Has he started to do a food log so to know pretty accuaretly what his caloric intake is?
The other thing that seems to be a given on many diet plans is a very large volume of water drank daily.
No offense intended to you and understand the friend thing but why can`t Joe help him get shoes on.
He seems to benefit from your good will so think it wouldn`t be a lot to ask.
I will confess that when Kirk wrote that he was waiting for you to get home from work to do dishes so that you could then cook Thanksgiving dinner it did make my blood boil...can`t help it but it did.
If he could participate in those house hold activities not only would it give him some exercise but also some esteem.
Joe is also overweight and very reclusive. Many times, we don't see him for days, or we see him late at night. He's almost as heavy as Kirk, and wouldn't find it easy to help putting shoes on Kirk. Gotta remember, the shoes are hard for ME to put on Kirk, much less anyone else here. I'm the most agile and able bodied person in the house, and I have alot of difficulty with helping him, so I can't imagine that Joe would be able physically capable of helping Kirk put on shoes. I recently bought socks for up to size 16, and they wouldn't fit Kirk, even tho they are just socks. Can you imagine trying to fit size 15 shoes on him? It's really nearly impossible. And it's not like Kirk can go to the doctor anytime he wants.
With Joe, I really do wish that he would take advantage of being a veteran more. He's been able to get free health care and medical supplies sent to him, including a daily visit from a home health nurse for several months. He gets depressed, so he tends to eat and get more reclusive, cycling into a bad circle of depression, eating, staying more and more alone. He's gay as well, and not attracted to Kirk, and doesn't go out except with a female friend of his, once or twice a month. This means that he doesn't have alot of people to help keep him active or in a good mood, so there are times when we simply don't see him, like I said, for days, even a week or longer on a rare occasion. Kirk gets frustrated with Joe, because Joe is able to go outside, and he doesn't have to pay for any medical attention, which is not the case for Kirk.
Now, mind you, Joe is very generous with the medical supplies he receives, and he's helped us out plenty when a little cash helps us out. And if I ask him to do something, he generally does it, for a little while at least.
Now, as for a food journal, I can tell you exactly what he's had yesterday. He had two bags of Fresh and Easy herb salad, with approximately 1/4 cup of his salad dressing. I also made him a bowl of pasta with the tomato sauce I made, and a bowl of brown rice, again, with the tomato sauce I made. The tomato sauce had diced canned tomatoes with basil, oregano, garlic, onion, green, yellow, red, and orange bell pepper, and parsley. Most of the canned diced tomato was processed in a food processor so that it was more liquid. He also had some generic Crystal Light type peach tea, Arizona branded pomegranate tea, and a few cans of diet black cherry soda. And please, tell me that is, I think someone said he has to have been eating 10,000+ calories a day to prevent weight loss? The day before, he had almost exactly the same thing, but more rice than pasta, and he had a two liter of a generic diet soda, along with some tea again.
Please keep in mind, we don't have sweets in the house, except what Joe has, and I know how much there is of that stuff. I'm the one that knows where almost everything is, and prepares everything for Kirk. I'm figuring that we will likely have some veggie Subway sandwiches, which are lettuce, tomato, onion, mustard, pepper and oregano, and vinegar, on the whole wheat bun, two footlongs last a day for him. Oh, he also has olives (the only fatty item), and jalapenos and banana peppers on the side. The subs don't include any fat, and there is no cheese on them. Total calories can't be more than maybe 1,000 calories, you can even check with website to see what it's likely to be. Keep in mind, the subs listed on the website include cheese, which I decline when ordering. Tomorrow I'll probably pick up some refried canned beans, and make burritos with some tofu burger crumbles, which do contain some fat. That's pretty much the only fat that Kirk gets, is from the natural fat that already comes with his food (burger crumbles and tofu burgers are primary source), but we don't have that kind of stuff very often. Maybe once a week on average, if that.
