Being "hateful" is inherited by the DUmmies

[thundley4]

WillBowden   (1000+ posts)               Tue Feb-09-10 08:52 AM
Original message
What is the worst thing one of your parents ever said to you?
   
Mine:

I used to write. Prodigiously. I'd write short teen novels that were about 130 - 150 pages handwritten. I never showed them to anyone. One day, though, I wrote something that I was so proud of. I took it to my dad and handed it to him. He handed it back to me and said, "What are you wasting your time on that shit for? It's never going to amount to anything."

I was 14.

I took everything I ever wrote and threw it in a box and got rid of it. Oh, and never wrote again.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x9245933

raccoon   (1000+ posts)           Tue Feb-09-10 08:58 AM
Response to Original message
1. When I was a preschool kid, I liked a draw a lot.
   

I remember one time I had a piece of typing paper and was taking it to the kitchen to draw something.

I encountered my father who grabbed the paper from my hand, balled it up and threw it in the trash.

That isn't something he said to me, but I think it qualifies.

I feel your pain. 

Haole Girl   (1000+ posts)               Tue Feb-09-10 09:02 AM
Response to Original message
3. That is so sad Will
   
My mother said, once, "Even rats learn."

I remember the sting.

When someone brags about how they can cut a person down

with their tongue, I don't exactly see it as a compliment.

Yet DUmmies do that to all conservatives and  are proud. 

Scout   (1000+ posts)           Tue Feb-09-10 01:22 PM
Response to Original message
4. "You're more bother than you're worth."
   
i'm sure my mom heard that from her mom, and she didn't say it a lot, and had stopped saying it at all before i got into my teens... but, still...

Aw geeze man, if that still bothers you as an adult, then it is true.  Almost every kid hears that at some time or another.

Haole Girl   (1000+ posts)               Tue Feb-09-10 01:25 PM
Response to Reply #4
5. Verbal abuse is one reason I never had children
   
It is cyclical.

Cycles can be broken.

petersond    (1000+ posts)             Tue Feb-09-10 01:59 PM
Response to Original message
9. Most of the worse things came from my mother
   
as a matter of fact, I'm pretty certain 100% of it was from my mother.

"You embarrass me"

"Wish you were never born"

"I ****ing hate you"

"I ****ing hate you"

"You are so ****ing stupid"


A lot of things.

Are you by chance gay?

EndersDame   (1000+ posts)               Tue Feb-09-10 02:15 PM
Response to Original message
11. My mom told me at age 16 that I looked like a fat slut
   
Edited on Tue Feb-09-10 02:16 PM by EndersDame
Oh and I am and was a size 4/5

Do you dress like a slut?

Deep13   (1000+ posts)           Tue Feb-09-10 02:17 PM
Response to Original message
12. Too many to count.
   
The worst of it was punctuating her cruelty with affirmations that she loved me as a mind control technique.

RushIsRot   (1000+ posts)             Tue Feb-09-10 02:56 PM
Response to Original message
15. My mother responded to the question of my birth that I was a
   
"Happen so."

I wasn't planned. I was an accident. I wasn't particularly wanted, and I think she resented me until the day of her death.

woo me with science   (1000+ posts)           Tue Feb-09-10 02:58 PM
Response to Original message
17. Has another month passed already?

Ouch.

ThomCat   (1000+ posts)           Tue Feb-09-10 07:04 PM
Response to Original message
24. When I came out of the closet
   
"I've got one son that gets arrested and does drugs. I thought I had one son that would turn out okay, but instead he's got a problem that's even worse."

Yes, being gay is worse than being a drug abusing criminal.

bluethruandthru   (1000+ posts)           Tue Feb-09-10 07:09 PM
Response to Original message
25. When I was six....
   
"You're too fat for ballet lessons".

undeterred   (1000+ posts)             Tue Feb-09-10 07:34 PM
Response to Original message
27. My mother told me   
   
Edited on Tue Feb-09-10 07:36 PM by undeterred
that I gave my dog cancer. She said he got cancer because I let him jump in the city fountains to cool off in the summer.

