Important poll question about porn

[mamacags]

Porn is a crashing bore and so is anyone who is so weak of will and so diseased in the mind that they can become "addicted" to it.  You are well within your relationship rights to leave today, mamaC.  Be sure to write when you get where you are going.    

You suck Undies!   Now I am going to go have sex with hubby, film it, and show it here to prove that it isn't me!   The person in this scenerio is a member here and I would never ever ever reveal who it is because of the potential blow back from just having this thread.

[jtyangel]

Normal porn= Look I know guys like looking at boobz and stuff.  Here and there it is fine as long as it isn't some sick twisted stuff that only gets produced in Thailand or Tiajuana.

This guy works full time and does earn most of the household money.  There doesn't usually seem to be enough for everyone else to get stuff they want but porn is always a reasonable purchase according to him.  He also isn't making nice-nice  with his wife anymore.  He thinks she is being unreasonable about it.  He said that porn makes him happy so she shouldn't care.

Stuff like this makes me ever so thankful that my hubby works 80+  hours a week and has like 4 hours of online time in his life.

When you don't make 'nice-nice' with your spouse anymore, you are neglecting a very serious portion of the wedding vows and your are neglecting the bond between the two people, not to mention eroding the self-esteem of the woman who is left to feel unattractive and unwanted(no matter how much us gals bitch, we like our men coming after us still to some extent). *IF* this thing goes on for long enough, the marriage is damaged beyond repair, particularly if the party involved in doing the neglecting has moved their morals and values so to a point that they don't even share them with their spouse anymore. Your question really is, what vows constitute a grievous offense that should end a marriage. I would say it's not really just one big offense that can do it, but it can be a series of habitual offenses that erode away the fabric of the marriage. Those too should be considered, especially if the other person has been given considerable chances to change their behavior.

I think this is a totally unacceptable because his porn watching has reached the point where he is neglecting his spouse and her needs in the marriage. If he continues this, he will damage his marriage forever; his wife is already asking for advice about this which tells me she is already coming to the end of her rope. When she no longer has feelings for him anymore, then it's over. Physical affairs aren't the only things that can damage marriages to that point and they aren't the only marriage enders.

As for your friend, she deserves to be loved like a wife should be. I find neglecting a spouse over a long period of time to be unacceptable and it sounds like she does too.

[Hawkgirl]

The person in this scenerio is a member here and I would never ever ever reveal who it is because of the potential blow back from just having this thread.

   

[jinxmchue]

Nope...  Just asking.  Have such thoughts ever crossed my mind?  Sure have.  Especially when I was a lot younger.

I'm still learning to control such thoughts.  I unfortunately spent a large portion of my life under the belief that such thoughts were perfectly normal and not harmful.

[rich_t]

I'm still learning to control such thoughts.  I unfortunately spent a large portion of my life under the belief that such thoughts were perfectly normal and not harmful.

I'd be lying if I said such thoughts don't still cross my mind on occassion.  I am after all a human male.

But I don't act on the thoughts.  I acknowledge them for what they are, a base reaction of a primal nature and go on about my life.

[asdf2231]

You suck Undies!   Now I am going to go have sex with hubby, film it, and show it here to prove that it isn't me!   The person in this scenerio is a member here and I would never ever ever reveal who it is because of the potential blow back from just having this thread.

Mama you should NOT have to suffer public humiliation or discomfort just to prove a point!!  Just send the recordings to me and I'll email you a slight disclaimer that you should sign allowing me to "View" them (It's just a formality really and just ignore where it talks about you forgoing any expectation of profit from resulting sales or publication) Anyway...
Once THAT little thing is taken care of, I'll personally screen the videos 7 or 8 times and then reassure everybody here that everything is on the up and up.

[rich_t]

Mama you should NOT have to suffer public humiliation or discomfort just to prove a point!!  Just send the recordings to me and I'll email you a slight disclaimer that you should sign allowing me to "View" them (It's just a formality really and just ignore where it talks about you forgoing any expectation of profit from resulting sales or publication) Anyway...
Once THAT little thing is taken care of, I'll personally screen the videos 7 or 8 times and then reassure everybody here that everything is on the up and up.

I like the way you think.

LOL.

[Lord Undies]

You suck Undies!  

That looks and sounds like porn to me.   

[mamacags]

Mama you should NOT have to suffer public humiliation or discomfort just to prove a point!!  Just send the recordings to me and I'll email you a slight disclaimer that you should sign allowing me to "View" them (It's just a formality really and just ignore where it talks about you forgoing any expectation of profit from resulting sales or publication) Anyway...
Once THAT little thing is taken care of, I'll personally screen the videos 7 or 8 times and then reassure everybody here that everything is on the up and up.

You OBVIOUSLY have no idea how fat I am.   Then again some guys are into that stuff I guess.  You know that picture that everyone posts of those girls in the bikinis and it says they are girls from DU?  Well I am not THAT fat but close to the least fat one on there.  Now imagine that for a little while before you try to go to sleep tonight.

