primitive discusses marriage of daughter, divorce, in cooking forum

[franksolich]

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Oh my.

elleng  (1000+ posts)        Wed Mar-03-10 07:16 PM
Original message

MY DAUGHTER IS ENGAGED!

Taken this as my home turf!

The empressof all   (1000+ posts)        Wed Mar-03-10 07:23 PM
THE IMPERIOUS PRIMITIVE
Response to Original message

1. Oh that's wonderful

Tell us the scoop. Is she gonna have a big wedding...and most important...What are you gonna have to eat!

elleng  (1000+ posts)        Wed Mar-03-10 07:56 PM
Response to Reply #1
 
3. THANKS empress!

Y'all will probably laugh at this, but I know NUTTIN' at this point! Her SISTER sent me pics of the ring, but that's it!

We've expected this, but actually thought it would not officially happen for some time! Don't know what precipitated it at the moment, but maybe because he, sil, just had surgery concluding no intestinal cancer, and seems to have 'repaired' his crohn's. They're both in Grad School, going well.

SO, I'll ask y'all for 'rules' about what's a mother to do? We live apart, that is, I'm near DC, and daughter and sil are near Philly. What am I supposed to do? Stay tuned!

The empressof all   (1000+ posts)        Wed Mar-03-10 08:07 PM
THE IMPERIOUS PRIMITIVE
Response to Reply #3

5. I'm so excited for you!

My daughter already announced as a child that she would have her wedding at Disney. Last we visited the mouse she reminded me.

I'd be on the phone finding out what her thinking is. Now a days lots of people have destination weddings which always seems like fun to me. Philly and DC are close enough that if she wants you could go down to help get her dress and look at venues. I'd offer to do what ever she wanted as long as it's within reason...Unless of course you're loaded and it's off to the Plaza in NY for the wedding of "MY" dreams.

elleng  (1000+ posts)        Wed Mar-03-10 08:20 PM
Response to Reply #5
 
6. Not loaded here, and in court w. her father about MY income!!!!

Fortunately or not, I kind of know her thinking, and its not at all similar to what mine would be! Husb's family, in ohio, had 'big' weddings (for there), but she's already looked at BIG hotel in DC! If that's what they expect, I'll tell her to discuss that ENTIRELY with her father (we he and I CAN'T talk about $!)

I suspect this wouldn't be for some time, but will ask her quickly about that, and offer to do 'what ever,' as you suggest. What about things like engagement parties etc??? Don't want to appear to be TOO much of a klutz (for her) tho I've never cared much about what others think! (Daughters just CAN'T understand that!)

Okay, some background.

The elleng primitive is ostensibly an attorney, married to (but now separated from) her husband, also an attorney.

During one of the last meetings between the estranged pair, the husband gave her a bunch of forms regarding their mutual real-estate to read and sign.

The elleng primitive--allegedly an attorney, remember--just signed them without reading them.

And thus the current fix the elleng primitive's in.

The empressof all   (1000+ posts)        Wed Mar-03-10 08:53 PM
THE IMPERIOUS PRIMITIVE
Response to Reply #6

7. You know....I think the "rules" have changed a lot since I was young

I didn't have any family support for my wedding...or much else either (I know...sad story) Anyhoo I think now a days most young people are throwing those old traditions by the wayside in terms of who pays for what and who hosts what. I think just asking her what she needs and offer what you are able. I know for me that time of "engagement" was probably one of the happiest in my life. For me it was like discovering a third leg or something and finally feeling "stable and settled" It was a great benefit to my life at the time. But everyone is different. I had a friend who cried for a year before she got married. As a Mom though I think your greatest gift would be to relieve stress as best you can.

elleng  (1000+ posts)        Wed Mar-03-10 10:24 PM
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10. I hope to relieve stress! MINE!

Unfortunately I'm in litigation w. her father, my 'husb,' who is rather ~, so I'm not very hopeful. Daughter does tend to have 'nervous' times, but needs more help than I can give her, as to that. (One reason she's with her guy is that he seems to have the ability to soothe her.)

I guess its somewhat fortunate that we don't live near one another. I am curious to know where she wants to have it; her 'old' friends are here, near DC, and his family and friends near Philly, where they're located and likely to remain. SO if its there, they get to do the 'work.' If here, her father gets to figure out how to pay!

