missing kids

[vesta111]

Why are all these children missing and found dead due to the parents ?

 I had one missing kid at 18 month old, I went nuts until we found him asleep in the closet in a pile of to be washed clothes.

I can understand a parent with a child missing, until I found my child I was a wreck.  Had the child not been found in my home, I would have lost it.   AS it was the 20 minutes looking for the child was the worse minutes in my life, my heart beat very fast, I went into tunnel vision, the other kids left my mind, I was looking for my baby, nothing else mattered.

How do people manage with a child lost, missing from their bed or crib????  How do the mothers with missing children  even be able to speak, to go on with the life, the frantic search, climbing on the roof or down into the cellar. 

When one has a missing child no matter the age, it changes the lives of all, the parents and siblings, grand parents, aunts and uncles on both sides of the family.

Is this a new post abortion we have now spread about the land.?  Mothers who can abort baby's  but don't are now taking to post abortion for the baby's that annoy them, cost them money and interfear in their lives ??

Sorry for the rant but I so not understand why the parents of missing children's are not out there looking for them.

Why are they in-closed in their homes and not out there themselves looking for their child, hell walking the streets or climbing trees , going to friends homes and asking questions.

Every day we get news casts about missing toddlers,  what the Hell is going on????

[Evil_Conservative]

I'd like to know the same thing.

Authorities found a dead toddler in the St. Louis area yesterday.  The mom said she put him to bed at midnight and she "overslept" until 11am.  When she got up, she noticed the boy was missing.

In the baby Lisa case, I'm almost positive the mother has something to do with that one. 

If my daughter went missing, I wouldn't sleep until I found her.  I wouldn't have time to go on the 5pm news and declare my innocence.  I'd tell the stupid reporter to put down the microphone and help me find my daughter.

[longview]

I'm with you two.  I would be looking until my child was found or I breathed my last.  Sometimes children will wander off out here, and I've never heard of people sitting around like the little one is going to wander back in.

[MrsSmith]

I'm with you two.  I would be looking until my child was found or I breathed my last.  Sometimes children will wander off out here, and I've never heard of people sitting around like the little one is going to wander back in.

Yep, I've had my own toddler and a 9 year old wander off.  In both cases, I was frantically searching, had my other kids and all their friends searching, and had called the police (not that they helped at all.)  We found the toddler 3 blocks away, swinging on someone's swing set, and the 9 year old in the parking lot where I worked, waiting for me to get off work.  (she obviously got there well AFTER I got off work)

My next door neighbor's toddler wandered off with their dog a few years ago, and they came over to see if he was at our house.  We scattered then, too, my daughter found him 3 blocks away "walking the doggie."  

My brother once lost a 3 year old on the farm, again frantic search.  After almost an hour, they fearfully began to drag the duck pond when my father had to use the restroom...found the missing child asleep on the toilet.    

[vesta111]

Yep, I've had my own toddler and a 9 year old wander off.  In both cases, I was frantically searching, had my other kids and all their friends searching, and had called the police (not that they helped at all.)  We found the toddler 3 blocks away, swinging on someone's swing set, and the 9 year old in the parking lot where I worked, waiting for me to get off work.  (she obviously got there well AFTER I got off work)

My next door neighbor's toddler wandered off with their dog a few years ago, and they came over to see if he was at our house.  We scattered then, too, my daughter found him 3 blocks away "walking the doggie."  

My brother once lost a 3 year old on the farm, again frantic search.  After almost an hour, they fearfully began to drag the duck pond when my father had to use the restroom...found the missing child asleep on the toilet.    

Yup, kids are not dogs that one can tie up or put in a basement. 

Kids are escape artists, curious and one cannot be with them 24/7.  We have to with  a wish and a prayer put them down for a nap and cook dinner, and tend to older children in the family.

Oldest son, at 3 years old put down to nap while I tended to another child awoke and decided to investigate his Jack in the box.   Some how he got one of the inside metal parts to pierce his thumb.  He came running out screaming with hand trapped in the toy.   I knew a service man was at the neighbors house so I grabbed son and ran to get help cutting the toy away.    This he did and we saw a 3 inch piece of metal had screwerd his thumb from end to end.   

