"Are you a fag Boy?"

[MrsSmith]

vicarofrevelwood (153 posts)  Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list    Sat Mar-26-11 09:56 AM
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"Are you a fag Boy?"    Updated at 9:56 AM
   
to an adolescent boy this was a hurtful thing to hear. Even more so when the Taunting Voice wasn't a school yard bully but My own Father, Standing over me after he smacked me down to the floor.

I was 16 Years old and like most my age in the 70's I was out late drinking beer and bonding with a few Male friends. He wasn't angry about the beer, but something had "clicked" In My Dad's head that made him think I was gay.( Their was a reason for this But it is of no importance here.) This almost same thing would happen several more times before I would be old enough to Make a living and get the hell out of HIS house. He Passed When I was 19, Knowing what happen to him as a Boy Makes me feel sorry for him. He did the Best with what he had. I wish I could have helped him.

I was an odd duck to Dad, I was a musician, Not a sportsman, could sing like a bird, Not fight like Joe Frasier, Hung out with Herds of people in various groupings, Most of them Odd ducks too. It is likely some of them were gay and though Dad could Feel it, as long as I didn't what did I care. I was a teenager, For Christ sake! All I wanted to do was, Play music, Meet girls, Get laid, and have a little fun.

The type of abuse Dad inflicted on Me was typical for me. One would say even "Normal" as if getting your ass beat down for suspicion of being Gay was normal. My step mother, Bless her Soul, would egg him on, she had her own motives,(R.I.P. Lena, I hope you got what you wanted, in abundance.) Why did this occur? I had no Idea, like I said I was a Teenager, it was the 70's. Although When I found out what happened to My Dad when he was a Boy, I walked away from Dad's Whole Family. I didn't need to be with people who were so wrapped up in their own world to not even care. But that is another story.

Like I said, I was a Teen, I was Into Girls, Dated several, I liked them on the Thin side, a red head stole my heart, My best kept secret; I didn't get over her till I was in My forties. Told her so one day when she was feeling down about her looks. (She still is a looker.) When My Dad Looked at her for the first time, he told me, "you can do better than that Boy." I thought he was nuts. No as a matter of fact, that proved it!

Fast forward to 26. It was some time after My separation, (Not the Red head), and I ran into a long lost Acquittance, Pumping all night gas, while going to school. (The red head was her sister.)This in turn lead to a camping trip with about 15 People she knew, and I was to meet. all of these people became my friends. I'm 53 at this writing, and They still are My friends.

Albert, Or as we knew him IB, and I got on well. IB was An accomplished Musician, People savvy, and all around fun person to be with. We became close and he soon became My confidant. In the 9 months that followed the group of 15 or so grew in Numbers but it was IB at the Heart of things. Party planner, Idea man, the Go to Guy. All this time I was still quite a Homophobe, and made no bones about it. Though Soon My perception of the world was to change, and IB's hand was heavy on that change.

Hind sight being 20/20 I still can't believe I was ever a HomoPhobe. It's sorta like looking at some poor Idiot who was letting irrational fears make his mind up for him. (Hey you Tea party people take heed) When fear drives your Life, rational thought has no room to thrive. What you may loose can be of the worst kind of detriment to your life. Thank The Heavens I had a good guides at this time.Q.Those days that came and went were some of the best times of my life.

In the company of these Friends I learned "The Truth" About IB. He was gay. Their was talk about An old Flame of IB's that was causing concern. 'Seamus' had dropped in out of the Blue, And 'HE' was, Mumble, Mumble, Blah Blah Blah is what the conversation turned into inside my ears at that moment. This was a shock to me, I mean shake me to my core kind of shock. Sounds Stupid to you? Walk a mile in My "Kid shoes" and you'd know. I was a Homophobe raised by a Homophobe. Their was no room for reasoning for open mindedness about this in my childhood. A fag, was a fag, was a fag. those who defended them were just as bad, and most likely fags too. The Lies and rumors about the Whole thing fills me with the urge to regurgitate today. But Then it was 'accepted fact'.

