So my straight employee was sexually harassed last night by 2 gay men

[dutch508]

Star Member titaniumsalute (3,971 posts) https://www.democraticunderground.com/10029928743

So my straight employee was sexually harassed last night by 2 gay men in front of his wife


This wasn't a work related function. He attended a concert with his wife last night at a large arena. The couple are in their late 50s. He was in the lounge that was associated with the suites they were guests of and he told me that 4 guys started talking to him. Nice guys, 30 somethings. Talked for a few minutes. He said like a light switch two of the guys started touching his leg and arms and saying things like "what are your plans after the concert, etc." He told them they (he and his wife) were simply going home afterward. They became very forward, asking if he'd like to go out with them afterwards, etc. They actually told him, in front of his wife, to "ditch her" and come with them.

She was so upset she walked away and he followed shortly thereafter. (needing to stay to pay his bar tab.) He was really shaken this morning...not because they were guys hitting on him but simply that they were so rude to his wife.

Sexual harassment can happen at any time I guess but it seems with everything going on people would at least reign it in a little bit.

oh, dear...

ok let me run this past you, as a thought experiment
steve2470   2 hrs ago   #243

 

LexVegas (3,658 posts)
242. Is this a Reddit thread?

wait wait wait...

What did Steve say?

Star Member steve2470 (33,188 posts)
243. ok let me run this past you, as a thought experiment

I can believe the part about them touching him, especially if they were very drunk and/or high. How much and where is the issue. I can believe on the arm and shoulder and back. Maybe this was part of them trolling him ?

Now...the half-baked thought experiment part, and I am NOT endorsing any of this:

1- Plans after the concert bit was a joke, but very poorly done and obviously taken seriously. Maybe they were "trolling" him.

2- Likewise, the go out with them and ditch his wife part was also a joke, also very poorly done and taken seriously or was trolling.

I would never do this kind of thing, drunk or sober, but there's all kinds in this world. I'm 59 and when I grew up, this kind of stuff was Grade A assholishness. Now it's kind of glorified as "trolling" which gives Grade A assholishness a nicer name in my opinion.

Needless to say, I'm not trying to imply anything negative about the LGBT community as a whole.


eta: https://www.democraticunderground.com/10029928743#post160 ProfessorGAC had a similar take.

you have to believe the victim.... unless the perp is a [D]...

[USA4ME]

The primitives certainly are choosy about which sexual harassment stories they believe and which ones they don't. Funny thing is the ones they believe all fit their political agenda and they ones they don't believe are those that would damage their political agenda. I wonder if there's a connection?

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[DumbAss Tanker]

Try that 'They were just joking' explanation on a woman's sexual harassment claim.  Go ahead, I dare ya...

 

[Old n Grumpy]

How did he know they were gay and not transgender or some other letter?

were they on their knees pulling down his fly? Or bending him over to push in his stool?

There are a lot of unanswered questions here and we really don't want to hear the answers.

[67 Rover]

How did he know they were gay and not transgender or some other letter?

were they on their knees pulling down his fly? Or bending him over to push in his stool?

There are a lot of unanswered questions here and we really don't want to hear the answers.

Actually I am not too comfortable hearing the questions either. Ughhh. 

[landofconfusion80]

Was his name Andy Dufrane and was he trying to discuss their taxes with them?

[I_B_Perky]

Star Member titaniumsalute (3,971 posts) https://www.democraticunderground.com/10029928743

So my straight employee was sexually harassed last night by 2 gay men in front of his wife


This wasn't a work related function. He attended a concert with his wife last night at a large arena. The couple are in their late 50s. He was in the lounge that was associated with the suites they were guests of and he told me that 4 guys started talking to him. Nice guys, 30 somethings. Talked for a few minutes. He said like a light switch two of the guys started touching his leg and arms and saying things like "what are your plans after the concert, etc." He told them they (he and his wife) were simply going home afterward. They became very forward, asking if he'd like to go out with them afterwards, etc. They actually told him, in front of his wife, to "ditch her" and come with them.

She was so upset she walked away and he followed shortly thereafter. (needing to stay to pay his bar tab.) He was really shaken this morning...not because they were guys hitting on him but simply that they were so rude to his wife.

Sexual harassment can happen at any time I guess but it seems with everything going on people would at least reign it in a little bit.

Oh dear.  That is gonna get the alternate lifestyle dummies all in a tizzy.   

I call BS on this.  In my entire life there was only one incident where a guy made a pass at me.  I told him I liked women and that was the end of it.  I did not go all freaking PTSD on it.  I seriously doubt someone is gonna do that in front of the guys wife unless maybe  it was the guy's boyfriends. 

Maybe he was on the "down low".      <<< heard that term on Law and Order SVU. Dunno if it actually a real term or not.

Jeez. Can't you idiots come up with something remotely believable?

[landofconfusion80]

Two of my uncles were driving a truck cross country when they stopped at a bar. It was just them, another guy and the bartender in the whole place. The guy walks up to one uncle and while poking him in the chest with his finger says "I want to F-U-C-K you!" They were out of there quick, even with the bartender offering free drinks not to leave him alone with that guy.