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rebecca_herman (458 posts) Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Tue Dec-29-09 09:55 PMResponse to Reply #1011. *shrug* Sorry, but I disagree Edited on Tue Dec-29-09 10:04 PM by rebecca_hermanI think both parents are being selfish here and not behaving like adults with the child's best interest in mind. My personal view of the situation is that they both want to get back at each other but the one who is really being hurt and punished is the child who did not choose to be born into this situation. The bio mom shouldn't have disobeyed the visitation order, but tearing the child away from the mother she has lived with and been cared for from birth isn't right either. While it's an overall sucky situation I just disagree that the exact choice the judge made is best for the child at this point. Years ago maybe yes, at this point, no. That child is going to be in for a world of trauma and hurt and I feel very very sad for her. Sorry but I just find it so hard to believe that someone who truly loved a child would tear them away from their life that way. I just can't ever agree with taking a child away from the parent they have lived with their *entire* life unless serious abuse (physical or sexual) is going on. People who disrupt adoptions after 5 years because something wasn't signed correctly and they have regrets piss me off too. Too many people think of themselves, of what they want, of where/how they want that child raised and not the trauma the child will endure for the adults to get their way.I feel like too many here (from every thread I have read on this topic) is jumping on the hate the bio mom bandwagon because of her religious beliefs. I don't think that has anything to do with anything. I would feel the same way whether it's a lesbian couple or an athiest heterosexual divorced couple where one parent is willing to remove a child from the only home they have ever known to get custody. I think it's crappy of the parents. I think it's absolutely wretched for the child. I don't feel the child is being put first in this situation.
