Primitive discovers relatives voted for Big Cheeto... what do I dooooo?!?!

[BattleHymn]

https://www.democraticunderground.com/10029285059

Mon Jul 3, 2017, 11:42 PM
fallout87 (38 posts)

Just found out my relatives voted for Trump


What do I do? I had not really engaged them before on politics, so I had no idea. I never would have guessed that they voted for the bafoon. They were democrats before and were complaining about Hillary and her email server, blah blah blah...Were angry about the supposed 33k deleted emails.... Also said that their main focus was the economy and jobs and they think Trump was the person to fix that..... What do i do? I'm seriously considering cutting them off. They are my cousins but I seriously don't know if I can be around them anymore....

On to the hivemind:

Mon Jul 3, 2017, 11:57 PM
Foamfollower (691 posts)
8. Cut them off completely.

No person who vote for Trump is worth sepnding even ten seconds dealing with.

Cut them off completely.

Mon Jul 3, 2017, 11:50 PM
Throck (209 posts)
5. Take them out of your will too.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:06 AM
Star Member physioex (6,784 posts)
13. That is not practical (and this is very poor advice)!

It is somewhat easier with 'friends' and 'acquaintances', or co-workers but very difficult if not impossible with immediate family. Agree to disagree is pretty much the only way to go!

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:10 AM
Foamfollower (691 posts)
16. I cut off every family member who voted for Trump completely

I refuse to see, speak with, or have any sort of contact with all members of my family who voted for Trump.

It is as if they are dead to me.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:57 AM
Star Member AmandaRuth (2,651 posts)
29. I'm with you

No way do i want to deal with relatives who voted with Bannon Pence and the alt right. There is nothing wrong with you.

In response to post# 13:

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:10 AM
Baconator (335 posts)
14. What is wrong with you?

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:11 AM
Foamfollower (691 posts)
17. Giving them the same advice I took

I have family members who voted Trump.

They are all dead to me.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:32 AM
Baconator (335 posts)
25. It sounds incredibly tedious and homogenous...

... To avoid contact with anyone who is different.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:58 AM
Foamfollower (691 posts)
30. You live life how you want to and I'll live mine how I want to.

Trump supporters are not a part of my life and never will be.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 01:22 AM
LOL Lib (1,446 posts)
38. I totally respect your response.

My cousin and I are close, like sister close. I couldn't believe she voted for Trump. I know my cousins deepest secrets, desires, etc...I was bowled over to learn she voted Trump. We never really discussed politics. I assumed she found him as repulsive as I do. I know that we joked about his hair in the past, but nothing in depth.

I feel like there is a part of my cuz that I don't know now, but I can't throw away the fact that we grew up together. She is a kind soul, loving, nurturing, volunteers at animal shelters....I just refuse to let this separate us.

Can you see how it's not as simple for some of us to just cut a life long friend from our lives? I can certainly see your point of view if this was a family member I rarely interacted with. 

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 01:25 AM
Foamfollower (691 posts)
39. I cut off close friends of over 3 decades over Trump

I simply cannot see how anybody can ever remain friends with a Trump supporter, regardless.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 01:11 AM
MLAA (87 posts)
36. Different?

No...they are not 'different'...they are racist, lacking empathy, tax cuts above decency dudes, homophobic, misogynistic, climate deniers....see my longer post below for more detail on how I handled this type of situation.

Mon Jul 3, 2017, 11:58 PM
Star Member Laffy Kat (5,339 posts)
10. It's difficult.

I have a close girlfriend who is now dating a Trumpster. She was a pagan the entire time I knew her but is now going to a "Christian" church that is against marriage equality (I have a bi-sexual son who is dating a transitioning young man). She says she doesn't agree with her BF on many issues, but I still feel betrayed by her. I have all but cut her out of my life. I told her I could never have her BF in my house, but now I'm feeling the same about her. It's so painful.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:18 AM
Books_Tea_Alone (9 posts)
21. My entire family...

