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Offline Airwolf

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Re: Important poll question about porn
« Reply #50 on: September 23, 2009, 01:34:02 AM »
I wouldn't leave over it but there does come a point that something has to give. It's not the porn its the waste of time going to watching it and not spending time doing anything else that should be the reason to leave.
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Re: Important poll question about porn
« Reply #51 on: September 23, 2009, 08:23:26 AM »
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Re: Important poll question about porn
« Reply #52 on: September 23, 2009, 08:36:07 AM »
An addiction is an addiction regardless of what it is. Anything that takes away quality time from the spouse/family/obligations is an addiction. Anything that one chooses over everything else and doesn't see that as a problem is an addiction.

That does not mean that leaving is the answer though. Simply put, this is an issue that needs to be addressed in marriage counseling. If she feels it's a problem and he doesn't but it's coming between them, clearly it IS a problem.

My advice would be to try and talk it out and get a third party (professional counselor) involved. If he won't go, then she can certainly go on her own to learn how to cope and to get advice on what steps she should take from here.

No matter what course of action she takes, it must done carefully and with planning. At minimum, I would get myself to a counselor just to talk it out. There is always something deeper in situations like this. That is not a dig, but the truth.
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Re: Important poll question about porn
« Reply #53 on: September 23, 2009, 08:40:26 AM »
Quote from: DixieBelle on September 23, 2009, 08:36:07 AM
An addiction is an addiction regardless of what it is. Anything that takes away quality time from the spouse/family/obligations is an addiction. Anything that one chooses over everything else and doesn't see that as a problem is an addiction.

That does not mean that leaving is the answer though. Simply put, this is an issue that needs to be addressed in marriage counseling. If she feels it's a problem and he doesn't but it's coming between them, clearly it IS a problem.

My advice would be to try and talk it out and get a third party (professional counselor) involved. If he won't go, then she can certainly go on her own to learn how to cope and to get advice on what steps she should take from here.

No matter what course of action she takes, it must done carefully and with planning. At minimum, I would get myself to a counselor just to talk it out. There is always something deeper in situations like this. That is not a dig, but the truth.

I'm going to agree with DixieBelle here.  I'd say counseling would definitely be a step before divorce.  Hopefully, he will recognize that the fact that she is so upset by it is enough of a issue to go to counseling together even if he doesn't see the porn as a reason. 
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Re: Important poll question about porn
« Reply #54 on: September 23, 2009, 09:07:38 AM »
Well, all I know is that immediately before that guy got addicted to the porn site, every Jew that was online logged out.

Looks awfully suspicious to me, but you can take that for what it's worth.
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Re: Important poll question about porn
« Reply #55 on: September 23, 2009, 11:14:34 PM »
Hopefully they can work things out, but it does sound like the guy has a problem.

If I was married or going out with a girl that was into porn, it would be a matter of if it made her really hot, wild & wanting to try new things in bed....if not, then her shit would hit the curb.
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Re: Important poll question about porn
« Reply #56 on: September 23, 2009, 11:17:18 PM »
Quote from: RobJohnson on September 23, 2009, 11:14:34 PM
Hopefully they can work things out, but it does sound like the guy has a problem.

If I was married or going out with a girl that was into pron, it would be a matter of if it made her really hot, wild & wanting to try new things in bed....if not, then her shit would hit the curb.

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