I think the big guy's practicing wife abuse, and needs to be called out on it.
Marta, although no spring chicken, isn't a hopeless case; as a widow she'd probably be a reasonably good catch for some guy with modest expectations.
But she's not getting any younger; with each passing day her chances of nabbing a second husband diminish a little bit.
The big guy promised us a very long time that he's terminal, bound to die soon.
Every day he puts off dying, he denies poor dear Marta a chance to get someone better.
Talk about being selfish. And in theory, she's his beloved.
I have a theory on why I think the Big Guy is still with us.
So we both know how much him and poor, suffering Marta are into ghostology and queer things with graveyards. Clearly, the big guy believes in something on the other side- although it's hard to reconcile his actions on this side of the veil with what he claims to believe exists on the other side.
Anyways, I think big fat Steve, is worried about that whole trying to pass into that great beyond: the light-filled tunnel. And, I mean pass in a literal way. Steve would be just too big, even in spectral form, to be able to successfully make the migration into the great beyond. He'd get stuck in the opening to the tunnel, hang his spectral head, and be doomed to drift the earth until the end of time here. Instead of Jacob Marley's chains full of money, Steve would be sentenced to walk the earth with the turds and the condoms and all the other offal he failed to scoop up from his catbird seat at the sewage facility. He might even have his catbird seat poking stick with him, too.
The downside for him would be that he'd probably lurk around poor, suffering Marta and see how good her second husband treats her, and not be able to do a thing about it now.