I learned the truth.

The male disappeared shortly after I got them but the female, "Kate", was with me every step I took outside for 10 years. Excuse me, I got something in my eye.

[Ballygrl]

When we lived in NY we had 2 dogs, we had to get rid of 1 when we moved to NJ, it was really hard on my Parents and it was really hard for me, almost 40 years later I still think about that dog and I have such guilt about us having to do that.

[vesta111]

Doubtful this is really about the cats.  The woman obviously has unresolved issues with her father and if she hasn't let them go in 50 years probably never will.  I could understand if he abused her, in any fashion, but surrendering cats to the pound doesn't even constitute abuse of the cats, let alone her.

Anyone remember the Smothers Brothers TV show where at some time in the show one would blast the other with " Mother all way liked you better then me"

Familys do have long standing problems, some that rip the familys into fractions for 50 years or more.

Rather then get down to facts, it is easy to find another reason for dislike of a family member.   Uncle bill shot my dog, later he put me through college, but I will never forget he shot my dog.

I have not talked to my sister as she a straight A student got a car for graduation and when I a C- student got $500.00  --Been 15 years but I still have never forgiven my parents.[ not me an acquaintence]

Then there are the kids that move away from home leaving the old folk with just one child to care for them.  After 30 years the parents die and leave all to the one child that was for them day and night for 30 years.
Syblings fight the will and the lawyers get 3/4 the estate.

Worse is the parents die and split the estate amoung all kids including those that they have not seen in 20 years.  The Care givers for 30 years promissed by parents for all these years  of care  to be their heir, find out, parents lied just to insure one child would care for them.

Now please dont give me the crap of children should give up their lives to care for ageing parents expecting nothing in return.  To give up lives, Carears, perhaps marriage to take over the duties of their syblings to find  the parent lied to them and they are not placed in valuable more then the sysblings that stayed away for 20 years.

So better to blame all this on the Cat taken to a shelter.  To face reality is difficult 50 years after an event, hard to face reality tomorrow Morning.    

 

[Vagabond]

In my case, it was a pair of rabbit dogs that was given to me 58 years ago today. My daddy paid $8 for the two and then had to lie to mama and say that the colored man that worked for us had given them to me. It was years later when I learned the truth.

The male disappeared shortly after I got them but the female, "Kate", was with me every step I took outside for 10 years. Excuse me, I got something in my eye.

I had a dog that must have been the runt of the litter because he was smaller than the others about his age when I found him and looked half dead.  Just a mutt, with a hound of some sort predominating.  He just sorta came when I called out Mutt once a few days later so the name stuck.  He was with me everywhere until I had to leave for the Army.  I still miss that dog.

[tanstaafl]

Anyone remember the Smothers Brothers TV show where at some time in the show one would blast the other with " Mother all way liked you better then me"

Yeah. But it was always Tommy Smothers telling that to Dick when loosing whatever argument was going on at the time.

And Tommy was always pissed because Dick had a pet dog.

Tommy's pet was a chicken.