Voted for T. Rump. It makes going to gatherings difficult and I dread them. I have a strict policy of not talking politics after a few heated discussions. The worst offender is my brother who made violent gestures and attempted to throw a glass at me after the election. I avoid him at all costs.
My parents are elderly so it's hard. My mother voted for the Apprentice star and my father is a stubborn Repuke. Both are hardcore racists and have Fox News on all day. Oh yes- and they are very wealthy and live in a posh suburb of NYC. It is possible that each time I see them may be the last so I try to focus on that but it takes every ounce of patience. So far the no discussion policy has led to forced civility. It is difficult to get past it.
Luckily I have my husband, kids, and coworkers who are counting the days till this orange plague is gone.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:40 AM
Star Member WhiteTara (20,644 posts)
27. I wrote a great post

to you with lots of philosophical thoughts, but somehow it got deleted. So, this time... Shed them like dirty socks. Life is too short to play with racists and sexists. You'll find a whole new group that will support you in life affirming ways. Those people will only bring you down.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:58 AM
MLAA (87 posts)
31. Here's how I'm dealing with it....

I cut 4 friends of over 30 years completely out of my life. LIfe is too short to spend precious time with anyone who supported an ass who assaulted/threatened to assault women, was racist, was ignorant of politics and world history, was not a good business man, said "one things' about his daughter, screwed subcontractors, defrauded students at his fake university ...I can't go on it's making me sick.

Family is a bit more difficult. Mine are racist evangelicals and live a 6 hour flight away. Even before Trump I found visits very difficul. Now I will cut my visits to my Dad and brother dramatically. I did not fly back for the last family reunion as I am sure every aunt, uncle and cousin that would be there voted for him. Sadly, I won't attend another one.

My dad is losing his short term memory ..so on my next visit to him I will just avoid all political discussions and just reminisce. I am going to confront my brother and tell him that in addition to all the tRump craziness/disgusting awfulness/destruction that I am at very high risk of losing my healthcare because of his vote. You see I chose to have a pre-existing condition some years ago by giving our mom a kidney that extended her life by quite a few years and I live in a Red state. After Dad is gone, I don't think I will see my brother again.

Long way of saying foamfollower, I am with you.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 01:08 AM
Star Member Aristus (39,252 posts)
35. Cut them off. You don't owe them anything.

And don't let their vicious, aggressive form of political cancer into your life...

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 01:30 AM
InAbLuEsTaTe (8,176 posts)
40. Yup, time to expunge racists from their lives... yes, even if they're family.

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 01:43 AM
Star Member DFW (24,451 posts)
42. I have a cousin like that.

I haven't had any contact with him since I found out he WAS like that.

[Old n Grumpy]

I find this post confusing as hell:

Mon Jul 3, 2017, 11:58 PM
Star Member Laffy Kat (5,339 posts)
10. It's difficult.

I have a close girlfriend who is now dating a Trumpster. She was a pagan A member of a bad ass motorcycle gang? the entire time I knew her but is now going to a "Christian" church that is against marriage equalityDoes that mean that the wife has to make sammiches?
 (I have a bi-sexual son who is dating a transitioning young man).  This is really confusing, if the son is bi sexual why is he dating a man, isn't thay homosexual? Next confusing thing is i the young man transitioning from a mant to a woman or the other way around? She says she doesn't agree with her BF on many issues, but I still feel betrayed by her.Are you betrayed because she is no longer a member of the Pagans ot because she is transitioning? It sounds like she is Bi Political. I have all but cut her out of my life. I told her I could never have her BF in my house, but now I'm feeling the same about her. It's so painful.

Maybe you should light up the world by setting your self on fire.

[Texacon]

They are certifiable.

KC

[SVPete]

Mon Jul 3, 2017, 11:42 PM
fallout87 (38 posts)

Just found out my relatives voted for Trump
...
... What do i do? I'm seriously considering cutting them off. They are my cousins but I seriously don't know if I can be around them anymore....

