I had a friend.

[Texacon]

https://democraticunderground.com/10182200426


 

Sorry, but this hit me funny this morning.  After ALL the talk these people put out about cutting people out of their lives due to politics you get this.  Enjoy.

LuckyCharms (20,346 posts)

Mon Jul 14, 2025, 10:47 PM

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I had a friend.

He tried to hang himself.

He ****ed it up, and was not successful.

He phoned me in such a state that I could not understand him. Uncontrollable sobbing.

He managed to tell me about his failed suicide attempt, and that he was calling me to say goodbye because he was getting ready to try it again. He figured out what he did wrong during his failed attempt. His phone call was was his cry for help.

He lives on another coast from me. We talked, maybe 5 or 6 hours. I wouldn't let him get off the phone. We got through his crisis together.

He subsequently told me that I saved his life, and he would never forget it. I've never felt so proud.

He then unceremoniously cut contact with me. I still love him though. He's still alive too.

I had a friend of 60 years whose alcoholism gradually worsened. He became someone else. Never thought I would lose him as a friend though, but I did. The alcohol took my place, and the place of all of his other friends. He's still alive.

Lost my father at age 11. Lost my mom in the 2010's. Lost my brother to Covid in 2021. Lost my in-laws. F-I-L died in my arms. My brother was the kindest man who ever walked this earth.

My female siblings always told me they loved me. They lived out of town. I was their hero. They always said "Lucky, you're going to go to heaven". "You're a saint for how you are helping mom". This was because I was my mom's caretaker. They got to go on their cruises while she dies. I got to watch her die. The very second my mom finally passed, the long knives came out and I never ****ing heard from them again. I was no longer needed by them. They hated my mother. And they put up a front that they loved her. I was their conduit for that façade. I did the caretaking work so they didn't have to...and I got a big **** you out of the deal the SECOND my mom passed. and I took care of her while having my own serious chronic health problems. I literally lost my entire fake ****ed up family as an adult. I was lied to. I was never loved by them, but I was useful.

So now all of this is hitting me, as it sometimes does, but never this badly.. I can't talk to my spouse about all that has happened. She knows the whole story, and she is so ****ing furious over the people who have left me, that she gets angry when I try to talk about it. Not angry AT me, but angry FOR me. We both end up in tears of rage.

I feel like my friend did when he tried to off himself. His problems were very similar to mine.

There is no one in my life that will be able to help me. There is no one that will talk to me for 6 hours. There is no one telling me that I'll be alright. There is no one telling me that I did good.

You ever try to talk to someone about how you are really feeling, and they cut you off and start talking about themselves? That is the way my face-to-face friends are. So I just listen to them like I always have. What am I going to do? Tell them I need a hug? Beg them to listen to me? Please ****ing listen to me? Hold onto me, because I'm falling off the face of the earth?

So, I post this shit here. because no one ****ing knows me here.

And there's not a person here who can help me either.

Diagnosed with C-PTSD and major depression. I manage it myself. I'm off all meds. I live my life in service to others, and that helps. It helps me forget my physical illnesses as well.

But now I need help, and I have no where to turn. Therapy does not help me. I just want someone who loves me, who knows me, who knows what i did, who knows the people I've lost, to ****ing listen...for hours. And not someone who gets paid to do it and sit there and nod their head as I talk. That will be $100 Lucky, see you next visit, mother****er.

I'm in a bad way, but no one would ever know it until this post.

My face-to-face friends don't know. all they know is that they can come to me with their problems. And I'll do whatever it takes to help them. I always have and always will.

I don't need any words of advice here. No sympathy. We all have our problems.

I hate when this stuff hits me, because I love to crack jokes and post here, but I can't think of any good shit to post anymore.

True Dough's post got me thinking about how I want to be remembered. and maybe someone at my funeral will say I was a good man who did good things. But I won't hear it.

What doesn't help...during my working days, I had a TON of friends. We all used to say that we would take a bullet for each other. Every single one of them is a Trumper now.

I apologize to anyone who reads this stupid ****ing post, but I had to get it out. It's killing me slowly.

So I type and type and type...

The "Saint" who is "going to go to heaven" types and type and types like a ****ing fool.

I hope I have the balls to not delete this post.

I read those stupid ****ing quotes on the internet to try to help me. That inspirational bullshit. It doesn't help.

Hence my sig line...
Midnight on a carousel ride, reaching for the gold ring down inside. Never could reach it, just slips away. But I try.

I try.

I guess this post isn't very "lounge-like".

No response necessary. I won't know how to reply. Thanks for reading.

What's the saying ... it eludes me ... Oh yeah "you reap what you sow."

Good luck Lucky, you're going to need it.  You're old and you've obviously chased everyone away who might have been willing to help you.  I don't know that you have time to recover.