UhOh, just thought of this! Hope she asks her sister to be maid of honor! They don't always get along!

Gotta stop thinking!

Stinky The Clown  (1000+ posts)        Wed Mar-03-10 07:45 PM
THE SPARKLING HUSBAND PRIMITIVE, #05 TOP PRIMITIVE OF 2009
Response to Original message

2. YeeHAW!!!!! Congrats!

[JohnnyReb]

DUmmie says, "Daughter does tend to have 'nervous' times, but needs more help than I can give her, as to that. (One reason she's with her guy is that he seems to have the ability to soothe her.)"[/color]

Is he her drug dealer or just a poor, unlucky, bastard that's gonna get stuck with a 'nervous' moonbat.

[formerlurker]

The elleng primitive is ostensibly an attorney, married to (but now separated from) her husband, also an attorney.

During one of the last meetings between the estranged pair, the husband gave her a bunch of forms regarding their mutual real-estate to read and sign.

The elleng primitive--allegedly an attorney, remember--just signed them without reading them.

And thus the current fix the elleng primitive's in.

Frank, there is no way on God's green earth that she is an attorney.   I think ANY attorney would start to have convulsions if asked to sign documents without reading them.   

[formerlurker]

DUmmie says, "Daughter does tend to have 'nervous' times, but needs more help than I can give her, as to that. (One reason she's with her guy is that he seems to have the ability to soothe her.)"[/color]

Is he her drug dealer or just a poor, unlucky, bastard that's gonna get stuck with a 'nervous' moonbat.

Nice commentary from mom isn't it?

[franksolich]

Frank, there is no way on God's green earth that she is an attorney.   I think ANY attorney would start to have convulsions if asked to sign documents without reading them.

Well, that's what she said, when it happened.

And lest I get into trouble with lurking primitives, I have to take what they say at face value, as 100% of the whole accurate truth.

[Karin]

"Tend to have nervous times."  This means she's the sort to hurl china against the wall. 

I would never have a destination wedding.  This puts so much burden on the guests, and it assumes/requires everyone to have boatloads of disposable income, just so you can be the center of attention on some beach.  No way, princess.

Miss Manners has a new book out, Weddings with Dignity, or something.  The DUmmie should get the book. 

[The Village Idiot]

The Empress sure likes mentioning how often they visit Disney World.

[Celtic Rose]

The Empress sure likes mentioning how often they visit Disney World.

Seriously.  It it no surprise that her daughter, when she was a little girl, wanted to get married there.  Sounds like it was a main vacation destination for them.

[Karin]

Oh yeah, I forgot that.  Married at Disney World?  Now that's too corporate for me.  Also, it's tacky, inappropriate, inelegant and just plain goofy (sorry).  DW is for kids.  Not for taking solemn oaths in front of God and country.  We don't swear in presidents at Disney World, do we?   Have some *******ed sense.  I'm not a stick-in-the-mud, and I love a good fun rowdy wedding, had 2 myself.  But have some dignity where required. 

[AllosaursRus]

DUmmie says, "Daughter does tend to have 'nervous' times, but needs more help than I can give her, as to that. (One reason she's with her guy is that he seems to have the ability to soothe her.)"

Is he her drug dealer or just a poor, unlucky, bastard that's gonna get stuck with a 'nervous' moonbat.

Hmmmmm......I was thinkin' pimp!

[The Village Idiot]

Seriously.  It it no surprise that her daughter, when she was a little girl, wanted to get married there.  Sounds like it was a main vacation destination for them.

Its also another DUmmie saying "Look at me, I have money"

[Celtic Rose]

Its also another DUmmie saying "Look at me, I have money"

Well, yeah, that's a given 

[DumbAss Tanker]

DUmmie says, "Daughter does tend to have 'nervous' times, but needs more help than I can give her, as to that. (One reason she's with her guy is that he seems to have the ability to soothe her.)"[/color]

Is he her drug dealer or just a poor, unlucky, bastard that's gonna get stuck with a 'nervous' moonbat.

Heh, sounds like ol' elleng and her ex are in for Hell on Earth, with a needy and high-strung moonbat daughter expecting the divorced, near-broke, and not-speaking-to-each-other successful (cough) attorney parents to lay on the Princess Di wedding for her!

Let the games begin!