Ummmm, fallout87, your cousins didn't suddenly sprout horns and a tail when they emerged from the voting booth last November. They are the same people they were before, they are the same people they have been during all your past interactions with them. So why should you do anything different now than you did before? Are you afraid you'll learn that normal decent, intelligent people can also have political views different from yours? Or unable to cope with that fact?

Or just trolling for DU-cred?

[SVPete]

Foamfollower (691 posts)
8. Cut them off completely.

No person who vote for Trump is worth sepnding even ten seconds dealing with.

Cut them off completely.

Throck (209 posts)
5. Take them out of your will too.

  DU cred! I need DU cred! I crave DU cred! Please, please, please give me DU cred!

Puh-THEH-Tick!

MLAA (87 posts)
36. Different?

No...they are not 'different'...they are racist, lacking empathy, tax cuts above decency dudes, homophobic, misogynistic, climate deniers....

Please, please, please write the D Party, at all levels, regularly, urging them to keep demonizing a yuge number of American voters! It will work so well!

Star Member Laffy Kat (5,339 posts)
10. It's difficult.

I have a close girlfriend who is now dating a Trumpster. She was a pagan the entire time I knew her but is now going to a "Christian" church that is against marriage equality (I have a bi-sexual son who is dating a transitioning young man). She says she doesn't agree with her BF on many issues, but I still feel betrayed by her. I have all but cut her out of my life. I told her I could never have her BF in my house, but now I'm feeling the same about her. It's so painful.

It's only "difficult" and "painful" because you've made your politics your identity, your entire life.

BTW, sounds like pagan GF may be changing her life, very much for the better if that '"Christian" church' really is Christian (which I suspect it is, given LK's use of "scare quotes", ).

Books_Tea_Alone (9 posts)
... The worst offender is my brother 1 who made violent gestures and attempted to throw a glass at me after the election. I avoid him at all costs.

My parents are elderly so it's hard. My mother voted for the Apprentice star and my father is a stubborn Repuke. 2 Both are hardcore racists and have Fox News on all day. ...

1 Wonder what he had just ducked or dodged that she had thrown at him.

2 Translation: They believe Trayvon Martin was killed by Zimmerman in self defense, Michael Brown was killed making his second attempt to kill the police officer, and that BLM-folk are racist looting thugs.

[BattleHymn]

... The worst offender is my brother who made violent gestures and attempted to throw a glass at me after the election. I avoid him at all costs.

His brother sounds an awful lot like Hillary's drunken backstage tirade after she lost. 

[Mr Mannn]

fallout87 (38 posts)

Just found out my relatives voted for Trump
...
... What do i do?

How is it so difficult for a DUmmy to just, love them and allow them to be different?
Why punish all who disagree? What is it with cutting off family at DU?

Free Americans are free to vote for whoever they want.

[dixierose]

Have those cutting off family and friends consider that not everyone who voted for Trump is a fan? I know a few people who voted for him just because he wasn't Hillary.

[DLR Pyro]

Foamfollower (691 posts)
8. Cut them off completely.

No person who vote for Trump is worth sepnding even ten seconds dealing with.

Cut them off completely.

Throck (209 posts)
5. Take them out of your will too.

Foamfollower (691 posts)
16. I cut off every family member who voted for Trump completely

I refuse to see, speak with, or have any sort of contact with all members of my family who voted for Trump.

It is as if they are dead to me.

From the people who claim to be the tolerant party.

I have a suggestion to you whack jobs...

[SVPete]

From the people who claim to be the tolerant party.

I have a suggestion to you whack jobs...

! That is the definitive perfect response!

[Old n Grumpy]

Mon Jul 3, 2017, 11:42 PM
fallout87 (38 posts)

Just found out my relatives voted for Trump


What do I do? I had not really engaged them before on politics, so I had no idea. I never would have guessed that they voted for the bafoon. They were democrats before and were complaining about Hillary and her email server, blah blah blah...Were angry about the supposed 33k deleted emails.... Also said that their main focus was the economy and jobs and they think Trump was the person to fix that..... What do i do? I'm seriously considering cutting them off. They are my cousins but I seriously don't know if I can be around them anymore....