I went to great lengths to have him treated for the tumor, which was cured. He lived 8 years after he was cured of cancer.

At one point she apologized, but in the next sentence she told me it was my fault again.   Everything bad that happens is somebody's fault.

This was just a few years ago. The stuff parents say to you as an adult can be just as bad as when you're a child.

Victimhood  Learn it, Live It, Love, right DUmmies?

[Chris]

The poor little princesses.

[USA4ME]

Haole Girl 
   
My mother said, once, "Even rats learn."

Your mother was wrong, Skin's island being the evidence that she was wrong.

.

[Specbid]

petersond    (1000+ posts)             Tue Feb-09-10 01:59 PM
Response to Original message
9. Most of the worse things came from my mother
   
as a matter of fact, I'm pretty certain 100% of it was from my mother.

"You embarrass me"

"Wish you were never born"

"I ******* hate you"

"I ******* hate you"

"You are so ******* stupid"


A lot of things.

You should listen to your mother.

[Carl]

Oh for the love of God..if even half of this tripe is honest then it just proves there is a case to be made for sterilizing anyone that identifies themselves as a DUmmy.

[Mike220]

Call the waaaaahmbulance.

The worst thing I was ever told was... well hell I can't think of anything. But my mom isn't hateful like DUmbasses.

[thundley4]

Call the waaaaahmbulance.

The worst thing I was ever told was... well hell I can't think of anything. But my mom isn't hateful like DUmbasses.

My dad once told me , "If you get thrown in jail, plan on spending a few days there."  (underage drinking)

[Chris]

muffin1  (1000+ posts)       Tue Feb-09-10 08:03 PM
Response to Reply #9
30. I heard very similar things.  On good days, she wasn't hitting me when she said them.

She's dead now - I'm not sad.

But look at us now! Fabulous, we are, fabulous!

Really.

[BEG]

My mom called me a hypercondriac once. But I showed her, I had a stroke.   

She actually called me that two days before I had the stroke. The thing is, my symptoms were so vague that even I was beginning to think I was a hypercondriac. Who thinks that you will have a stroke at age 28?  I really don't think it was mean, I'm sure she was just sick of hearing me bitch about being sick.

I'm sure my mom said things that were mean when I was a kid, parents are only human. I can't remember anything specific. My Dad wasn't around enough to say anything mean.   

[Lord Undies]

Once, my mother told me I needed a haircut.

My dad, he told me he was always proud of me even if he didn't say it. 

I don't know how I survived......

[The Village Idiot]

Once, my mother told me I needed a haircut.

My dad, he told me he was always proud of me even if he didn't say it. 

I don't know how I survived......

Bad news. You've been in a white padded room for 35 years and everything you remember since then has been an illusion. In fact Jimmy Carter served 8 consecutive terms and today we live under Shariah Law as a Saudi protectorate.

[delilahmused]

What is it with these people and their overwhelming need to publicly wallow in victimhood? I could tell things that would make your hair stand on end but what purpose would it serve? I may not have had control over what happened to me when I was a child but I can sure as hell control how I react to it and the quality of my life now. I just don't get why you'd want the whole fricking world to think you're a pathetic weakling.

Cindie

[JohnnyReb]

 ....DUmmies wouldn't haver made it at my house. Mother was good as gold and never said any cutting words....but daddy was another story. He didn't mind telling you exactly what he was thinking....

Daddy used to kill kittens with a stick....WHOP...and it was over for the cat. I believe he would have put these DUmmie pu$$ies in a sack and drowned them.

[DumbAss Tanker]

Well, I guess it's inevitable that bad things will happen to you as a kid.  If you think it's all your own fault, you become a DUmmie.  If you have any mental toughness or moral fiber at all, and something in the back of your mind says "Oh yeah, well f*ck you," instead, you grow up to be normal.