While the the conversation in the room shared concern about IB droned incoherently on. I was trapped inside my own mind fighting a battle that raged unlike any i had ever fought before. I knew at that moment I had a choice. Give up the friend I had come to know and Love so well, or pack up and go away. Some how, some way, I still can't recall how or why. I chose to listen to a more rational voice in my head that simply told me, "You trusted Him for a reason, Don't be a fool. Only a fool throw away his gold." all the fears, and Lies I was taught as a child, all the accusations, the derision, What "fags" will do to you if given a chance. I some how in the back of My head managed to tell them to S.T.F.U. I was gonna stick with My Friend.

IB was my Band Mate, adviser, friend and Bro. This Man Helped Me Get My Head straight.(I had a Lot of Baggage back then.)I never felt threatened By him, My Children loved him, and still talk about him. The people He chose to surround himself with, would defend him in a heart beat. That more than anything else Spoke volumes. I can't say my Homophobia just up and died. However it was from that point, on the decline. I gave it credence no longer. IB was My friend, from then until he Passed away peacefully in his sleep 5 Years ago this May. He lasted long enough to know who My Future wife was and Gave his approval.
R.I.P. Albert, I still miss you my friend.

O M G, is this Vesta's MOLE???

 

[Vagabond]

I'm going to guess that this piece of street cred writing is to smear christians and conservatives as homphobes.  The Dummies still haven't ever read the bible.

[Chris_]

The random capitalization gave me a headache.  I couldn't read any of that.

[Boudicca]

Zoned out during the first paragraph.  This seems like a long "true confession" for a newbie.  Is it one of the tombstoned coming back to enact revenge by hogging all the bandwidth?

[Revolution]

And why does this primitive just Capitalize words at Random. Does it Have any grasp of Grammar, and sentence/Word structure at All?!

[GOBUCKS]

And why does this primitive just Capitalize words at Random.

He's a Faggot.

[jukin]

That was a whole lot of random words when a simple "YES" would have sufficed.

[Revolution]

He's a Faggot.

  The chuckle get's you a hi5. And I agree with the above, but without mass drama, the primitives lose themselves.

[ChuckJ]

I'd like to take just a minute to clear things up for the DUmmies.

"Homo" is latin for man.

"Phobe" is from the word "phobia" which generally means an irrational fear.  Sometimes the word "phobe" is even used to mean a strong dislike.

So the word "homophobe" would appear to describe a person that had an irrational fear of men or a strong dislike of men.

I don't have an irrational fear of men nor do I have strong dislike of men. I am not a homophobe. I just don't agree with homosexuality and think that it is abnormal.

[Ballygrl]

In the company of these Friends I learned "The Truth" About IB. He was gay. Their was talk about An old Flame of IB's that was causing concern. 'Seamus' had dropped in out of the Blue, And 'HE' was, Mumble, Mumble, Blah Blah Blah is what the conversation turned into inside my ears at that moment. This was a shock to me, I mean shake me to my core kind of shock. Sounds Stupid to you? Walk a mile in My "Kid shoes" and you'd know. I was a Homophobe raised by a Homophobe. Their was no room for reasoning for open mindedness about this in my childhood. A fag, was a fag, was a fag. those who defended them were just as bad, and most likely fags too. The Lies and rumors about the Whole thing fills me with the urge to regurgitate today. But Then it was 'accepted fact'.

That's funny, I've always been a Republican, my childhood friend was gay, I invited him and his partner to my wedding, my Parents never raised me to think there was something wrong with people who were gay. Read what most Republicans and Conservatives actually say, they don't give a hoot about someone who's gay, they have a problem with an agenda being shoved down their throats and special rights, same thing with Atheists, you're free to believe what you want but don't shove your beliefs down our throats.

[MP_Sarge]

I must not be gay enough.  It doesn't seem to have had a deleterious effect on my grammar or capitalization.

Really though, since when does memorializing someone involve multiple paragraphs of your own life's story.  Attention whore, much?

[Evil_Conservative]

What you may loose can be of the worst kind of detriment to your life.