It is simple, change your name and move far away, tell them if they try to find or contact you you will have them arrested.

These people are having a who's dick is bigger contest with out the dick. They are just trying to out do each other to show how totally loyal they are to their party. These are the same type of people who "just were following orders" at the concentration camps during WW2.

They are pathetic little roaches.

[Ralph Wiggum]

That whole thread had to be a street cred & molefest.  So, Ralphie salutes you!

[freedumb2003b]

Mon Jul 3, 2017, 11:50 PM
Throck (209 posts)
5. Take them out of your will too.

I am pretty sure not inheriting a couple of used bongs and some cat-hair covered garage sale furniture won't bother them very much.

[YupItsMe]

I am pretty sure not inheriting a couple of used bongs and some cat-hair covered garage sale furniture won't bother them very much.

        I knew someone would beat me to it.  I almost laughed out loud at work when i read that one. More than likely the relatives would be stuck with funeral costs and existing debt.   

[Old n Grumpy]

        I knew someone would beat me to it.  I almost laughed out loud at work when i read that one. More than likely the relatives would be stuck with funeral costs and existing debt.

And be stuck with an old, sick, overweight dog named Yoshi.

[Ralph Wiggum]

And be stuck with an old, sick, overweight dog named Yoshi.

Or an overweight cat named Weed.

[Movie buff- The Sequel]

Typical bigotry and narrow- mindedness from the "Party of tolerance." Severing decades- long friendships over politics ensures that the DUmmies will be even more lonely and miserable than they already are, which is saying something.

BTW, sounds like pagan GF may be changing her life, very much for the better if that '"Christian" church' really is Christian (which I suspect it is, given LK's use of "scare quotes", ).

My sentiments exactly! Maybe someday I'll see her in Heaven and she'll talk about how happy she is both to have turned from paganism to embrace Christ, and to have lost her toxic friendship with that DUmmy.
Oh, and Old n Grumpy, I don't think they're having a "Who's dick is bigger contest without the dick"; Considering the way they're talking about their former loved ones, I'd say it's more like they're having a "Who IS the biggest dick" contest!

[Old n Grumpy]

Typical bigotry and narrow- mindedness from the "Party of tolerance." Severing decades- long friendships over politics ensures that the DUmmies will be even more lonely and miserable than they already are, which is saying something.
My sentiments exactly! Maybe someday I'll see her in Heaven and she'll talk about how happy she is both to have turned from paganism to embrace Christ, and to have lost her toxic friendship with that DUmmy.
Oh, and Old n Grumpy, I don't think they're having a "Who's dick is bigger contest without the dick"; Considering the way they're talking about their former loved ones, I'd say it's more like they're having a "Who IS the biggest dick" contest!

"Who IS the biggest dick" Bingo!!! You got it right!

[FiddyBeowulf]

Tue Jul 4, 2017, 12:10 AM
Foamfollower (691 posts)
16. I cut off every family member who voted for Trump completely

I refuse to see, speak with, or have any sort of contact with all members of my family who voted for Trump.

It is as if they are dead to me.

DUmmies, they make holding one's breath and stamping one's feet the mature option on how handle this kind of issue...

[FunkyZero]

Translation:

Everyone told me Trump voters / Republicans were evil bastards who wanted women and children to die. But I LIKE these people, they are good people. But they voted for Trump! I'm confused, how to I hammer this square peg into the round hole? It HAS to fit, or I will go into a divide by zero loop. HELP!

[Wineslob]

Wouldn't it be interesting if the entire family was been "tolerant"of your Liberal rantings for the last xxx years, but now you decide in your tolerant Liberal mind to cut them off.
They are probably relieved.