Neighbor ran to my house as I was in the middle of changing the baby to watch him and the serviceman drove us to the base clinic.   Any of you have had to take an ill or injured child to a base clinic knows after a few visits what to do, I walked or ran in with the child in my arms handed him to the first person wearing white announced that I was pregnant and proceded to pass out.

What fun raising more then one child, I awoke in the dispencery to see my boy with a huge bandage on his hand-----no tears----showing off to everyone his OWIE.  Big smile on his face at all the attention.

Sitting back and looking at some of the things we kids did and survived----after 4 kids I now wonder how I survived the heart stopping moments the kids gave me.

For any person with little folk to loose track of  the child is the scariest thing I can think of.  To just have to expect the unexpected accidents and  be on CALL 24/7 when awake or asleep is mind bogglling.

These missing babys really bother me.   I have no idea how I managed to keep mine all alive untill the were raised up, alone with Hubby at sea for years.  These parents that LOOSE children are all much older then I was at 26 with 4 kids, I am an only child and had no idea of how to raise kids.   Some how I muddled through just on instinked, no family around for help.

Why do we have a rash of dead or missing babys today, is it the abortion thought that has woman loosing their maternial instinct.  You know when pregnant woman have the mark of holding one or both hands over their bellys even before they begin to show.??

Very troubling for me------post or after aborting the loss of maternial nature---By the pricking of my thumbs, something evil this way comes.     

   

[Evil_Conservative]

Speaking of accidents, we live in an upstairs unit.  This summer, we were getting ready to go to the pool.  I was outside with my daughter, getting ready to lock the door.  She took a few steps backwards, thinking she was in my way.  She started to fall down the stairs.  I grabbed her by her ankle and she gave me her hand as I pulled her back up.  We were both shaken up pretty badly.  She ended up with just a few scratches on her elbow.  There is no way that fall would have ended well.  That was the scariest day of my life with her.... so far.  I know how kids are and know there are more of these days ahead.

[vesta111]

Speaking of accidents, we live in an upstairs unit.  This summer, we were getting ready to go to the pool.  I was outside with my daughter, getting ready to lock the door.  She took a few steps backwards, thinking she was in my way.  She started to fall down the stairs.  I grabbed her by her ankle and she gave me her hand as I pulled her back up.  We were both shaken up pretty badly.  She ended up with just a few scratches on her elbow.  There is no way that fall would have ended well.  That was the scariest day of my life with her.... so far.  I know how kids are and know there are more of these days ahead.

We often forget that when a missing child alert is put out that as a parent and a neighbor of the family next door or down the block, until the child is found dead or alive, we do get so paranoid that the next child to go missing will be ours.

How to explain to our children what has happend to their friends younger sibling.   How to tell the kids what to say or not say to a classmate at school whose parents are in the news every day begging for the return of their baby.

 How to explain that the kids freedom was now limited from no fault of their own. Why Mom was up at all hours checking on them or headed for the SPCA to get them a big dog, No longer able to walk a block away to a friends house alone, how to explain to kids why Mom now distrusted the mail man, meter readers or had the new big dog sleep in their rooms at night.

Kids have little thought about what they say, they just ask or say things they wonder about.  My 5 year old girl at the time a friends father was carted off to the hospital after a heart attack asked her friend if her Daddy was going to die. Honest question but it so disturbed the daughter that she became hysterical and had to be sedated.  Me, I did not handle this well at all, I jumped down the throat of my little girl for asking a normal question of a friend---

Out come was if my daughter saw something odd, she would not tell or say anything to us.  Bad move for me, one I have regretted for years and years.

There is so much that goes on with a missing child, not just for the parents but for everyone that has any connection to the family.  Everyone is under suspicion, friends neighbors, repairmen or  any neighbor with more then a speeding ticket.   People go wild with speculation on the family of a missing child, this goes on to regular friends of the parents who visit often.

Seems everyone WANTS to believe this was a random thing by an outsider, we cannot believe this has been done by anyone we know, or God forbid by any member of our family, our Church or the parents of the missing child.   

Then all so often we find the killer is the child's own mother, HOW in Hell do we explain that to our kids??

Rant over for now.