KC

[Old n Grumpy]

I had a friend.

Right there he started out with a lie so you know the whole thing is BS

[FunkyZero]

What's the saying ... it eludes me ... Oh yeah "you reap what you sow."

This seems to be the common defect among the DUmpasses, and the left in general.
They appear to be completely blinded to the idea that they, themselves, are the source of the foul and anti-social behavior. Not only can they not get along with people who disagree with them, they can't even get along with people who DO agree with them 99% of the time. The standard DUmmy insists on 100% lock-step allegiance to HIS ideals. This is a defect that disqualifies them from ever being able to successfully navigate civilized society.

[SVPete]

That post is well into my TL;DR range, but it sounds like ChuckyLarms cut off conservative friends, thinking he had enough friends, and the friends he thought he had went away. Maybe cutting off friends over their politics is a short-sighted bad idea?

Four years from now, Bogey-Trump will be out of office and no longer governing the US. Four years from now, the friends and family you cut off because of your hatred of Bogey-Trump will continue to be gone.

[Texacon]

This seems to be the common defect among the DUmpasses, and the left in general.
They appear to be completely blinded to the idea that they, themselves, are the source of the foul and anti-social behavior. Not only can they not get along with people who disagree with them, they can't even get along with people who DO agree with them 99% of the time. The standard DUmmy insists on 100% lock-step allegiance to HIS ideals. This is a defect that disqualifies them from ever being able to successfully navigate civilized society.

Gutfeld was talking about this very thing last night.  What he and the guests agreed on was "we don't need those people" and we're not the ones who left the relationship.  They all thought they would leave and we would be so disconcerted we would change our ways so they would come back to us.

After the collective "meh" from the conservatives, the liberals are feeling left out, left behind, and just plain ... left, and they're crying about it.

KC

[SVPete]

To date, there are two friends from whom I have cut ties. Calling me a racist when they knew better crossed the cut-off line. This was pre-Trump, BTW. A couple other friends disappeared from my FB Friends, one probably because I did not believe Trump would encourage racist skinhead types to attack blacks, and the other probably because she knew I did not agree with same-sex marriage (again, pre-Trump). The cut-offs were sad to me, but the loss was theirs, their choices.

[FunkyZero]

To date, there are two friends from whom I have cut ties. Calling me a racist when they knew better crossed the cut-off line. This was pre-Trump, BTW. A couple other friends disappeared from my FB Friends, one probably because I did not believe Trump would encourage racist skinhead types to attack blacks, and the other probably because she knew I did not agree with same-sex marriage (again, pre-Trump). The cut-offs were sad to me, but the loss was theirs, their choices.

This is the most sad thing of all. Sometimes it's just impossible to find that happy ground with people because the truth is, they don't want it. My best friend in the entire world, one that I most certainly would take a bullet for, is a hopeless Democrat and he can't stand Trump because he is expected to hate the guy. We decided that politics was the one subject we should never speak of again because both of us value the friendship above all. Then again, he always stopped short of pointing a finger at me and making blanket accusations like you described. We both know better than to pull stupid shit like that.
On another note, this is also why I no longer have a facebook account. I used to post babylonbee stuff for the sole purpose of irritating one uncle of mine; he is from an era where jabbing each other over politics was considered a fun sport, but he's a rarity now. It used to be fun and I could share family stuff with my mom and others, but some just can't help but to behave in a vile manner. Rather than "blocking" those people (which is often taken as a statement in itself), I declared that platform as nothing but destructive social poison and bowed out permanently a few years ago. My life has been better for it too... and I call my mom a lot more as a bonus.

[67 Rover]

LuckyCharms (20,346 posts)

Mon Jul 14, 2025, 10:47 PM

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I had a friend.

He tried to hang himself.

He ****ed it up, and was not successful.

He phoned me in such a state that I could not understand him. Uncontrollable sobbing.

He managed to tell me about his failed suicide attempt, and that he was calling me to say goodbye because he was getting ready to try it again. He figured out what he did wrong during his failed attempt.

My advice Lucky is find out how your friend fu*ked up and make sure you do not make the same mistake. The world thanks you.

[Texacon]

I bowed out of FB for much the same reason.  When silly stuff started to bring the 'offended' out of the woodwork because few have a sense of humor anymore, it was time for me to cut bait and run.

I left FB probably 6 years ago and I never looked back.  I will tell you it was one of the hardest things to delete though!  It wouldn't let me grab the photos I had on there and when I did finally get an invitation to get the photos, I had to keep the account open for another month "just to make sure I didn't want to come back" and I just hit the last delete and let the photos go.

KC

[Karin]

I don't even attempt to cultivate friendships with liberals/leftists.  We're just not going to be compatible, and as you know, they lie all the time.  Who needs this?