[mamacags]

That looks and sounds like porn to me.   

No wonder you had a damn heart attack perv!

[asdf2231]

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[Ree]

Tough question...

[Gratiot]

So, would looking at a cartoon also be considered deviant?  

I'd hit that 7x      ....  


Edit:  On second thought, isn't that a disturbingly large forehead... argh 

[Ree]

I'd hit that 7x      ....  


Edit:  On second thought, isn't that a disturbingly large forehead... argh 

Kinda reminds ya of MO

[Gratiot]

In all seriousness though, while I won't comment on whether one should leave, as that has to be a personal issue.  If a grown man is spending countless hours, daily, viewing porn.  When he has a family to raise and take care of, as well as hopefully an actual life.  As well as having lost interest in his wife... there is a seriously disturbing problem at hand.  Whether it's depression, infidelity, or apathy... something is drastically amiss.    

[Chris_]

I voted no because it will be a cold day in hell before I leave my home for something I didn't do.  I've been married a long time.  I've EARNED my place.

Mr. Nasty can leave and forget he ever lived here.  For real.  Oh and he can also leave everything he bought too because that would belong to me now.   

The disrespect is what would bother me most I think. If my husband looked at porn while I was away from the house or when I was asleep, oh well, but not in my face. And not with our money. Because it is OUR money.  I would never disrespect my husband in that way and I expect the same in return.

Men are such deviant creatures sometimes. The bad ones we women can do without.

I know your lady friend is hurting, she already knew her answer before she told you the problem. I wish her luck, tell her to be brave, never settle for less. Life is too short.   

P.S.  Chocolate ice cream makes me happy but I don't constantly eat it.

 

[vesta111]

I voted no because it will be a cold day in hell before I leave my home for something I didn't do.  I've been married a long time.  I've EARNED my place.

Mr. Nasty can leave and forget he ever lived here.  For real.  Oh and he can also leave everything he bought too because that would belong to me now.   

The disrespect is what would bother me most I think. If my husband looked at porn while I was away from the house or when I was asleep, oh well, but not in my face. And not with our money. Because it is OUR money.  I would never disrespect my husband in that way and I expect the same in return.

Men are such deviant creatures sometimes. The bad ones we women can do without.

I know your lady friend is hurting, she already knew her answer before she told you the problem. I wish her luck, tell her to be brave, never settle for less. Life is too short.   

P.S.  Chocolate ice cream makes me happy but I don't constantly eat it.

 

This may not be a good sign for your friend. I hope they have no children.

Like drug addiction this guy may decide to " Kick it up a notch" and looking replaced with actual doing with or with out the consent of others.

This is not just having a subscription to Play Boy and keeping them in the bathroom stuff, or even having a girlfriend on the side, this, as described, is creepy stuff.

This friend must be becoming afraid of what is happening to her husband, what he is thinking and perhaps doing.

Were any of my friends to tell me about this problem, I would take it as a cry out for help.

A very ugly thought comes to mind at this point, in the last few years we have read about woman who go along with their husbands committing unthinkable sex crimes to their own children and kidnap victims.   Why on earth would they do so, are they not just as guilty as their husband in all this ?  Why have the men become imprisoned for their crimes and the woman who enabled these horrific crimes given sympathy and seldom judged.?

[IassaFTots]

The disrespect is what would bother me most I think. If my husband looked at porn while I was away from the house or when I was asleep, oh well, but not in my face. And not with our money. Because it is OUR money.  I would never disrespect my husband in that way and I expect the same in return.

Exactly! 

[Flame]

If she's uncomfortable with the amount of porn he's viewing, and he refuses to change, then I'd say she has her answer.  If she's told him it bothers her, and he doesn't care, then she has a choice to make, because he's chosing the porn over her.

That being said, aren't there AA type places for people who are addicted to porn?  Might be a suggestion for her/him.

[mamacags]

If she's uncomfortable with the amount of porn he's viewing, and he refuses to change, then I'd say she has her answer.  If she's told him it bothers her, and he doesn't care, then she has a choice to make, because he's chosing the porn over her.

That being said, aren't there AA type places for people who are addicted to porn?  Might be a suggestion for her/him.

He doesn't see it as a problem at all.

[IassaFTots]

He doesn't see it as a problem at all.

Well then, the ball seems to be in her court.  Pretty sucky situation, but only she can decide what she is willing to deal with. 

[Rebel]

Your friend should start going to the gym, contemplate breast implants, and add more clothing from Victoria's Secret to her wardrobe. The more white stockings the better.


...oh, wait, that's the asshole male coming out in me. 

[GOBUCKS]

I can't respond to a poll that doesn't include the option of blaming the Jews.

[Chris]

I can't respond to a poll that doesn't include the option of blaming the Jews.

I think that's the Ron Paul option.

[GOBUCKS]

I think that's the Ron Paul option.

That nutbag is a goldbug, not a Goldberg.

The problem with porn is the Jooos.