Thank you for letting me post the link here, I wasn't sure if it would be right to do so or not.
We have tried a number of time to get Bobby away from his wife, but the state always sided with her. Bobby had short term memory loss and makes decisions based on emotions not reasoning. The doctors have not declared him incompetent so when asked where he wants to live...he always says home with his wife. He can't seem to remember all the crap she has done to him.
There is an advocate investigating his case now...I found out this morning. I am not holding my breath because of the past. But I am keeping my fingers crossed that this time, they will see what's happing to him and make some changes.
You know, if they said we could not see him, if he got the care he needs, I wouldn't like it but I could live with that. I just can't bare to see him like this.