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JDPriestly (1000+ posts) Wed Jul-14-10 04:49 PMResponse to Original message10. For the sake of their child, I hope they can work things out. My advice (from an old woman with a long, happy marriage): Move as far away as you can from Alaska. Florida might be good -- lots of cheap housing and work to do there. Then there is Nebraska where unemployment is low and life is healthy and good for children.STAY OUT OF THE LIMELIGHT. It is stressful and your marriage will flounder under stress.Live a simple life. Survive on what you earn. Accept gifts from your parents only so long as no strings are attached.Take a course in non-violent communication. Find a church in which YOU both feel comfortable. Don't choose one in order to please your parents or anyone else. Find a community and mutual support in your religious affiliation.Be as independent as a couple as you possibly can be. Rely on each other. Trust each other. Always tell the truth to each other. Always accept the truth the other one tells you, no matter how it hurts you, no matter how it disappoints or disgust you. Remember all wounds can be healed if you are willing to forgive not just your spouse but yourself.Enjoy and cherish the good moments. There will be lots of bad ones, so you need to celebrate the good ones.Distance yourself from your parents -- far, far away. That's not because of who they are, not because there is anything wrong with them. That is so you can find out who you are as a couple, so that you can build a relationship that is right for you -- not necessarily one that is right for your families.Good luck. Marriage is tough, but 40-50 years down the road, it is the best thing in your life. That road is long and sometimes rocky.
-- good for you JDP..
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