Why can't these 'morans' understand that loose and LOSE are two totally different words/meanings?

[GOBUCKS]

Why can't these 'morans' understand that loose and LOSE are two totally different words/meanings?

For the same reason they can't understand that "it's" is a contraction for "it is" and not a possessive, and for the same reason they insist that we "tow the line", and for the same reason they're compelled to use an apostrophe when writing "plural's". They're DUmb. Unfortunately many on our side are as DUmb as the DUmmies in this regard.

[blitzkrieg_17]

I'm going to guess that this piece of street cred writing is to smear christians and conservatives as homphobes.  The Dummies still haven't ever read the bible.

It is a stretchy at best.

[NHSparky]

He wasn't angry about the beer, but something had "clicked" In My Dad's head that made him think I was gay.( Their was a reason for this But it is of no importance here.)

Could it have something to do with the dick in your mouth?

And seriously, I couldn't give a damn if dude was gay, but it's beyond attention whoring, not to mention horribly written and a chore to read.

[I_B_Perky]

That's funny, I've always been a Republican, my childhood friend was gay, I invited him and his partner to my wedding, my Parents never raised me to think there was something wrong with people who were gay. Read what most Republicans and Conservatives actually say, they don't give a hoot about someone who's gay, they have a problem with an agenda being shoved down their throats and special rights, same thing with Atheists, you're free to believe what you want but don't shove your beliefs down our throats.

Same here. I have a coworker, since retired, who is a lesbian and she and her significant other are the sweetest old ladies I have ever known. Only time I ever saw them displaying affection in public was... well never. I have two gay male coworkers and they seem nice enough. None of them have ever tried to force the gay agenda down our throats. Keep in mind this is West by God Virginia too and gays are not well treated here. Marrying your 15 year old sister, on the other hand, is perfectly OK. 

[dandi]

I'd like to take just a minute to clear things up for the DUmmies.

"Homo" is latin for man.

"Phobe" is from the word "phobia" which generally means an irrational fear.  Sometimes the word "phobe" is even used to mean a strong dislike.

So the word "homophobe" would appear to describe a person that had an irrational fear of men or a strong dislike of men.

I don't have an irrational fear of men nor do I have strong dislike of men. I am not a homophobe. I just don't agree with homosexuality and think that it is abnormal.

Thank you. "Homophobe" has for a while now been the Left's way of painting those who consider homosexuality  a perversion as being mentally ill. Of course, their fellow travelers in the media have made its usage common, too.

Stories like this are DU's version of a "born again" testimony, only with DUmmies it's an embrace of sickness and confusion and foulness. Whether it's homosexuality or drugs or abortion or worship of socialist secular humanism, it's all dark and dank and possesses an undercurrent of hatred for those who disagree with them.

[Ptarmigan]

I'm going to guess that this piece of street cred writing is to smear christians and conservatives as homphobes.  The Dummies still haven't ever read the bible.

I have seen homophobes who are not Christians and conservatives. Cough! Michael Crook! Cough! Fred Phelps!

[BlueStateSaint]

You realize that there is a banner ad is for a gay dating service . . . 

[franksolich]

You realize that there is a banner ad is for a gay dating service . . . 

I dunno; mine's for Stainmaster.

[NHSparky]

I dunno; mine's for Stainmaster.

Same thing.  Or Bill Clinton.  They all work.

[FreeBorn]

 

[Big Dog]

vicarofrevelwood (153 posts)  Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list    Sat Mar-26-11 09:56 AM
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"Are you a fag Boy?"    Updated at 9:56 AM

blah blah blah...Daddy hated me...blah blah blah

What was the point? Why doesn't he just go pee on Daddy's grave, put on his big girl pants, and get over it?

[Odin's Hand]

vicarofrevelwood (153 posts)  Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list    Sat Mar-26-11 09:56 AM
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I am surprised the DUmmy didn't work into the stretchy that his old man was simultaneously casting a vote for Gerald Ford when he was "abusing" him.

[Traveshamockery]

What a drama queen!  Literally.