This is pretty simple. Point out, seeing as it was deliberate, that the young lady has a manipulation in order to gain attention issue and tell him to consider himself lucky she showed it this early in the game and spared him being shackled further to her in a miserable existence. Like you do in any other situation, tell him he may not see this now because he's hurt but there will be another(probably many) that will make him forget all about her. As for the physically angry, tell him to go run or do somethign that will release that aggression. Like anyone else worked up like that, he needs an outlet for the adrenaline. Exercise, exercise, exercise and then crash for the night and he'll have a new perspective in the morning. Time to talk to him about how shitty women can be and I know this is a difficult discussion for the liberal woman who thinks her gender can do no wrong, but you might spare your son some missteps to get real with him. There are some real pos out there for females and he needs to hear it...from a female.
Some of this stuff seems common sense if you've have had any real men in your life whether they be brothers, father, stepfather, husband, boyfriend, etc. If you don't get it, you go back to one of the ones I just mentioned and get that advice, not the weak tea version of men that DU claim in their numbers.
