You know, I think she started this thread because she's called hubby some pretty nasty names and was looking for some validation like "oh, everyone does that". Maybe she's in the midst of a mid-life crisis...she seems to be at that place in her life where she's dissatisfied with the way things are. Her husband didn't turn out to be some international super-spy, jet-setting around the world with her...he's just an ordinary guy who works hard to take care of his family and provide them with a few extras. Deep down (or maybe not so deep) she knows he's a good man, that she should try harder, but she can't get past HER missed expectations. She didn't end up the "Indiana Joan" of middle school history, dashing off to ancient ruins in South America, finding lost Incan treasures. The closest she ever got to greatness was when she took her class to the King Tut exhibit a couple decades ago. Oh sure she loves her daughter (as long as she's not too much in the way) and she has no problem taking her husband's gifts or going on cruises, but she's entitled SO much more than this.
Being the husband of a democrat he probably gave up trying to make her happy a long time ago and now just tries to stay out of her way. Oh, there were probably signs when they were dating (but when you're in love or think you are, you can overlook a lot of things)...feminists just seem to get angrier and uglier with time. It's that waking up in a rage and going to sleep in a rage that does it, I think. There was a time when he even fought back, but it's not worth it any more. It's easier just to let her yell and scream so she'll get it out of hers system and shut the hell up. And of course since she can't get a rise out of him she pushes even further...calling him more vile things every time she's feeling unhappy. Heck, I wouldn't be surprised if it turned out SHE was the drunk and not her husband. We can't all be Mata Hari...too bad she can't just count her blessings, but I guess that's not possible when you're wallowing in self-pity.
Cindie