[dandi]

Good Gawd!  These thumbsuckers would have never made it in my mother's house or mine. 

My mother raised me by herself, worked her ass off, never hesitated to correct me (ie whoop my ass) when I was wrong, and never failed to tell me the unvarnished truth no matter how hard it may have been.  Not insulting or sarcastic, just the truth.  God bless her for the steel in her spine.

In my house, you get the same damn thing.

My young daughter in law came to me the other night, very upset at an email she received from my son; he is stationed in Germany and she is staying with us until it's time for her to join him.  She asked him a very pointed question and received a very blunt answer.  When she asked me how should she respond, I laughed and told her she should thank him for his honesty and reply in kind:  Honest, direct, to the point, not demeaning.

I told her that she could blame me completely for his way of handling that.

 

[crockspot]

EndersDame   (1000+ posts)               Tue Feb-09-10 02:15 PM
Response to Original message
11. My mom told me at age 16 that I looked like a fat slut
   
Edited on Tue Feb-09-10 02:16 PM by EndersDame
Oh and I am and was a size 4/5

That mom provides a vital economic service... keeping the porn industry supplied with new talent. 

[Wineslob]

Dear Dummies, your parents probably told you half that stuff so you get your heads out of your asses........................it diden't work.

[njpines]

IF my parents said anything nasty to me when I was a kid then:

a) I probably deserved it for being a pest

b) I have no recollection what it could be since I'm NOT a child anymore!

Mom passed away this month 7 years ago and Dad passed in March 2001 -- I only have good memories 

[Ralph Wiggum]

Once, my mother told me I needed a haircut.

My dad, he told me he was always proud of me even if he didn't say it. 

I don't know how I survived......

You dirty hippie!!!!

[Karin]

Scout   (1000+ posts)           Tue Feb-09-10 01:22 PM
Response to Original message
4. "You're more bother than you're worth."

I said that to my X a long time ago.  But, he deserved it.  First he got a DWI, then he quit his job without lining up another one.  And I was making only $22K at the time.   

I had excellent parents; my Dad was the best.  He was an engineer, so if you asked him a question how something worked, he's tell you waaaaaaaay more than you wanted to know.  God bless him.  I was remembering just last night he taught me the meaning of the phrase "There's no such thing as a free lunch."  I was just very little, maybe 6, but it made perfect sense to me. 

[miskie]

Typical primitive behaviour -

Most people try to one-up each other by telling fish-tales, and reminiscing about personal victories past.

The primitives try to outdo each other by sharing and embellishing misery.

[SilverOrchid]

My dad once told me , "If you get thrown in jail, plan on spending a few days there."  (underage drinking)

My dad PUT me in jail for underage drinking. That was unpleasant.

[thundley4]

My dad PUT me in jail for underage drinking. That was unpleasant.

Was he a cop, or did he call them on you?  Or did you mean figuratively?

[SilverOrchid]

Was he a cop, or did he call them on you?  Or did you mean figuratively?

He called. I was being an asshole and disrespected his home. I was jerk as a teenager, something I am not proud of. And you know what? He was 100% right.

[DefiantSix]

The most "hurtful" things my dad would say to me was when he would denigrate me for doodling and sketching on every loose piece of paper that fell into my reach.  "How do you expect to make a living drawing pictures?", was a common refrain from him.

I have since logged 22 years of employment as a mechanical draftsman, designer and engineer.  Much of the focus along this line was an effort to prove my dad wrong; a refusal to accept his rejection of the skills set I was building back then.  The most treasured words I have from my dad was how proud he was of me for how I'd responded to his criticism.  I think he knew what kind of talent I had.  He also knew good and well - a lot better than I did back then - how to push me, to motivate me to seek to excel.  His hurtful words were probably the kindest thing he could have done for his bull-headed teenaged son who wouldn't have listened to anything else.