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greenbriar (1000+ posts) Sat Sep-05-09 01:47 AMOriginal messageThat bum that stays with us lost his job because of drinking...tried to join army Edited on Sat Sep-05-09 01:59 AM by greenbriareven they wouldn't take himhe has 3 DuIs on his recordcut off is 2god damn bum will NEVER leaveI am ready to just throw his ass outwe were so praying that the Army would take him and it would solve all the issues
CaliforniaPeggy (1000+ posts) Sat Sep-05-09 01:49 AMResponse to Original message2. You are allowing him to abuse your hospitality. Throw him out.NOW.He needs to hit bottom, and you will help him do that...
Obamanaut (1000+ posts) Sat Sep-05-09 08:22 AMResponse to Reply #627. DUI x 3, at least one rehab failure (March), drinking in your house, you are unhappy, hubby is keeping him - it might be time to cut the cord between him and hubby and send him on his merry way.In his mind, there is no reason to correct his behavior since he has a comfortable nest with a daddy bird who will supply his needs. Mommy bird needs to push him out
greenbriar (1000+ posts) Sat Sep-05-09 01:58 AMResponse to Reply #810. every time he drinks a pop or eats something I bought to make dinner I just want to scream.I even have to hide my cigaretteshe is hubbys friend, but I am tired of being patient and kind
WatchWhatISay (1000+ posts) Sat Sep-05-09 05:03 AMResponse to Reply #1022. You are a saint for having put up with this for so long But you have to stop it now, for his sake and your family's. And I hope you don't have any young children at home. My mother brought 2 different alcoholic boyfriends home to live with us. One was an evil bastard, and the other was a decent, sad soul who actually cared for us, but his alcohol addiction allowed him to do things he wouldn't have, ordinarily. And the both molested me (the evil bastard also molested my sister and my best friend, and beat the crap out of my mother and brothers.) Male alcoholics and children with no birth father around are a terrible combination.
Triana (1000+ posts) Sat Sep-05-09 01:57 AMResponse to Original message9. you're enabling him toss him out and go 'no contact' with him - he'll get help when he has no other choice - and only then - apparently. Think of it this way - you will be - in the long run - likely doing him a favor by letting him hit bottom so that he HAS to get help - of course he may be able to just glomb off someone else - or not. Sometimes having a heart means saying "NO"You have to say no to him. Even though it's hard - it may be the best thing for both of you in the long run. Don't enable his addiction by giving him a roof. He got himself into that mess with his drinking - and only HE can get himself out - MAKE him do it - or he won't.
TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Sat Sep-05-09 11:15 AMResponse to Original message30. You and your husband are his enablers. Throw them both out. There's no excuse to be supporting a guy who is drunk all the time, irresponsible, and refuses to clean himself up. Pack all his stuff. Set it outside. Don't let him back into the house for any reason. If your husband objects, pack his stuff and put him out, too.
Mariana (551 posts) Sat Sep-05-09 12:09 PMResponse to Original message32. This is a "He goes or I go" situation if I ever heard one. Three years? **** that.
So three years of having to be personally responsible for somebody is far too much and the guy should be tossed on the street. However, it is perfectly acceptable for people to be on welfare indefinitely, and anybody who wants to place limits is evil and uncaring. Gotcha.
Here's how I bet the conversation will go:Greebriar: It's him or me!Hubby: Well, I'd like to say it's been nice, but... see ya babe!
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x9018785
With DUmmies, there's always more to the story. My guess is that she's banging the guy, or it might even be a three-way situation.
No wonder the daughter couldn't wait to get out of the house
3 years and she getting fed up now ?I'll bet he got into her pain pill stash.
It gets better...while they are angry about 'poor greenbriar' being taken advantage of and having this guy live off of her kindness. Once he leaves and gets SSDI for being an alcoholic, the rest of us will be considered uncaring bastards for saying he's abusing the system if he liveds on it indefinitely. Ain't it funny how that works?